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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Newly wed, no sex and we argue! What can I do?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

22 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - My husband and I got married about 2 months ago after being together for nearly 5 years (living together for over 3 of those). We have always had great chemistry (really, no complaints in the bedroom), and while we have had our ups and downs like everyone, we generally got ... (809 words)

I feel people are killing me with their judgment, advice please!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4715 days ago

22 December 2011 (F) age 41-50 - I'm really frustrated, how come people do believe in the power of prayer, or manifesting things from the universe, or many other miracles, any supernatural events, but they refuse 100%, of the possibility of curse? If there are blessings , there are also curses. And there is ... (212 words)

We agreed to meet up for birthday sex and she ended up going all the way with some random 20 year old

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4706 days ago

22 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - ok, so i have been going out with this girl for 5 months.im a 17 yr old boy she is a stunning 16 year old :) i met her before the summer and i asked her out. she said ok but i had to go to france for a month. after i got back we had sex and it was great. she was getting drives ... (330 words)

I thought I would be a sex goddess by now but I haven't even been kissed!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4716 days ago

22 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hello! I have 16 years old and im about to have 17 next month, January! When i was 13 i made a promise to myself and to my closest friend that at 16 i would loose my virginity. However i have 16 years old now and there is only one month left for me to have 17 and i never ha... (241 words)

Am I a sex addict?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4716 days ago

22 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi! I´m a 16 year old girl (and Im going to make 17 years next month, january) and lately I have been wondering why do i think at every second about sex. At the beginning, when i started to noticed it I thought that thinking about sex all the time was normal but now, i think... (149 words)

He contacts me to cheat on his girlfriend (while he's drunk) and when I ask for an explanation, he won't give one!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4716 days ago

22 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Okay.. So i had a thing with this boy, a while ago, but it ended. Now everytime he has a girlfriend or things end with his latest one he contacts me again, and its hard cause i still have feelings for him. Anyway he recently contacted me (drunk) asking me to cheat with him sayi... (112 words)

I would give up the guy I'm seeing for my ex... but what does he want?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

22 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey guys i need some advice... ive been with my current partner for the last 7 months and he is amazing... hes so kind, lovely, caring everything i always thought i wanted in a man, but i realise that there is something as to nice... however after having it, i dont think i want ... (334 words)

He's a nice guy and a friend. How can I hint to him that I'm not interested in him in that way?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4712 days ago

22 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - There is this guy and I think he likes me? We have a been inboxing and talking, but I realised that he would inbox me everyday and if I don't reply in time he would inbox again asking a question. Obviously I answer because it is the nicest thing to do, but I don't want to give... (130 words)

What are your weight advice tips for the new year?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

22 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Basically, for my new years revolution i want to lose some weight. I am overweight not majorly but yeah i would like to lose abit of weight. I am just over 11 stone (72 lbs) i am a size 12 to 14 ( european sizes) i am a 14 year old female and i am... (229 words)

Am I justified in feeling insulted by his behavior towards me over his 'present?' to me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4709 days ago

22 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend and I (relationship of 6yrs) dont do presents however today he bought a present for his son's Gf (live-in rent-free gf) a ok Body shop set n some loose items. In jest I asked if he had anything for me and he took one of the items .wrapped it and gave it to me!!... (113 words)

How do I resolve that my ex is on my mind and we talk daily but I also like this guy at work? I think I love both.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4716 days ago

22 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I think I am in love with 2 people. S and M. What should I do? S is my ex-partner of nearly 6 years. We split up 2 months ago and it was quite a shock to me. We had a very good relationship and spent alot of time together. S said he was unsure what he wanted and needed space... (221 words)

Why is he giving me mixed messages? One minute he wants to kiss me and make it special and then he distances himself from me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4717 days ago

22 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I wouldn't say I fall for people easily or get attached quickly. I always keep my guard up. But I began to fall for someone and he admitted to me too that he was starting to fall in love with me. But now he's cut me out of his life completely, and now it's me that seems to ... (385 words)

Is it usual for the boyfriend to say I Love You more? I was the first to say it and still say it the most...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4716 days ago

22 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Me and my GF have been together for almost months and two weeks now. well to start i said I love you first. I don't know Y but I did. we had only been together like a week or two at the most. and she was very excited i said it and surprised I said it first. but I've noticed ... (218 words)

First crush! How can I hold myself back?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4716 days ago

22 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Long story short, i am 14 and i think i may have my first crush. Ive never had a boyfriend and well i think i'm ready for one, i do know this isn't the only oppturnity open to me and yes i will still concentrate on schoolrswork and this little scenerio is very rare for me. ... (592 words)

My girlfriend after 5 years says she doesn't know if she wants to be with me. Is it time to move on?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

22 December 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - After almost 5 years my girlfriend says she still doesnt know if she wants to be with me! Personally i dont think she does want to be with me but is too scared to say it, and ive thought this for past 3 years. She also says she needs me in her life, but has never said she wants ... (124 words)

How long can a relationship like this last?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

22 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Okay so there this couple and both of them are cheaters. The girls boyfriend has ask me and everyother girl he knows if we wanted to mess around with him and of course I said no even though I don't like her . And today I found that she's having a secret relationship on the ... (97 words)

If our relationship is strong enough to last this, how can I support him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

22 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Please, I'm desperately asking for help! I've been dating my boyfriend since around 10 months now. I am a very emotional person and so is he, so we've had a lot of ups and downs. We kept our relationship a secret for a long time, almost 5 months before everyone knew about it. ... (1056 words)

I was sneaky about meeting up with an ex, but it was only as friends and now I don't know what my boyfriend suspects!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

22 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Is hanging out with an ex a terrible deed? this is an ex of mine from 4.5 years ago, the one prior to my current boyfriend of 4 years. It wasn't even really a relatonship, it was more fwb. but it ended because i found myself developing feelings for the fwb and i knew he wasnt ... (293 words)

My boyfriend left me after I miscarried our baby and now I am furious

This question has 20 answers - newest was posted 4394 days ago

22 December 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi. I posted on here a few weeks ago re my situation but things have changed. Me and my bf have always had a tricky relationship but our love seems to hold us together. I have had some mental health issues that go back a long way, back to my childhood and I used to be a heroin ... (1026 words)

Advice needed on my on/off relationship to try and resolve our problems

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

22 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I am Having trouble in my relationship with my Boyfriend,We have been together (on and off) for about 3 years, things get bad then we break up for a while and then we end up back together, its like we cant live without each other and we cant live with each other. we find it ... (252 words)

How do I get him to rethink marriage? He wants to be with me but just not ever wed.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4716 days ago

22 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend of a little over a year doesn't want to get married. We have a baby, and he said that he want's to spend forever with me, but he just doesn't want to get married. I have always dreamed of getting married, and it's something I want. Not right this second, but soon. ... (90 words)

He loves being with me but isn't in love with me. What do I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

22 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year. I got pregnant within the first month of being with him. During the pregnancy things were going good between me and him. After the baby was born we started getting distant from each other. I know that babies change ... (208 words)

We broke up because she is a go-getter and I wasnt figuring my career out quick enough...but now I want her back, how do I show her things will be different this time?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4620 days ago

22 December 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I think the main reason was my wavering mind about my career, and the pace at which I was going in trying to figure things out - more slowly than her. She's a real go getter, and she really wanted me to match her pace, which I wanted to as well, but I just wasn't making as much ... (1280 words)

What does this dream about the boy I like mean?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

22 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Okay i had this dream about a boy i like, i dont really know what that means, i would really like to know and ill tell you about the dream. i went to my family's house and there was an apartment by it so i went over there and i had family there, well i went in my grandmas house ... (229 words)

The woman I'm interested in has just lost her husband, I know she is in mourning but I don't want to lose her to anyone else! How do I handle this situation?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4716 days ago

22 December 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - I fell in love with a woman at work but she was in a relationship and got married two years ago. Over the past 4 years I have not mentioned my feelings to her but it is fairly obvious that we are atracted to each other. 6 weeks ago her husband died. My feelings are that... (105 words)

She wants a child and I want to make her happy, but I don't feel ready! What should I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

22 December 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Hello dear cupid friends,i have a problem and need advice. Me and my wife will complete 5 years of marriage on july next year. There she'll be 29 years old, for this reason she wants a kid, it's her dream. I have 25 and will have 26 next year. The problem is, we've talked about ... (207 words)

When you reach a certain age and want kids would you "settle" for a reasonable partner but it lacks that certain 'spark'?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

22 December 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - A question for the ladies out there. When you reach a certain age and want kids do or would you "settle" for a reasonable partner that potentially would be a good father/provider but doesn't provide the excitement or spark or where there isn't quite the chemistry of past ... (176 words)

I'm generally a nice person but when I get into a relationship I change! Is it possible to change my personality?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

22 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - This has worried me for a while. When people meet me they think I'm a really nice person, I'm always super happy, energetic, laugh a lot and am up for everything. People think I'm 'nice' but then when I get into a relationship I change, and I become moody, boring, clingy, ... (232 words)

I've lost myself.....Could I be depressed?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

22 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi all, I was wondering if anyone can help me? Over the past 12 months I've noticed some significant changes and I'm not quite sure what to do. I only turned 21 a few months ago, prior to this I was a very social person. I loved going out clubbing and talking to people but now ... (131 words)

Am I too young to get married?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

22 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Ok so me and my girlfriend were really good friends before we ever started to date. she had some emotional issues with things and then she started caring for me as more than friends when she relized that i was a caring person and wanted/tried to help her through her issues ... (218 words)

Can't help thinking she's settling for me....

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4716 days ago

22 December 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I'm having real trouble working out if my gf is reAlly into me or not. We've being seeing each other for a year now but she seems to avoid sexual or intimate contact with me wherever possible. Usually she cites tiredness and has never said it's because shes not into me but I'm ... (213 words)

I'm so scared I'm going to be left on the shelf!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4716 days ago

22 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi, I am now the single one out of all my friends and I don't know what to do. I'm 31 attractive and have a good Job in recruitment. I'm living with friends in London and always had a good social life. However that's recently changed. All - and I mean all, my friends ... (390 words)

I love her baby like its my own, but recently she has been acting weird and the good times are few and far between. What should I do?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4716 days ago

22 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Ok my girlfriend had a baby about 7 months ago. I've been with her for almost 9 months. The first couple months were great and when she had her baby it still was amazing to be with her. Even though it's not my baby I do love him like my own and only being 17 and in school is ... (161 words)

Why wont she tell me why her parents wont allow us to marry? What should I do now?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4678 days ago

22 December 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - i am in a strong commited relationship with a girl from last 2years. me 28yrs and my girlfriend is 26yrs old, but she says her parents wont allow us to marry at any cost, and the only option we have is to run away from home. even she doesnt allows me to at least ask her parents ... (74 words)

In a relationship but found out my girl best mate fancies me, what should I do?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4716 days ago

22 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - My best friends a girl and i fancied her for month, then another girl asked me out and I am going out with her now but my girl best mate told me she fancied me for months and still does, what do i do? Me and my girlfriend has had a lot of argument but i still love her but i ... (69 words)

What are my teacher's feelings towards me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4706 days ago

22 December 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi I know very well that I am having a crush on my school teacher... It's strange because I only sit and chat with him. (he's very fat and looks like a panda, but he's quite welcomed by students) However, ever since I turned 15, he loves ruffling my hair, warming my cold ... (115 words)

Might I be bisexual and should I tell my fiance about this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

22 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been with my fiance for two years now, and I really love him. Lately I've been attracted to this woman at work. I've dated women in the past, but always thought it was just a phase i was going through. I still find myself checking out other women, and this woman at my j... (77 words)

I've finally found us an affordable place to live, but now he keeps saying he is not ready! Is he just leading me on?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4717 days ago

22 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - My bf and I have been together over two years and since the beginning we have told each other that we feel like this is the 'one'. We are not exactly young, both are 25 years old, but we both separately made bad choices in college and have had to start over. So, I am starting ... (248 words)

Why do some men have relationships when they are younger, but only feel like being single or having flings as they age?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

22 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Does anyone know why some men have relationships when they are younger, but only feel like being single or having flings, etc, when they are older ?. Is it because they have been on their own for a long time, and they get set in their ways ?. I've known a few men like that an... (64 words)

It's not him, It's me. Can one overcome major trust issues? Would explaining more to him help? Or just breakup?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4716 days ago

22 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I am writing here to vent out my feelings and the trouble I'm having in my relationship. I've always been a clingy girlfriend. I do like to spend a lot of time with my boyfriend and I would get disappointed if he would not do the same. The only difference from this rel... (478 words)

How can I tell my parents that I really want to marry him?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4714 days ago

22 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - It has now been three years that I've been dating my boyfriend (the same one that my previous question was about; I'm very glad I didn't break up with him), and now I'm pretty sure I've found my future husband! :D Excitement! One problem. I have no idea how to tell my paren... (258 words)

Are we just friends or are we more? Should I make a move and tell him again how I feel?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

22 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Ok, so to make the story short I am a 24 year old college graduate with a good job, raised as a roman catholic, believe in God. My guy friend who is 25 years old college graduate and no job when out for a couple of months during high school (it was all innocent, he never made a ... (429 words)

Is there any difference between pleasing yourself and being pleased by someone else?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

22 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Dear Cupid, I'm 19 and pretty much completely inexperienced, generally and sexually. The only sexual thing I've done is given a guy a handjob. I have never shown skin before, and have never experienced anything sexual on my part with a guy. However, I have masturba... (329 words)

Never orgasmed

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4718 days ago

22 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I have had 2 serious boyfriends, been with a few guys casually and never been able to have a orgasm, neither have i been able to give myself a orgasm only about 3 months ago i started masturbating before that i never did , i bought a vibrator that does nothing for me, i have ... (112 words)

When is the right time to tell someone about how sexually experienced you are?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

22 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - This might seem like a funny question, but when do you think is the right time to tell someone about how sexually experienced you are ?. Should you wait until you actually become sexually active with them, or should you tell them before that ?. I feel embarrassed saying this, ... (143 words)

I have tried to play hard to get, that did not work. I have tried a little of a direct approach. Not sure what to do anymore

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4715 days ago

22 December 2011 (F)

age - A mutual crush developed between me and my boss at my last work place. However, nothing developed as we were working together. While I was there his body language towards me was a dead give away. It took a while for my feelings to start developing. He would ask me prying ... (350 words)

How do I help my FWB forget about his ex and make him see that I am not like her and will not hurt him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

22 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi everyone a bit of a complicated situation here I have been in a fwb for nine months now I have told him how I feel about him (I would like to be with him properly) he says he likes me to he was very badly hurt by his ex with who he was with for nearly 15 years I have asked ... (197 words)

Social outings, my boyfriend, and his ex

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4703 days ago

22 December 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi Hope u can help as I just need advice as I am in a very new situation! My fella and I have been together nearly 6 months. He loves me as I do him. However, he has 2 wonderful children (who I haven't met yet) and I understand that he has regular dealings with his ex. Bu... (205 words)

Is this one of the situations where everyone knows and the person actually "involved" is the last to know?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4717 days ago

22 December 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I've known this guy since we were in high school. We're both 25 now. Recently we took a 2 month training course together, where I got a chance to get to know him a lot better. There were only about 15 of us enrolled in this program, so we all got to know one another pretty w... (160 words)

Is it important to have things in common when you date?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

22 December 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Everyone I've dated, and people that have shown interest in me have never shared anything in common with me. Personality, hobbies, likes, interests etc... I was seeing someone for a little over a month and that ended because we had little in common. I now have 2 guys who ... (81 words)

I knew my Gf was moving before we started dating. What do I do now? Do I let her go live her life and forget about her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

22 December 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello! I have been dating a girl since early September who i've known for a year and a bit. I am 18 just finished my first semester of Engineering, she is almost 17, finishing up highschool. We get along really well, I like her a lot. We've done just about everything and both... (291 words)