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*aja1976
writes:hi i am 34 years of age married man from amravati, india. we have been together since 3 years. Why i dont know i am not happy with my married life. I alway think some thing is missing in my life. My wife doesn't understand my feeling and my fantasy for sexual raltion ship. she is very cold. i am always looking for some real romatic talk but she is not intrested in it. What can i do? any suggestion there for me
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reader, GermanMan  +, writes (30 November 2010):
This is difficult to respond to. If she is not comfortable doing things sexually, I do not think you should push her into doing anything. Try to find joys in other things. I assume that this was an arranged marriage? If so, I think you need to create a better friendship with her, do things together more, and try to make them fun. Once that bond is there, i think the romance will come naturally.
If you did marry her on your own will, then there must have been things that attracted you two together. Try to make those things come to life again and have a positive outlook. You'd be surprised at how much happier you can get if you do things that make both of you happy. Remember to compromise!
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reader, YouWish +, writes (30 November 2010):
 Do you understand her feelings and fantasies for a married relationship? Did you love each other before, and if so, what caused that to end for her? You've only been married for 3 years. Did you just have kids? Is she taking care of babies? If she is, what are you doing to help raise them yourself? That can sap romantic desire too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2010): I am unsure of your cultural rules but I know that if there is no romance there is no relationship anymore. If she cannot understand this than you are best to find another.
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