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writes:Hello, i just need some advice.So basically my best guy friend and I have been close for about 9 years. We both study at different universities, so we don’t get to see each other much but since he’s come back I really don’t know what to do. Over the past 8 months i have had strong feelings for him. When we are together it feels like were best friends and other times its obvious we have strong sexual tension, or maybe it’s just me. I have given out signals that like him for such a long time. Since being at uni he has had many girls’ ask him out and he was very close to some girl about a year ago, but we never spoke about it.Regardless, I don’t know if i should just tell him? Get it over with, its driving me insane. Any help would be good thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2010): To Cerberus_Raphael
Well i dont know why he said no to the others. but i think he could tell i was very upset. When we were alone together last night (watching a movie in the cinima) I asked him if he had ever been in love and he went quiet and mumbled a 'no' he didn't look at me when he said it so i dont know if thats good or bad? He then asked me the same question, I was gonna tell him yes but i was disheartened by his reply so I said no.
I might just come out with it. if he says he does not feel the same im just gonna have to deal with it. what do you think
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reader, Red591  +, writes (30 November 2010):
 life is short. Tell him and if he says no then stay his friend if you can. If you can't just be his friend then cut ties. Friends come and go and guys come and go but life is too short to be afraid.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2010): You could always tell him, if you have known him so long maybe he does feel the same? good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2010): thank you both,I just need to find the right time.
Is there any more advise you could give?
thanks again
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reader, YouWish +, writes (30 November 2010):
 Yeah, never rely on signals to convey your message. It is a risk to be sure to put your friendship on the line to confess your feelings, but if you've known him for 9 years, I'm guessing that he's liked you too.
Tell him, clearly and directly.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (30 November 2010):
 Has he ever accepted any of those other girls? If not, he could just be waiting for you. Either way, I think it is good that you tell him how you feel.
I hope that helps.
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