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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

After four years I want something more serious

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4737 days ago

1 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi, Please can someone give me some advice. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 and a half years, we enjoy each others company and love each other so much. The problem is that im starting to think about the future id like to live with him, and maybe think about st... (169 words)

I gave him his freedom but now I want him back

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4737 days ago

1 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I was recently seeing someone that I loved so much. He was also "my first". I found out he had some other girl he was attracted to but couldn't get anything real started with her because we were still together. Soooo... I kinda told him I wanted him to be happy, even if it me... (82 words)

How do I reassure myself of his intentions without coming across as clingy?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4736 days ago

1 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I have recently started seeing a guy who I am beginning to have feelings for however from the little i have heard of his past he is a bit of a player. he is a good looking guy and knows it loves the attention. We been seeing each other for past few weeks and agreed we seeing e... (183 words)

HELP Should I take my Husband of 30 years back,after he cheated 8 years ago.

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4736 days ago

1 December 2011 (F)

age - Hi should I forgive my Husband of 30 yrs. I found out last year that he had a 2yr affair with a woman he did a job for .This happened 8 yrs since when we were going though a really bad patch, I still carnt get over it and its been a year since i found out hes done everything to ... (287 words)

This relationship seems so one sided

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4737 days ago

1 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - im 18 and my boyfriend of almost 6 months is also 18. well we have our ups and downs just like every couple. but latey we've been arguing a lot more. and well im trying to change myself to make things better but things still dont seem to get better. but this guy is somethin... (289 words)

They all lied to me. How do I get over this anger and rage I have inside of me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4738 days ago

1 December 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Ok its been a while since I have posted on here. I had an ex girlfreind who I broke up with. This is because one of her male friends, who I knew and trusted very well. who also happened to be my friend, was getting too close. It bothered me. So I told her. I knew he like... (563 words)

Am I over-reacting? My friends still don't trust her. She does still occasionally act weird and that bothers me

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4736 days ago

1 December 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - There's this girl who i'm interested in. A few years ago she was totally crazy, like insane doing weird stuff and trying to fight other girls about me. I couldnt stand her then and did everything I could to make her go away. then we both switched schools and talked in a friend... (139 words)

I am his finacee. So why is he saying we are still "dating"? Shouldn't he see our relationship as more than "dating" now?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4738 days ago

1 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi~ I have a question... when my "fiance" told me we are still dating is that consider the normal term to say?? since our relationship has committed to each other and going to get married I kind confused.... ... (44 words)

If I make the first move but then find he doesn't like me, will it freak him out?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4738 days ago

1 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - So there's this guy I REALLY like. He's only one month older than me, he's really sweet, smart, VERY funny, and he's country. I feel like we were made for each other. Were SO much alike. We always joke around and play holding hands in class and I think he might like me back. I ... (104 words)

Does anyone have any suggestions on how to make sex without condoms easier?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4735 days ago

1 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - My boyfriend has quite a tight foreskin. It split once, and we had to abstain from sex (and he had to abstain from masturbation) for around 12 days whilst it healed. He's always complained that sex without a condom (I'm on the pill and we're both STD-free. No lectures please!)... (226 words)

Can my ex be my confidante?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4738 days ago

1 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My ex-boyfriend is amazing. I know it sounds weird since he's my ex, but that's it's own story. Anyway, I've been going through some incredibly tough times lately, and I really need someone close by to talk to. I can't handle everything alone. And all my closest friends live ... (159 words)

Does he like me or did our date put him off?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4737 days ago

1 December 2011 (F)

- [Mod note: could you please add your age and his in a followup? That will help you get age-appropriate advice. Thank you.] I met this great guy through a friend. We met at my friends birthday party, swapped numbers and have been texting every day for a month. He seemed to real... (340 words)

I want to let him know that I'll be thinking of him, should I write this short story?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4738 days ago

1 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - i posted earlier about this situation between this guy and I. So my next question... We've been kind of shaky since September, but I really do care a lot about this guy. At this point, I'm not afraid to put myself out there. I want this guy to know exactly how much i c... (276 words)

I need him to stand up for me! Please help!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4738 days ago

1 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Please help me!! I have been dating a man for 2 years now who I adore and would do anything for. We have been living together for the last 6 months or so but the problem is that his mom and grandma hate me and make our lives hell, (the rest of the family adore me) He does ... (318 words)

Would it be better to not get married and disappoint our families?

This question has 24 answers - newest was posted 4734 days ago

1 December 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I am due to get married in three months. For the past two years I have been catching my soon to be wife in darting chat rooms. She has been clumsy and left things around,including guys phone numbers. I have never been able to get past this as she just retaliates with my ... (136 words)

Why doesn't he want me the way I want him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4738 days ago

1 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - For the last six months or so, I have been really aroused because of my husband. Not that I wasn't before, but lately he's just all I can think about, and I can't wait to rip his clothes off. Here is my problem, whenever I try to start something with him, he says he's not in ... (78 words)

My mom and dad are hurting me with their actions without realising it!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4738 days ago

1 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I don't know how to get rid of all these negative thoughts about my parents. I keep haveing emotional outbursts and getting angry. My sister and my dad fell out three years ago and made up at the start of the year. He could not be their for me enough when my sister his favri... (466 words)

I gave him a taste of his own medicine and we've ended it but it still bothers me!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4737 days ago

1 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello, i need a little advice. Urrm where to start, so quite a few months back a new boy moved to my school, i had known him from being a baby, his family knew mine they are friends. So a few days before he moved i spoke to his mum on facebook and made sure he was okay and if ... (671 words)

Am I being self-centered and uncaring by refusing to listen to my wife complain constantly?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4736 days ago

1 December 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - My wife is from another (very poor) country, and her family is still in the other country (in addition to her parents, she 5 brothers and sister). Her family constantly asks her for financial support, and she's helped them out quite a bit over the past 15 years or so that... (484 words)

Will not getting him a huge gift make him hate me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4738 days ago

1 December 2011 (?) age 30-35 - I am freaking out over my boyfriend's Christmas gift. He works and I don't (I'm looking for a job though!) and I have some ideas - a video game he's wanted for a long time but never got around to buying it, a good webcamera for his computer because he doesn't have one and ... (170 words)

He's gone from callimg me "hot and sexy" to "beautiful and gorgeous," does it mean anything?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4737 days ago

1 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi Guys, I realise this isn't a serious thing and it isn't a problem, I am just wondering and don't have anyone I can ask. Thanks for your responses in advance. I have been seeing a guy for a while now, he was my friend before hand and he has always referred to me as bei... (127 words)

What is with men being attracted to teenagers?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4714 days ago

1 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I've seen a few questions on here about this. Guys if you're in your twenties why don't you want to date someone your own age? Why do you want to be with someone who hasnt even finished school? Is it because it's forbidden?... (43 words)

He said he might like me if he happens to see me again.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4737 days ago

1 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - This guy added me on facebook I had seen him out a couple of times but never spoken to him I knew of one of his friends. To cut a long story short we swapped numbers and had been texting for months. He wanted to know when I would be out again so that he could see me but ... (305 words)

What should I do? I want him back!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4738 days ago

1 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - nearly 2 months ago andy and i broke up. during this relationship i was always friends with my ex max, who was my first big love (this break up is 2 and a half years ago we were 16 and stupid and made a lot of mistakes. after the break up he fell in love with sophie but she ... (424 words)

"Momma's boy" - attractive or not to women?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4737 days ago

1 December 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Want to get some feedback from women here... I grew up without a father so my mother had to be both parents in a way. As a result, I've always been a "Momma's boy". She's not protective or invasive in my personal life we just have a very solid and close relationship however I'm ... (116 words)

I always thought love should feel like you are falling in love again every day but I realised thats not possible, now I'm worried I have ruined my relationship because of this....

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4737 days ago

1 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I think I'm addicted to the feeling of falling in love, the one that's not supposed to last. I always pictured my dream relationship to be like I'm falling in love with the person all over again every day for the rest of my life. But now I see that that's not how it's supposed ... (233 words)

Went through his phone. Not sure what to make of findings

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4734 days ago

1 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Huge problem. I went through my boyfriend's phone almost a year ago, found nothing, but he got really pissed and I promised never to again. But I did tonight. And I'm freaking out a little because his friend (a girl) texted him saying if she didn't text him back, it's because ... (239 words)

I was lied to about my husband and now I don't think I love him

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4735 days ago

1 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - hi .... dear all .... i desperately need soem advice......... I am 29 years old married since 1 year 4 months.... i feel i have lost that love for my husband from the first few month itself.......because from the very first month i found the man changed what i thought he was a... (1455 words)

Do not connect to new husband..

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4738 days ago

1 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I am in love with my boss who is married and loves me too. I recently married a guy as per my parents wishes knowingly he is not my type but didnt had any options. I cannot leave the job because it pays me well with other benefits and has ample growth opportunities. I just don... (89 words)

I feel unworthy to be with anyone!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4738 days ago

1 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - i feel unworthy or incompatible for any lady i meet. alone and down but too scared to show my face in public cuz i feel like an ugly outkast. i have friends. and my family is supportive. but i have no comfidence in myself. advice is much needed.... (48 words)

How do I let my SO know I don't want a relationship?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4738 days ago

1 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - How do I let my significant other know that I don't want a relationship? He has told me that he is a manipulative bastard, emotionally dead and not good enough for me. I can't see anything completely wrong with him now, he has told me that he loves me and I love him. I just ... (112 words)

Why would a guy throw it all away for a random one night hook up?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4737 days ago

1 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - This may be a brad question, but it just doesn't make sense to me why a guy would cheat on a good girl that hes been with for a few years. I was absolutely good to him. Im as sincere as they get. Im honestly the type of girlfriend most guys are looking for. I cared for him, ... (134 words)

Law-school girl drama-Llama!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4738 days ago

1 December 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I'm 28 and have been studying with a 21 yr. old girl in law school. She started slacking a bit and I told her to shape up or I wouldn't study anymore. She said I shouldn't be so abrasive right b/f finals week. We were supposed to study together last night but she never called ... (136 words)

Ex is she just playing games please help??

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4734 days ago

1 December 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - ok i need some help please ok so i know this girl for about 8/9 years and we fancyd eachother back then but i was with some 1 and so was she so we went down are own parths. Not so long ago i met up with her at a friends house for a BBQ we hit it off as soon as we layed e... (1757 words)

I had sex with a friend and now he won't talk to me

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4738 days ago

1 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - About a week and a half ago I went to a good friend of mine's house, there was a party, and at the end of the night we ended up having sex. Now, I've known him for a few months now, and we were just good friends (we had cuddled a few times perviously, but nothing more.) We work ... (212 words)

If he really loved me then why did he cheat?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4738 days ago

1 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - i can't even begin to figure this out, so i need to talk to someone. this guy and i were in love, and after a while he cheated. he didn't tell me until a few months after. i didn't want to talk to him, so we didn't talk for a few months. (he wanted me to forgive him without ... (236 words)

How do I help my girl friend?. We're loyal and faithful to each other. But in the past she was promiscuous and was sexually abused

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4738 days ago

1 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm 26 Male. She is 24 Female. Dated for 9 months. She's been with 18 men and has had a very promiscuous past. She told me she had been wild, but I had no idea how wild. She admitted to dating someone when she started talking to me, but I blame myself for that. We never d... (236 words)

Has anyone had any problems with taking the morning after pill (norlevo) ?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4738 days ago

1 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Anyone have any problems from taking the morning after pill.. {NorLevo}.. Do you think its ok to take this medication in a emergency? ... (23 words)

She's 17. Do I keep in touch? Keep talking, or let her be until she is older?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4738 days ago

1 December 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - So im in college which is new to me after leaving the military and there is a girl in one of my classes who i absolutely enjoy talking to and she tells me she loves hanging out as well. she parks her car near mine most of the time so that we end up walking out together to the ... (239 words)

How do I tell my friend to ditch her boyfriend?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4738 days ago

1 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My best friend always comes to me for advice on her relationship. Her boyfriend does not treat her right. He texts other girls and while they were on a "break" he slept with his ex. I hear her talk on the phone with him and she says I love you but he never replies. She will ask ... (113 words)

He wants to try more sexual "fun" with me in public. I prefer sexual contact to be in private. How can I explain this to him? .

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4738 days ago

1 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm having a huge problem with my self esteem.. My boyfriend has stated that he is sexually unhappy with me because I'm more reserved then the girls he was with before me. He has said that he wishes that we could have "fun" together in public, i.e groping and such. I'm re... (117 words)

Boyfriend hasn't been too interested in sex, only when he wants to when is not often.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4738 days ago

1 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi i'm a 18 year old girl and I have been with my boyfriend for just over 8 months now. We have always had sex almost everyday sometimes twice, but for the past few weeks his making up excuses everytime i want to have sex with him? like i'm too tired or some other lame excuse. ... (122 words)

I'm afraid to make the 1st move because I've never done that before

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4738 days ago

1 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello Everyone I need some advice on a stiuation I am, many of you guys now but here is a recap. At my work there is a customer at my work an older guy (maybe 7-8 years older) who I am really attracted to. He always comes shopping frequently every week and we always have small ... (213 words)

How can I best move a flirtatious friendship into a solid relationship without seeming needy?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4738 days ago

1 December 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - first i would like to say thanks for reading this. second, i have a bit of an issue. i have a fair amount of girls in my life right now which im happy with, but ive been single for a while now and want something that's meaningful. how can i best move a flirtatious friendship ... (62 words)

Is my friend crushing on me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4738 days ago

1 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - hello there. Well I have this problem. This girl was my best friend throughout elementary school. At middle school we drifted apart and had separate sets of friends. My class changed and now I'm with her. She's really popular and has a huge amount of friends. Well...t... (155 words)

Am I freaking out by thinking the worst?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4724 days ago

1 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So I've been seeing this guy for a while. We aren't "boyfriend and girlfriend", so to speak, but we talked abut moving on to that stage. He travels a lot for work and doesn't own his own cellphone (in this day and age... I know). when we met and started seeing each other he was ... (235 words)