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writes:I'm seventeen. I work at Krystal and recently, a beautiful girl started working there and she's my age. We're the only ones still in school that work there. I've liked her for awhile and finally after work I just told her. And she replied by saying she'd felt the same way. However, the bad part is, I've heard a lot about this girl and everyone I ask about her says she a whore. She's really sweet to me, but I know that can just be a front to make me thin what she wants me to. I really like her, and would love to date her, and I am aware of the high risk of being hurt if rumors are true. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Duckiies +, writes (17 August 2010):
 I dont reading this kinda question man. To be honest, just go for her. Plain and simple. We only live once. Forget what other people say about her. Rumors tend to fade away anyways.
People who are ignorant and selfish spread rumors. So live your teenage years and enjoy sharing memories with this lucky girl.
PEACE. DUCKIE
add me if you wanna talk about this.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (17 August 2010):
If you slept with her, what does that make you? Do you have a name for a guy who has sex with a "whore"....Let's see...oh yeah...a lucky guy. But a woman is a whore...hmmmm!
Shakespeare once say" A rose by any other name is stll a rose, and smells just as sweet".
Call her what you want, she is still a woman, and just as sweet...To you, or some Lucky guy.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (17 August 2010):
 "Whore" is a harsh term. Have you judged who is saying that about her and more importantly, WHY? Some women are called whores if they happen to be with a guy that another girl is interested in.
Also, if they love sex and up until this point, they've had a bunch of no-strings-attached sex, what makes her different than the hordes of guys who have had that same goal and lifestyle?
Are YOU a virgin? If you were a girl, would you be called a whore? Have you had more than one sexual partner?
Do they call her "whore" because she loves to steal married or engaged men?? If she's being sweet on you, I highly doubt it.
I would recommend that you eject that stupid word and its ugly connotations out of your head forcibly and get to know her on HER terms, not "everybody's". I'm sure whether or not she's had zero partners or 50 partners, you'll use protection at all times.
If you're worried about her cheating on you, does she have that track record of cheating on her boyfriends? Or are you simply insecure because she seems too beautiful to possibly be interested in you?
Things to think about.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (17 August 2010):
 Wouldn't you rather find out for yourself what kind of a person she is than rely on rumours which may have originated from people with vested interests? I know from first-hand experience how easy it is to earn the title "whore", so I would definitely advise that you date her at least without prejudicing your mind in advance without concrete evidence that she has, actually, been sleeping around.
And even if she has, maybe you'd like to be the one that 'reforms' her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2010): People have to realize that their actions have consequences. You can sleep with anything and everything. Then later on find the love of your life who could be a virgin or much less experienced and can't deal with your having been around the block a few dozen times.
I guess you have to find out the truth about her past before you can get really involved. Her past may be just rumors. You could ask her and you may get the truth or what she thinks you want to hear. Guys lie up and girls lie down.
My very first girlfriend mentioned a couple dozen ex-boyfriends. I asked her how many she was intimate with. She got very defensive and said she'd only been with three guys before me. A while later, she broke down and said she'd lied and that it was "more than three.....a lot more." Since she was my first and seemed special to me, I just couldn't get over the feeling of being number 25.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (17 August 2010):
 When you say a whore, do you mean she sleeps with people for money, or she's just slept around a lot? If it's the former, I could see how that could be a pretty serious problem. If it's the latter though, are you worried she'll cheat, or is because of past jealousy/inability to date a girl with a past?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2010): When you say whore, are you saying that she sleeps around a lot? Cheated in her previous relationships? Takes payment for sexual services?
If you keep thinking she's a "whore", why even bother? I feel bad for her already. She's sweet on you, it doesn't matter what other people say. You can still get to know her. Find out what she wants and looks for in a relationship, about monogamy and the like. Share with her the same info about yourself.
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