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writes:Don't know where to start but ill start with I don't remember anything about my childhood.. and when I try to remember I get this bad feeling type of deal.. I know I had my far share of bad things my best friend got tooken away and my great grandma died but when I ask everyone in my family or close family friends. Know one will talk they just change the subject real fast and my mom makes me feel like its a good thing I don't remember even my little sister remembers so my question is why do I get bad feelings about my child.. and what could cause someone to forget many years in there life?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2010): I think that you should sit down to your mum and say that you're desperate to know what happened because it can haunt you later in dreams and in general.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm 14 and thank you everyone who gave advice when school stars again I'm going to see the conselor and discuse this situation.. my little sister did tell like everyone else I was close to my friend that got tooken away and when he was gone I change for the worst but other than that my mom won't tell me anything in detail just you had a okkk life so far.. and family friends say I was loved by many and unfortunaly I attracted perv's... but I can tell with the expressions and the tone of there voices their not giving detail or all the facts..so over all thank you everyone and I hope you answer anymore of my future question.:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2010): Are your parents divorced?
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reader, katstale21 +, writes (11 August 2010):
I had a mixed childhood, many good things and many bad things. I suggest that if you are always getting a bad feeling in your stomach when trying to remember then you should always follow your instincts. Maybe see a psychologist who can do hypnotherapy on you. It can be scary to find out certain things, but to help you move on and grow you need to find out what those things are. The earlier you do it, sometimes the better you are.
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reader, fishdish +, writes (11 August 2010):
 or a school psychologist if you have one
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reader, fishdish +, writes (11 August 2010):
I agree with YouWish, esp. because you are still so young, it wasn't that long ago that you had a childhood! how far back can you remember? can you remember 4th grade, for example? I would go to a counselor at your school for help on this one.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (11 August 2010):
 Some people just forget. Some remember well. It doesn't always have to mean something. But, you could try and talk to your little sister to see what she remembers. And then talk to your mother again, and tell her that you want to talk about it, insist. Tell her that you don't remember anything from your childhood, but that it is important to you that you are being told about it! How far back can you remember? And are there any photo's from when you were little that you can look through, perhaps the photos can remind you of things.
Next time you go see your doctor maybe you should ask her about how you can't remember anything from your childhood, and hear what they think. It could be you have a hard time remembering things. Although we as adults do remember a lot more than children do, and can remember many many years back, it would be troublesome if you are to forget about parts of your life even as an adult.
But, to assure you, most people do not distinctively remember their childhood. For many their childhood is only remembered through photos, or diaries, and a few memories of random things. Rarely do anyone remember a full two years, and events from the childhood often gets mixed together.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (11 August 2010):
 I'm trying not to scare you, but sometimes to protect yourself from trauma that you've had as a child, your brain will block out the time period in your life that the trauma occured in. Also, a brain injury can cause the same thing.
I would recommend that if you decide to actively pursue remembering these things, you do it with the help and supervision of a professional psychologist who will help you deal with the memories as your brain opens and releases what's stored there.
If there indeed was an extremely traumatic event that happened to you, when you do remember it, it will feel like it just happened to you. You don't want to be alone when this happens out of safety to yourself and possibly others.
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reader, T-Marie  +, writes (11 August 2010):
 Hey there,
First of all you are in the age 13-15 bracket so you are still in your childhood. The times you can't remember are not that long ago, what exactly are you trying to remember? It may just be that you don't really have any moments that are significant enough for you to remember vividly. Alternatively you could have had a bad experience which you have mentally blocked out.
You said your sister remembers so why not ask her? Sit and talk to your mum about it properly don't come accross like you don't remember, fish for information... ask family members what they remember from when you were a kid. Ask to see some photo's from when you were young, see what they make you think of.
Hope this helps xxx T
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reader, Angelripper  +, writes (11 August 2010):
 When someone goes through something very traumatizing (especially at a young age), it can happen that they forget the entire event, or details no matter how important or minute they may be.
I find it a bit strange that no one is shedding some light on your past, but maybe it's because something grave did happen and they want to keep you from getting hurt. I think it's your right to know about your past though, but only if you can handle it. It baffles me a bit though that you can't remember your childhood at all.
I would suggest going to see a therapist and talking out your feelings. Maybe they will be the key in unlocking some hidden memories that are stored in the back of your mind. I have been through similar experiences where I was not able to remember things that have happened to me in the past, although I knew something was amiss ... with some counseling and introspection, I was able to figure some of the details out.
Best of luck to you!
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