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writes:i had been dating this lad for the past 6 months we split up in march 2010. we havent spoke since but we have recontly just got talking and we both had change, we alwasy used to argue abouot stupid things. in the time we never spoke he starting seeing one of our freinds. i forgive him for that. i have never been with anybody else since me and him split up. we have recontly satrted talking agian in november 2010 time and starting seeing each other. things were going great i was happy agian :D. until he turned around to me and said ' sorry im going to meet somebody else tomorrow your not adventurous enough'! i was fumming so i got my phone out and deleted him number in front of him and said 'hope she is worth it'! the day after he text me saying he has made a mistake he loves me and that he isnt going to me her because i am the one he wants! i didnt no what to do all i ever wanted was to be happy agian. I have now forgive him last night after all the begging he did for onece. (normally its me begging him back LOL) but i want it to work this time and like he said be more adventourous for him??? what should i do shoould i leave him or be more adventourous??? but what does adventourous acctually mean? having sex in weriod places or what? help me !!!!
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reader, LozzaB +, writes (14 January 2011):
LozzaB is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys. Im still debating in what to do. I dont wonna be used or called a slag. I know its hard letting some1 go who u love! Trust me been there plenty of time before! thanks agian and ill keep you updated :D
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reader, Blonde68 +, writes (13 January 2011):
You say he said you weren't adventurous enough - but are you sure he was referring to sex? He could have been referring to anything!
If he was referring to sex - well adventurous doesn't necessarily mean having sex in weird places. Adventurous in the bedroom department, means that you are happy and comfortable to try different things.. this could be touching, positions, introducing sex toys, etc. However, this type of adventurous doesn't happen over night, it comes with trust and having been with someone for a while. Don't ever feel pressured into doing something you don't want to do, just to impress a guy, retain some dignity, because some guys can soon get bored and move on once they have got what they wanted which can leave you feeling very used because you did things just to please them.
Why don't you ask him what he meant by it. Perhaps give him a second chance if that is what you feel you want to do. But since I am an older wiser woman, I do think you should just be enjoying your life and not worrying about pleasing guys, you are still young, have a future ahead of you and enjoy it with or without a guy!
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (13 January 2011):
 History is going to keep repeating itself until you realize that you two don't belong together. I agree with everything YouWish said. This guy is a douche, and you'd do well to be done with him for good.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (13 January 2011):
 Sounds like he's thinking with his penis. "Adventerous" does men having more exotic kinds of sex or much more frequently or yeah, possibly in different areas.
This is not a guy ready to settle down. This is a guy who's got raging hormones and lacks the maturity to be in a meaningful relationship for any length of time. Right now, he's treating you as his fall-back woman. He wants to sleep with others, but you'll do when there's not someone else.
You should truly be adventurous and find someone new who might not be so flighty, which at your age is kind of rare.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2011): I don't think you should have given him the second chance. I understand your desire to be happy your boyfriend clearly doesn't respect and it seems to be having a knock on effect on your own self esteem. I think the best thing to do would be to leave him, you might be lonely at first but someone better will come along.If you are determined to give it a go or in case the information is useful at some point at the future here are some tips on being adventurous.Try new things, there are plenty of shops like Taboo or Ann Summers with options to explore. One very popular choice is handcuffs, some people try them out and find that they actually quite enjoy using them. Also try different positions, there are plenty of books like the Karma sutra.To put it simply, being adventurous means exploring new things you haven't done before and trying them to see if you like them, you'd be surprised at some of the things you might find out you really like.Hope this helps.
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