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*mily Ophelia
writes:Hey everyone,a new one from me... I'm in my third semester at University and I'm leading a Tutorium (kind of an extra class) for a lecture. Obviously, I'm a student and it's about students of older semesters helping the ones who just started. Anyway, I'm not in love with the job or something but I suspect that I might be developing a crush on a guy who I am tutoring. Legally speaking it is not problem at all but I have no clue wether I should act on it or not.We had a little Christmas Party which he also attended and we talked for quite some time (we both are becoming a teacher and both our second subjects are philosophy), and sort of hit if of but as I said: no clue at all what I should do now... Any ideas? I'd be super-grateful!! Thanks =)
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reader, Emily Ophelia +, writes (2 January 2012):
Emily Ophelia is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much you two! I'll be seeing him on wednesday- update promised, if there is anything to tell... =)
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (2 January 2012):
 Your welcome :)The best thing to find out if you both have anything in common is by asking him questions geared towards your interests.If he also asks you things back (shows his interest), see if you both have the same sense of humour, likes or dislikes simply by observing him or asking him the right questions.Time will tell if MAKING A MOVE WITH HIM is THE RIGHT CHOICE.Goodluck!
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (2 January 2012):
 The best way to approach him is to talk about your common interests, and find out if there is an event related to that interest. Then let him know that you plan on attending that event and ask him if he would like to come along.
This removes the pressures of it being a "date" or facing rejection for you. You are not "asking him out", you are inviting him along to an event you are already planning to go too.
For example, lets says a museum/theatre show is doing a feature on a philosopher you both know. Talk about it, and mention that you would like to go and are planning too, and ask if he would like to attend with you.
But first, make sure that you will not get into any trouble with the admin.
-Frank
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reader, Emily Ophelia +, writes (1 January 2012):
Emily Ophelia is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey Frank,
thanks for your answer! And no, there aren't any regulations. So this is not my problem. It's more like... how could I approach him? Even if I wait till the semester is over (which is the case in about 4 weeks) I have no clue how.
Starlights, I just wanted to thank you for your encouraging answer =)!
Happy new year to all of you!
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reader, Frank B Kermit +, writes (1 January 2012):
How long will he be a student of yours, and are there any regulations that the university has about teachers (including tutors) getting involved with the students?
If the university has employed you for this position, you may have to wait until he is no longer a student of yours. Esp if you have any influence on his grading.
-Frank
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reader, Starlights +, writes (31 December 2011):
Get to know him.
Your both of similar age and likes... so get to know how he is like. Get to know him better. See if your compatible. See if he feels the same.
These are processes you need to go through before making a decision and it wont happen overnight it will take time to know if its the RIGHT thing to do.
Good luck!
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