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writes:I've suffered from premature ejaculation for years now and I finally plucked up the courage to go to the doctors about it. They prescribed me 30 Paroxetine (20mg) tables which is a form of antidepressant.I had one each day and literally after the 2nd day of me taking them I was brilliant at sex. Unlike my normal 30 seconds I could go for 15+ minutes.Problem is I've ran out of them now and I'll have to keep going to the doctors to get me a prescription so I was just wondering if there any herbs or tablets I can buy without needing a prescription that have the same effect when it comes to premature ejaculation? I've tried all the natural methods like stop/start but no luck.Any help would be great :)
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reader, Nime  +, writes (7 December 2010):
 First of all, I think you should get off those pills. Antidepressants have numerous side effects and I think one day you will regret ever getting on them for something as inconsequential as premature ejaculation. You could also stand to get better doctors, preferably ones who won't send you off with a prescription for all your problems. Did you know the average 30 year old American is on six different prescription medications at any given time? It's appalling.
'Premature' ejaculation is a normal occurrence at your age, especially if you're uncircumcised. There are many exercises that you can find on the internet or in books that can help you address this issue. I'll recommend a few to you now.
Massage: It's better if your girlfriend does this to you but you can do it too. Massage your penis from base to tip until it's erect and you are close to ejaculating. When you are close, squeeze the base (you may prefer rim) tightly and hold for about 30 seconds or until the erection has gone down a bit. Then massage again and repeat. Continue to do a set of 10 of these holds and then finally release/ejaculate. Try to do this a few times a week, if not every day. It's best to do this in a hot shower with the water running directly over your penis. Every time you squeeze, remove it from under the hot water.
Meditation: Try to count to 100 without letting any other thought in. This is very difficult. Do this once or twice a day. This will give you better self control during sex.
Kegels: Look these up. There are many things you can do to exercise your PC muscles. Eventually you will be able to squeeze these muscles at will to stop your ejaculation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2010): To be honest with you it does take a while to get the strength up but you also have to fight the urge to let loose. That was the hardest part for me. You know the feeling the urge to release becomes intense. I had to control my breathing and really focus to get past that urge once I was able to hold the muscles for long.
You see you notice the effects within a couple of weeks as you know already but when do you get to the point where you can hold it a couple of minutes until the urge passes? it took me a few months and I didn't have PE I was doing it to synchronize my orgasms with those of my girlfriends, it is slow. It's not a fast solution but it gets better and easier the more you do it. Mix up the exercises too, don't stick to same pattern or routine, your muscles will just get used to that, you need to keep your muscles confused if you know what I mean. This forces the body to keep adjusting the muscles to compensate and which keeps it building strength.
Look into tantric sex too, google it or get some books there are some excellent breathing techniques in tantra, plus it will teach you how to focus your mind on your pleasure without actually giving into the urge to release, better than thinking of your grandmother or roadkill to hold back.
If you're not already using them use condoms, they help a lot and there are condoms that have a special cream in them that lessens the sensation on your penis this too might help. You also might even be able to buy that separately.
Plus there is always the pre-wank, although I assume you know about that.
But really do more research beyond just "sex tip" sites you find. There are no quick fixes for PE there are no tricks, you have to work hard and patiently train your body. Think of it as something like weight loss, it takes time and effort but will be worth it and far more beneficial than becoming reliant on a chemical solution. But just in case it might be handy to have those pills around.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2010): Cerberus, how long did you have to do Kegels before you noticed a difference? I've been doing them for about a month, roughly 2 out of 3 days, but have not noticed a big difference. Although I can stop impending ejaculation if I'm not too close to the point of no return, I still cannot stop ejeculation completely once I get beyond a certain point. I've been practicing (masterbating) almost every day for a week or so trying to experience an orgasm without ejaculating, but I have not yet been able to pull it off, so to speak.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2010): You say you've tried all natural methods does that mean you've tried kegels?
http://www.askmen.com/dating/love_tip_60/67_love_tip.html
That's what I did, better, harder, longer erections, full control over ejaculation.
I don't think you have tried them or you wouldn't be here posting. It takes a lot of practice and persistence and you don't get results immediately but they're awesome.
I mean if you've ever worked out you'll know what it's like.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (6 December 2010):
 I doubt there is any herbal tablets that are on the market that actually help with premature ejaculation. Even if there were, I would be concerned if they were FDA approved. See if you can call the doctor like Youwish said and if they can fax your pharmacy for a refill. But if you've ran out of refills, then you're going to have to go back to the doctor. That's part of life, and yeah at times it's a hassle but it's necessary.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (6 December 2010):
 Hey - instead of going to the doctor, you could make a quick call and request a refill over the phone. That'll save you time and get you the good stuff today!
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