A
female
age
,
*lassyWoman
writes:Hi My question is should I beleive him?? My partner of 18 months who has moved in with me 7 months ago tells me he is being set up. I found his profile up live on Red Hot Pie dating site today. He denies that he put it up. He was on there when I first met him and a few months after we started dating he took it down. How can I get him to prove that he did not reactivate it. He swears that he loves me and would never do anything to hurt me. He is such a sweet man (50) and I know if I push this it will end our relationship. I think it is cheating but am I being too hard. Is this normal these days - to flirt etc on the net.... while in a relationship?
View related questions:
flirt, moved in Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, YouWish  +, writes (8 August 2010):
 I personally think that he's full of crap and re-activated it himself, but one test to see if he's telling the truth would be for him to let you have access to his account, and YOU change the email address, password, and security question to something he doesn't know, effectively shutting him out of the account for good.
If he's moved in with you, your relationship is pretty serious, and he has no business on dlirting or dating sites. Keep your eyes open, and if he's secretly on the market, you'll see more evidence of it.
A
male
reader, Dr.LanceMerryweather  +, writes (8 August 2010):
 No, in my world it is not normal nor acceptable behaviour at all. However, there are some unscrupulous sites that will reactivate a profile, just to keep the hits on their sites coming (more money for them.) The (in)famous 'Facebook' site being a repeat offender in that respect, as I can personally attest. So, at least give him the benefit of the doubt on this.
Good luck.
...............................
A
female
reader, AuntyEm +, writes (8 August 2010):
 Would you be happy with him flirting while you were out at a party or shopping or going to the park?...Flirting online is the same as if doing it face to face so in a relationship it's not really ok unless you have an open relationship.
As for his online dating account, well it's not unheard of for dating site companies to continue to send e-mail to previous users who have left, in order to draw them back again, although the actual profile is usually not visible fater someone has quit. This happens for sites which charge to use their services and it's another form of tempting people to spend money again. However if your guy is being secretive, spending lots of time on the comp while your out or in bed, then I'd be suspicious.
The best way to sort it out is to sit on the computer together and ensure the account has definitely been closed. Send a seperate e-mail to the site owners warning that you do not wish to be contacted again.
If your partner is open with you and has no problem with you checking to see if the web site contact has ended then I see nothing to worry about...Your not being too harsh, your just wanting confirmation that you have trust between you. Cheating kills relationships so you need to get things out in the open.
...............................
|
