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writes:I'm back with another dating-related problem. Let me see if I can keep this short and sweet...Alright, I just got back from a camp I volunteered for. The camp was for kids who have kidney related diseases or transplants. I'm a transplant patient myself.Anyway, I was a camper at the same camp about 4 years ago (I was 17, she was 15) and I met this girl that I got to know a little and I developed some feelings for her. We exchanged emails and chatted for a little bit after camp ended but then it all stopped. Never heard from her again.So, you've probably guessed by now that she was a volunteer this year as well. I was pretty happy about it but for some reason, I couldn't muster the courage to even talk to her.Throughout the week, I had plenty of opportunities to talk to her. There was plenty of eyes locking each other, smiling, 'invitations' to chat, etc. but I couldn't think of anything to say. Not even "hey', talk about how she's been, etc. I know that there was something still there judging by the body language.So, now I'm sitting here 24 hours later thinking how dumb I am for not saying anything. I can't get her off my mind and I feel that I've probably lost a chance with someone that I could've had long-term potential with. I would like to talk to her or even see her despite her living about 2 hours away.I honestly don't want to wait another year to talk to her though that's enough time to think of things to say. Any thoughts or feedback anyone? Reply to this Question
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reader, YouWish +, writes (17 August 2010):
 Hey! I'm also a transplant patient.
Your issue is shyness. Why wait until camp? You're only 2 hours away! Go tell her you have feelings for her and see where it goes! Your days of admiring her from afar are easy for you because that insulates you from rejection, but take a risk! There are no immunosuppressive drugs to prevent relationship rejection, so go out there and LIVE!
What are you waiting for? You've got a lot to offer her, and likewise, she's got a lot to offer you! You're both transplant patients, so you have a great deal in common. Trust me, I know! But you're still human, and it's not like you want to play tackle football with her!
It's time to go get who and what you want. Go talk to her. Ger her phone number. Tell her you're interested in dating her, and see where it goes from there. Play to your strengths, and get some self-confidence!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUnfortunately, camp is over. She already moved into her college. I'll think about sending her email soon.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2010): Is the camp over? If not, just say "hey". She is no doubt as nervous as you are. Ask her what she has been up to... and be ready if she says "not much how about you?"
Think about what you have been doing since you saw her and pick out one or two things to say about it.
Ask her about School, Colledge, work.
If the camp is over, then do you still have her email address? Drop her a line. Tell her how great it was to see her and that you wish you had been able to spend time together. Start that email thing up again and take it to the next level... ask her on a date ( if you can get there). For goodness sake you can not afford to wait another year!
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reader, Oregongrl1 +, writes (11 August 2010):
stop trying to figure out what to say and just go w/ the flow! shes human just like you! why don't you ask her to go on a midnight stroll around the camp. it'll be dust and you wont really be able to see that good! when you talk to each other and it will be comfortable for the both of you. what do you got to lose except the fact if you don't you might not get this chance again.
Good Luck!
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