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*aisy92
writes:hi, i am a lesbian and i have a girlfriend. she seems to love giving me sex and i love taking it. but when it comes to giving it to her i dont seem to enjoy it. do you think this could mean i am no longer gay or dont find her attractive because i am in love with her. please help.
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reader, jimrich  +, writes (24 September 2010):
re: but when it comes to giving it to her i dont seem to enjoy it.
.... Don't enjoy in what sense? It could be you are self conscious (insecure) about your 'techniques' and style. Perhaps she doesn't respond as you'd like. Could be that you have unrealistic expectations around doing her.
Sometimes I don't 'enjoy' doing my wife because I'm either finished and not very inspired or I feel silly and inadequate. It all comes down to examining exactly what is not being enjoyed and work on that within your self.
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reader, Oregongrl1 +, writes (12 August 2010):
What it sounds like to me is you just let her do all the work for only your pleasure! i mean she is a woman, and you are still enjoying being w/ her! if you wasnt gay? you wouldnt be having sex w/ her. and you 2 can also experience bringing a man into the pic' if you really want to find out???
Good Luck!
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reader, YouWish +, writes (12 August 2010):
 Yeah, my friend from Vault Tec is right. There are lots of girls who write on here complaining about giving oral sex to their boyfriends and him not returning the favor, and most responses would be how selfish the guy is.
You have to ask how you feel about your girlfriend. The payoff for making her feel good is knowing that you are giving the woman you love pleasure, and if you were in love with her, the very thought would thrill you to no end.
If it has to do with odor/taste/etc., there are things you can do to give her pleasure that don't involve that, or you could find some flavors that make it better for you.
But in the end, to just take and not want to give *is* selfish. Not trying to put you down, but there's no way to change that fact.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (12 August 2010):
 Perhaps you find it boring to be giving but not receiving. Can you both stimulate each other at the same time?
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