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writes:Hello, I would like to know if this would be cute or creepy. I this girl and I have been talking and we are really into each other I mean really. Anyways I am seeing her this Saturday and I am going to ask her to be my girlfriend. I want to make this a little romantic so I was thinking of buying a ring telling her to close her eyes and slip it on her finger and ask her if she would like to be my gf. However idk if this would be creepy or not. I never have been in a relationship before so this stuff is new to me. Thanks for the help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2011): Everyone below is correct, the ring tends to be an overt gesture for very serious relationships only. You are not, and should not, be anywhere near that place yet no matter how much it feels like so.Although (as everyone suggested) bracelets/chains are good substitutions, early relationship gifts should NOT be jewelry IMO -- not because of the value, but because you have an opportunity to test how sentimental she is. For example, some things considered "goofy" at a later stage are acceptable early on, such as winning her a teddy bear at the fair. Conversely, some things considered "boring" without romantic value can be very sentimental for some later in the relationship. For example, the ticket stubs from the first movie you watched together. I'm not suggesting you GIVE her stubs, but you should keep things like this around and see how she responds to you keeping them. They can be used later for a memory album or some such.I would suggest you go this alternate route and really put a lot of thought and effort into the right kind of gift. However, if you are absolutely sure she is not sentimental and considers that stuff "childish" then go for the chain! Just do it when the time is right. Early gifts can scare off women, be seen as 'payment', or even worse. The best possible gift you can give her is fun, confident YOU that makes each day exciting and new.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (24 January 2011):
 How sweet! You're on the right track, because we love jewelry! However, I would suggest it not being a ring. Rings are like "promise" rings, "purity rings" (I'm sure you're not sending the message to her that you want zero sex with her ;)) or "engagement rings".
Try a beautiful bracelet or a nice little necklace instead! Something that shows your love for her without making her feel awkward.
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reader, Problem.helper +, writes (24 January 2011):
 I wouldnt do it like that, sorry. I mean there is a possibility that she might find it little weird. Try to come up with something little different.
Good luck to you
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reader, Universe Man +, writes (24 January 2011):
You say you "have been talking." Have you spent a lot of time alone? Have you kissed? If either answer is no, you should not ask her to be your girlfriend. And even if they're yes, forget about the ring.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2011): If you're just asking her to be your gf I don't think a ring is a good idea. Save that for after she is already your gf if it works out. If you want to give a gift then buy something else. Good luck.
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reader, Jen1689 +, writes (24 January 2011):
 I think it wouldn't be so bad if you put the ring on a chain so she can wear it as a necklace. But putting a ring on her finger sounds a lot like a marriage proposal, and you're only asking her to be your girlfriend. Maybe give her the ring on the chain and say that you hope one day she can wear it as a promise ring. I dunno. I just think putting the ring on her finger might be a bit much... Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2011): wow man very thoughtful... however, the ring idea is a very serious thing and most women associate such thing with getting married and thus if youre just asking her to be your GF youre being overly serious and this may cause her to withdraw from you. Keep it simple man. Take her for dinner and a movie and talk to her afterwards. Good luck.
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reader, PatientlyWaiting1 +, writes (24 January 2011):
It seems cute. But get her a bracelet instead. Save the ring for a proposal.
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reader, lovestruckash +, writes (24 January 2011):
This is absolutely adorablee, but I don't think this is a good idea when your just asking her to be your girlfriend. I think you should just tell her you really like her and you love to spend time with her and you would love if she would take it to the next level with you and be your girlfriend. Afterwords if she's says yes I think you should tell her you bought her a little gift and give it to her than. Not with her closing her eyes! Good luck!
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (24 January 2011):
No...don't do any sort of ring. You're asking her to be your girlfriend; not your wife. But that's sweet of you to think about how to ask her. Maybe take her to a nice dinner (if you have the money) and ask her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2011): If I were that girl, I'd feel a little uncomfortable at first, if I didn't know you for a long time...make sure you know her REALLY well, and well enough to give her that kind of gift (and make sure the ring isn't too extravagant - some of us feel guilty when given a surprise ring or diamond necklace or things like that) But if it's all been smooth sailing and you're close enough to her and can tell that she wants it too, then it's VERY cute :)
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