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*Jay
writes:Hi. Well I got a problem. My girlfriend and I live miles away from each other. I live alone, and she lives with her 5 bestfriends. 3 of them are guys, one of them is her ex. I'm a really jealous kind of guy, and she knows that. I really dont like it when she keeps on telling me that her ex always slept with her on the same bed every night and says that they didnt do anything but just sleep. I really hate her ex and he hates me. But she's more on his side when I told her that I dont like the idea of them sleeping together. I mean, he's a guy, her ex after all. I dont trust him not even a bit. What should I do?
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reader, bhawna  +, writes (9 December 2010):
leave her forget her and her memories.i give an idea take her photo tear it and flush it in the pot then take deep breath and say goodbye to her forever
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reader, VJay +, writes (4 December 2010):
VJay is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hey thanks for the advices guys. Really appreciate it. She's not with me anymore. I cant stand her doing that to me anyway. But yeah, really. Thanks.
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave  +, writes (29 November 2010):
She's taking you for a ride and making you look like a mug you should get out before you get really hurt.
I find it extremely hard to believe she's being innocent with her ex if they're regularly sleeping in the same bed.
She's probably getting her fill from him while you're nowhere near and then coming to you for some extra action.
Let's face it, if she actually had any thought or consideration for you she wouldn't sleep in the same bed as her ex in the first place.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2010): You sound like a nice guy, and like the others, but you need to demonstrate some boundaries here - I mean, you have boundaries that you don't let any female cross, otherwise you don't date..including:
NOT dating other guys
NOT sleeping in the same bed as an ex ( sleeping or not)
Really simple, any female doesn't like those boudaries, you move on to a female who will appreciate you and your standards for a relationship.
Finish it with her is my advice too..but, sorry you're having a difficult time.
Jilly
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (26 November 2010):
 What more needs to be said? She even takes her ex'es side of him sleeping in the same bed as her against her new boyfriend?
That is so disfunctional you wouldn't even get on Jerry Springer.
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reader, angeldiva  +, writes (26 November 2010):
dump her because she obviously is having intimate(sex) relations with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2010): Dump her. If you've told her you aren't comfortable with what she's doing yet she carries on playing games, she's not worth the trouble.
She should not be sleeping in the same bed as her ex. Period.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (26 November 2010):
 I echo the rest of the aunts in dumping her.
Any loving girlfriend wouldn't be playing slumber party with her ex boyfriend. Also playing off your jealousy by constantly reminding you of it. She doesn't have to sleep in the same bed with him, she could move in with you, sleep on the couch or in with another female friend. Or move out because it sounds like one crowded place.
Yeah, you may not trust her ex..but I wouldn't be so trusting of her either.
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reader, DenimandLace44 +, writes (26 November 2010):
 She's playing you honey, she is definitely not YOUR girlfriend, and she is not his EX. You are a long way away, he is there. You are not in her bed, he IS...
Those are the facts. It doesnt matter what she SAYS to you, anyone can type anything....
Get a real girlfriend who really cares about you. This girl doesn't.
You deserve much better than you are getting in this relationship... hugs, Denim
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reader, Anonyn111  +, writes (26 November 2010):
i dont get what are u still doing with this girl!! dont tell me u love her or u have anything for her . she DOES NOT deserve ur time at all or ur energy, dude think abt it
shes sleeping with her ex in the same bed/ put urself in his place and ur sleepin with ur ex inthe same bed , would u try something ? OFCOURSE u would at some point u will definitly do something
dude u better dumb this girl , she aint worth it
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reader, WHISPERSOFMYSTERY +, writes (26 November 2010):
 ya i would either sleep on the floor or witth one of my friends if i were her,i think she likes the fact that you get jelouse,so if i were you i would let her go cuz sleeping with another guy espeasually an ex is definatly a no no
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reader, YouWish +, writes (26 November 2010):
 My god! If she's even trying to tell you that she and her ex will continue sleeping in the same bed, drop her and drop her now. It's so easy to get another bed, or find new roommates. You do NOT need this crap one bit.
Find a girl who isn't stuck on her ex like this one is. Blech.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (26 November 2010):
 Well it is crossing the boundries to sleep in the same bed as your ex if you have a new boyfriend. It sounds to me like she is not over her ex and that she is always going to take his side over yours as it sounds like she still loves him, and maybe even still having sex with him, why else would he sleep in her bed? I think it would be best if you finished with her and found someone who wont treat you with such little respect.
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