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*ensesfail101
writes:soo my bf was looking for something in the spare bedroom and came across my diary. Which of course had pics of my ex and the last time i wrote or even looked in the diary was before my new bf and i were even together! He said he didnt read it...just saw the pics...which now hes mad. Should i get rid of pages in MY diary that have already been written?
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reader, YouWish +, writes (2 January 2011):
 "Accidentally" opened your diary? Oh come on! What a complete asshat. A diary is the chronicle of your life. You had an ex boyfriend in your life's history, just as you had friends you don't know anymore and eventa that you don't partake in anymore. You choose to keep photos as supplements to your words. That's your business and nobody else's.
How the hell does one "accidentally" open a diary? And to respond to you, he says he'll "keep his own diary and put random pictures in it"? Tell him to knock himself out. He does not respect you. He suffers from retrograde jealousy because you had a relationship with someone else in the past, and he totally blew through and invaded your privacy. How is any of that love???
This guy has serious issues. Maybe your next diary entry should be "Dear Diary, I just broke up with my current boyfriend for reading you. Here's his picture. Hopefully, my next boyfriend won't be such an idiot. Sincerely, Dedicated Writer."
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (1 January 2011):
 I second Caring Guy. He's a looser. Tell him to take pictures all he wants and write a diary, and you won't care, because that how normal people react.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (1 January 2011):
Look. I can see that you might accidentally find a diary, but he wouldn't have accidentally opened it and accidentally happened to find those photos. No way. He did it on purpose.
After your response, by the way, I think you need to dump him. There's no way he can seriously justify taking photos and keeping a diary just to see how you feel. You weren't with him, and this is not his business. You've got a real first rate controlling loser on your hands here, and he's just going to act like a toddler now. Dump him and find a real man who isn't such a pathetic loser.
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reader, Sensesfail101 +, writes (1 January 2011):
Sensesfail101 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe says he didnt go thru it...it accidenytly opened to the page with the picture on it...and noothing fell out of the diary...which is crazy cuz i had tons of loose papers in it. Then he said he might just start his own diary and take random pics and see how id feel. Like wtf am i supposed to do???? He said he accidently came accross it. So idk what the heck to believe
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reader, chigirl +, writes (1 January 2011):
Your boyfriend invaded your privacy and is a tota jerk to be honest. This is none of his business, and if he tries to make it his business you should show him the door.
Let him simmer this off on his own for a few days and see if he will come to his senses and see how ridiculous he is. Of course you shouldn't remove pages from your diary. If this keeps coming back then I highy suggest you find a new boyfriend. He sounds both childish, insecure, jealous and controlling, overall not a good combination.
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reader, lionelhutz +, writes (1 January 2011):
You had a life before you met your current boyfriend as I'm sure he had as well. If everything (the diary entries, pictures, etc) was done BEFORE you met him like you said, then it's none of his business. The bigger issue was his lack of respect for your privacy. I wonder how he would feel if the situation was reversed?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (1 January 2011):
Why was he even going through your diary? That's private, and was none of his business. More to the point, is he blind enough to not notice that the photos and the dates in the diary are old?
Don't do a thing. Instead, tell him that he's invaded your privacy and that you won't tolerate it. If he continues to moan about it, then maybe you're with the wrong guy.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (1 January 2011):
How would he know there were pictures of an ex in there if he hadn't opened it? I guarantee that he read the whole thing, especially if it made him angry. He violated your privacy by rifling through your private diary.
Do not rip out the pages. Tear him a new one for what he did. He needs to respect your things.
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