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writes:My girlfriend and I of a year have made a decision to have sex. We plan on doing it really soon as in a few days, and I want to make it the best experience for her. I've heard that she could get pregnant from my precum which is a problem that I could possibly run into because since we are both virgins, I don't want the very first time I put it in her to be with a condom on. I want to put it in her with nothing on, but I only want to do it once, in and out. Will this be dangerous in terms of getting her pregnant? We bought the plan b pill already, so should she take it after I put it in her once, and then continue with a condom? We are both also at the age of consent in our state. Thanks guys.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2011): Contrary to what they teach in 8th grade health classes, pregnancy is not possible without ejaculation. However, that ejaculation can come BEFORE sex if the man does not urinate in between. "Pre-cum" is fluid from the urethra itself and not seminal fluid and contains no sperm.
Look into any authoritative reproductive medicine textbook and you will be able to verify. I'm not commenting on the wisdom, morality, or sexual fulfillment of this act as that's not what the poster asked about!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI appreciate all your replies, as they have been very informing. Reading some of your replies made me rethink this situation, and I want what's best for her. I was being selfish and I will definitely use a condom. Thanks guys, and wish us luck! :)
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reader, Fabulosa +, writes (2 January 2011):
 U can buy spermicide over the counter. Then you wont need a condom. But seriouly read the instructions very well because a lot of people use it wrong. It about $8 a box (he'll of a lot cheaper than a baby). It comes in a tablet that can be inserted in her or a jelly. It will prob help reduce her pain also because it will add lubercation. I think its the best option for what you want to do. Good luck and have fun!
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reader, Fabulosa +, writes (2 January 2011):
U can buy spermicide over the counter. Then you wont need a condom. But seriouly read the instructions very well because a lot of people use it wrong. It about $8 a box (he'll of a lot cheaper than a baby).
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2011):
Everything Youwish has said is correct. Your gf will have a horrible first time if you do what you're planning. "putting it in her and taking it out" having her take plan B and then putting a condom on and back again... this all sounds really romantic! That is not what either of you want for a first time.
Make sure you use protection. If you don't use a condom you need some other form of protection other than plan B.
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reader, Lotsalove. +, writes (2 January 2011):
 Condoms are used for the prevention of two things - pregnancy and STDs. Firstly seens as you are both virgins, you won't have the problem of passing on STDs, unless either of you have had oral sex with other people?? If you have, then get tested first!
Secondly you need to prevent the pregnancy, get your girlfriend on some form of protection i.e the pill, the implant, injection etc.
When you've done both these things, your good to go! I know it sounds like a lot of hassle but believe me.. a baby or a disease is alot more!!
Good luck & have fun!
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reader, YouWish +, writes (2 January 2011):
 First of all, the Plan B pill isn't a 100% protection. Second of all, is SHE on the pill itself? Maybe you should have her on it before even thinking about this, and third of all, do you love her? If so, why do you want to risk her like this?
Sex isn't about whether or not you have a condom on. Sex is about love and trust.
You may say "it's just in and out once, then I'll put on a condom". Buddy, you must be a virgin if you're even thinking that way. First time virgins guys who have sex for the first time have NOT learned control. Your orgasm will come fast, and everything in you will scream to stay in. Also, think about your girlfriend! You want HER experience to be that you take her virginity, then pull out? Come on.
Her first experience will most likely be painful. You go in, then out, and she will most likely not let you back in. Use the condom and she will be less afraid of pregnancy. You have your entire life to try it without it. Playing around on your first sex is NOT that time. You do not have the control to pull it off, and she will be miserable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2011): Man up use a condom.
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reader, dobro +, writes (2 January 2011):
 just don't. there always a possibility...
too many risks.
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reader, Lucky786  +, writes (2 January 2011):
 If that is what you want to do then your girlfriend needs to be on a regular birth control pill and to be extra safe, she needs to take it for a full menstrual cycle month before you both have sex without a condom.
By the plan b pill, I take it you mean the emergency birth control pill? If so, then that is no guarantee against an unwanted pregnancy. Also you need to be aware of the side-effect of the emergency pill which for her could be pretty horrible. Also neither pill offers protection against STI/STDs like a condom will.
My advice to you both is to use the condom for your first time together and discuss whether your girlfriend wants to take the regular pill. If she does, then wait until another time to make love without a condom. This way you can both relax and enjoy the experience together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2011): Put the ceremony off until she can get on some form of birth control. The plan you have now will not make this a memorable experience.
-The plan b pill can be really unpleasant. I can make her nauseous and sick for a good two days.
-If you are literally counting your strokes, I doubt you would enjoy the experience.
If you really want this to be a special and non-anxious occassion, put it off until she is on some sort of reliable birth control. There are injections, pills (she should be on for at least a month before you go).
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2011): I just had this dilemma two days ago....literally. If your hard and ready and put it in her yes then she can get pregnant. Most guys cant tell when they pre-cum. and she can get pregnant from it. Yes she has to take plan b within 72 hours (3 days) if she doesnt want to become pregnant if you decide not to use a condom.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2011): Hey pal!
Once you put it in her man... youre not gonna wanna take it back out. It will feel too good and you may possibly just keep going and not wanna pause to take it out and put on a hat. You will be in the heat of the moment and therefore present yourself and your lady a great risk. Im really glad youre thinking about this as it is very important. Condom all the way. Best to you.
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