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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

I have a feeling that my bf is gay! Appreciate your thoughts...

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4761 days ago

8 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend and I are finally dating after knowing each other for 8 years. We had a bit of a blurred relationship in the past where we were having sex but not officially together. We were both to blame. He says it was due to his social anxiety issues and not being confidant in ... (397 words)

I'm concerned that my b/f is in denial about being gay

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4761 days ago

8 December 2011 (F)

If someone in my family is depressed, am I liable to get depressed too?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

8 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm not sure if this is a stupid Question to ask and if it's the right site to ask it on but I'm scared of becoming depressed. The tone in my house has gone down a notch since my sister has got herself into some trouble and has brought my mother Ito the situation also, ... (155 words)

I thought he was the one, but he wants to go slowly and now I am just closing down

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4726 days ago

8 December 2011 (?) age 51-59 - I see my man once a week, and because of his schedule, I allow him to make that date. Only once a week. We get along very well. But I miss him and have told him. I've asked for more time together, just maybe one more night a week. However, in my asking, I did become a bit de... (460 words)

I can't deceipher what my girlfriend's text message meant?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4761 days ago

8 December 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - In General I have always felt that text messaging is a poor way to have any serious communication, but recently it has gone from misunderstandings to causing conflicts. Because of this I am looking for a 3rd party(s) opinion on what one would imply, from a text message, that ... (239 words)

FWB--I do not want to cut him out but he's hurting me with what he says

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

8 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - ive been in an exclusive fwb relationship for the past six months. I have a lot of history with this guy and I really do not know what to do. It started about just over a year ago. We had mutual friends and ranodmly hooked up, both of us just getting out of serious r... (699 words)

I think we liked each other, nothing came of it, should we try again?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4759 days ago

8 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I met this guy through my friend. She used to take me along to band practice with her sometimes, and I met him there. The first time I went we didn't really speak much. He's a quiet person, but he was happy to reciprocate when I tried to talk to him. I caught him staring ... (394 words)

Is friendship a good idea if you are in love with an old ex who doesn`t know you are into him and just started a new relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4762 days ago

8 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - my ex and I are friends. our break up is nearly 2 and a half year ago. we were friends when I was with his best friend (we broke up nearly 2 montgs ago now I am single) and still we are friends although he started a relationship recently. OK when I was with this other guy my ex ... (411 words)

I want to be friends and unsure if I should message this lady again?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4759 days ago

8 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I am just wanting some advice from some agony aunts and uncles out there. I have started a new job in a new town recently and have slowly started to make friends. I am a shy person and dont have that many close friends anyway. The problem is that we have closed for a couple of ... (151 words)

I am pregnant but don't want to tell date I've met online

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4530 days ago

8 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - ive been speaking to this guy who i meet on plent of fish for over a year now and never meet untill 2 weeks ago and have met twice now we get on really well over txt phone and in person, but the thing is he told me he wants to be with me and would like to move in wi... (168 words)

I think I love my FWB but he doesn't care

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

8 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - ok, so this friend and i have been doin this friends with benifits thing since the break up the first time! but hes tarted to get close with an ex of his but he said it most likly wont work. well shortly after that we got back together and it only lasted a week but we were ... (215 words)

He has cut me out of his life but he was the liar!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4761 days ago

8 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - im sure theres something wrong with me because this keeps playing on my mind and i cant shake it off. i was very good friends with a guy until i discovered he had been lying to me since day 1 -found out through various means and i was very hurt as i really trusted him, helped ... (186 words)

Is she interested in getting back together?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

8 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - So me and my ex broke up with me almost 2 months ago. We live together and still live together. She broke up with me for some reasons she wasnt clear on. She wasnt having a relationship with another guy though. She has alot going on, between school, work, family problems, ... (719 words)

Work Christmas party and I'm panicking!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4761 days ago

8 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - hiya so i have my work christams-do coming up 2weeks friday and basicly i dont wanna go, theres only six of them going and one is related to me, im not realy a drinker and im told ther all bringing ther other halfs and boss brings his whole family, i hate crowded spaces i am ... (183 words)

My ex wanted someone with direction and a plan. We broke up but I am working on it. Will she consider that?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4762 days ago

8 December 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Hello, So, I'm writing from a guy's point of view, but more for a need for perspective than anything else. So you see, I was dating a girl with a pretty similar personality. Motivated by work, has a high paying job and though open minded, comes from a background where... (1566 words)

Crush doesn't notice me and if I dump boyfriend everyone will hate me!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4762 days ago

8 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - well i have a crush on someone who barely even notices me even worse ive got a boyfriend and i feel like i cant dump him cause every one will hate me so what should do????? ... (38 words)

Can braces cause trouble with oral?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4761 days ago

8 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - my boyfriend recently got braces, and i've heard horror stories that if a guy gives a girl oral,things can get caught.. Is it still ok to let my boyf give me oral?... (32 words)

Can you use ordinary lube with non-latex condoms?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4761 days ago

8 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Quick question: can you use ordinary lube with polyurethane condoms? As in non-latex ones? Because all the lubes I've seen have "suitable for use with latex condoms" (or words to that effect) written on the back. Does that mean there different lubes for non-latex condoms then? ... (57 words)

I married him but now I feel trapped. What do I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

8 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - At first I thought he was a nice and generous guy.. He paid for the restaurant meals.. paid some of the bills.. I was happy then..so I thought I love him..I decided to have a baby with him.. and then we got married,=. But now that we're married, he's always complaining about ... (310 words)

Would my ex of 4 years feel badly about being with a new guy?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4761 days ago

8 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I've just been out of a four year long relationship with a girl who's been really very close to me. Its been some time after our break up, but our relationship was very intimate and we went as far as foreplay. We're just in our twenties. She's been shy girl outside, but whe... (132 words)

What did their boys joke mean?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4762 days ago

8 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I was talking with some friends (some girls some boys) and I mention how I had many bruises from sports. Boys just laughed and asked where on my body. I told on my legs and they say they were thinking elsewhere. I ask what they ment and they say it was a boys dirty joke. Can ... (63 words)

Why do I get the worst of my boyfriend and everyone else get the best?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

8 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi everyone, my boyfriend acts so different with me. My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 years. I've noticed that he has changed with me. he used to be funny, eloquent, loving in the past two years everything changed. He acts like im just another seat in our house. ... (193 words)

Is it a good idea to hook up with someone from 21 years ago?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

8 December 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - Tell me is it a good idea to hook up with some one you cared about 21 years ago? Not an ex no break up but some one you had a great week with in 19991. How come the care is still there? am i seeking something, do not need any thing additional, happily married, great kids, ... (158 words)

Do girls think about their ex's penis

This question has 19 answers - newest was posted 2993 days ago

8 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I was wondering if girls think about the size of their ex's penis. My girlfriend made it a point to tell me the sizes of her ex and it hurt my self esteem because i'm just average. And she sounded like she was gloating for them. For me and guys I asked, we don't remember ... (115 words)

My girlfriend is becoming too whimsy for me to bear!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4761 days ago

8 December 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - My girlfriend is whimsy. She goes to great length of persecution to have things done her way, for no visible reason... She does not answer without a reason, she throws tantrums about me not loving her out of nowhere, and if I get mad after taking it for a while (and I'm pati... (172 words)

Met a new friend but she hasn't phoned me should I pursue things?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4761 days ago

8 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - im a gay woman in my 30s who has a g.friend but am looking to make friends who are also gay in my area of hampshire. thing is tho how? also one of my mates who is gay took me to her friends flat who is gay and we got on well, her mate walked me home. she knows i got a girlfrie... (245 words)

Should I believe in signs?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

8 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - twice or thrice while praying i asked God to give me signs and gave him some random conditions like when a coin drops in front of me (w/c happened and actually it was coinsssss) and the other one is when a food, whatever food drops in front of me (w/c also happened). That's w... (195 words)

Boyfriend's issues about his life are really taking a toll on our relationship and me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

8 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - So this is kind of a long story... My boyfriend and I have had a pretty great relationship, up until about a week ago. We met last April. He told me he had broken up with his last girlfriend almost a year ago. She did cause some issues because she had been evicted from her... (691 words)

He's so clingy that it's getting irritating

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

8 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - There's a guy that I've met who is really nice and I enjoy spending my time with. We have the same interests and he's great to be around. BUT I'm starting to feel that he's very clingy. If we are alone he kisses me which I don't mind but he never takes his hands off me! And I ... (160 words)

Love the affection but could do without the sex

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4761 days ago

8 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I see my boyfriend every 3 or 4 weeks because he works in a different city. usually just for a weekend. I love him and he's wonderful, but I don't like sex but I love affection,hugs,kisses. We're going on holiday for 2 weeks together and I'm looking forward to the sightseeing ... (116 words)

What's is going on with my girlfriend??

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

8 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Ok, I am BEGGING you guys for help here. I've been with my gf for 4 years. We got together when she was 14 and I was 17. I was her first, but she wasn't mine. We had good and bad times like every teenage couple etc etc She came to my college this year and joined up in a club. ... (423 words)

Pill question?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

8 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, I've tried finding out about this but nowhere seems to give me a concrete answer so thought I'd ask here! I take the contraceptive pill, I finished my pack on Sunday so this week is meant to be my period. Problem is, I'm meant to be staying over someone’s house on Friday, ... (92 words)

Jealous of my bf's female colleague... thinking of breaking up with bf! Help!

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4754 days ago

8 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - i have been with my bf for 3 yrs and we love each other. i am sure he will not cheat on me, but there are other times that i felt offended or hurt unintentionally. specifically, there's this one female coworker that i am very jealous of. she hitched a ride with my bf twice this ... (443 words)

Please help me to find a solution for a boy with kidney failure!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

8 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear All. I am seeking advice from all please? I am trying to help a family in Zimbabwe who have a son that has kidney failure. He has to travel 4 hours to the capital city in Zimbabwe twice a week (4 hours there and 4 hours back) in order to get dialysis. Please please..... (100 words)

I started the relationship for all the wrong reasons and now I am not sure how to go on! help!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

8 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been with this guy for 2 years, he's divorced 2 kids. I did not want to date divorced guys with baggage but I couldn't seem to be getting anywhere fast so I went out with him after meeting via internet dating which I started because I hadn't been on a date for such a ... (188 words)

Should I approach my brothers wife... she hates me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4740 days ago

8 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi ok i live with my brother and his wife but i have this feeling that she doesn't like me,the first time we starting living together she acted as if she likes me but a week later she had a fight with my brother and she was like im the reason why things are not working between ... (101 words)

My husband left me for a younger woman. Is this Karma?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

8 December 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - How do I repent for all the hearts and minds that I toyed with and crushed? I never knew what it felt like to be crushed because I was always the one doing the crushing and not giving crap about how I left my victims broken and damaged. I left my husband for other men and wo... (183 words)

My girlfriend is buying me an expensive Christmas gift. I am not sure how to reciprocate!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

8 December 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - My girlfriend is incredibly sweet and generous; I love her. It turns out that she asked my family some gift related questions and that she is buying me an expensive gift (maybe $200?!) for either my December birthday or Christmas. When my family learned that I had a $50 ... (274 words)

What should I say to a cute contractor? He flirts with me but what should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4762 days ago

8 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - We get these guys from an agency when work is busy. They can last anywhere from one day to alot more. There was this really cute guy today. He needed help with something and I helped him. He appeared to flirt with me later on. The problem is what do I say? What should I do? We ... (83 words)

Boundaries: necessary but getting pushed - help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

8 December 2011 (?) age 26-29 - Hiya Agony Aunts and Uncles, I have a query for you experienced folks, beyond your teen years. I'm turning sixteen in a matter of days, and my boyfriend will turn seventeen in less than a month, we've been dating for sixth months, but we fell for each other last summer, but due ... (886 words)

What do you do when drugs come into play within your marriage?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

8 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Dear cupid what do you do when drugs come into play with your marriage ? i have recently found out that my husband has been getting high while away at work with his crew mates they all seem to be doing it and act like its no big deal . But when your 5 months pregnant like me ... (606 words)

Help me to deal with my bi-polar boyfriend before things get worse?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4762 days ago

8 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So I've been dating this guy for 5 months, and even though some will say its too soon, im in love! I believe in love at first sight and thats kind of how i would describe it. We spend alot of time together, and when we feel that we are spending to much time together we go a few ... (241 words)

My boyfriend drinks all the time but I am scared to talk to him about it. What should I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4749 days ago

8 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Every single day I text my boyfriend all that comes out of his mouth.. "I am high." Or... "I am drunk." And I hate it.. I want to tell him, "Don't talk to me until your sober, and if you don't stop I won't see you anymore." But I don't want to say that and be a jerk you know.. ... (272 words)

Dating online and he was dishonest. What should I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

8 December 2011 (F)

age - hi, so im having a hard time in know what to do in my relationship.. I met this guy on a credible website that he had been on for a few years before i ever joined. lets just say it was a military website...three years later we had taken our relationship farther and had planned ... (208 words)

What should I say if she calls? title Lesbian LDR of 5 years.. Has she moved on?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4756 days ago

8 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I flew interstate at the end of August. A and I had been doing bad for some time and it had been 8 months since we saw each other last. In fact during those 8 months we had a break up that lasted 2 months. A came here for Christmas and stayed for 11 days. It went well as usua... (1671 words)

I want my husband to be enamored with me like he was before..

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4763 days ago

8 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - So...my husband and i SEEM to be good. It is just beyond frustrating at times. I can say for sure, i want sex more than he does. Is it just a hormonal thing, is it more? We're 28, happily married i think. I just want him to be enamored with me like he was before. I've even ... (80 words)

How can I approach my mom about staying over with my boyfriend?

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8 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone, I need help with a moral issue. I'm headed home from college for winter break tomorrow, and I'm trying to figure out how to discuss something with my mom. I'll be home for over 6 weeks, and I was hoping to head to NYC to spend s few days with my boyfriend (he live... (133 words)

Do I sound like I have a personality issue? Or anxiety issues? Or something else? What should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

8 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Just wondering whether people can offer some perspective with whether I should seek help for this or just accept that it's part of me, and work on some things myself. I'm just scared it will affect my relationship with my boyfriend most, since I adore him.. I'm not sure w... (566 words)

I told him he was the one. He said he was speechless.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4760 days ago

8 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I told him I think he's the one tonight by text and all he said was that he was genuinely speechless. What's does that mean? Does he not feel the same? How can I rell? I feel hurt for some reason. We have been together for 8 months... (48 words)

Big change since I met the online guy in person

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

8 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I met this guy online about three months ago. Our conversations were always super silly and dumb. We never really talked about anything serious like how our days went or stuff like that. His phone service sucks and there's usually always a delay in text messages, sometimes I ... (206 words)