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reader, LadyPinky  +, writes (16 March 2011):
 My boyfriend gave me a promise ring for Valentines Day. Basicly its a promise to become enagaged in the near future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2011): It's a way minors can go steady because they are too young to be engaged. Jewelry is a nice present if you want to get her something. Earings or a nice necklace if you aren't ready to propose marriage.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2011): I could be wrong but I thought promise rings were for teenagers (before they can afford engagement rings) and it's also the promise that you'll wait for each other (ie save your virginity until you're married)... I don't think adults do it.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (16 March 2011):
 I guess that it's about what you're promising. If you buy her a promise ring, you're making a promise that you're faithful, and that the relationship is serious and exclusive.
I agree that usually it's a teenager thing since marriage and engagement is a long way away. It's kind of an intermediate step between boyfriend/girlfriend and engagement.
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reader, MamaBear +, writes (16 March 2011):
I have always thought of promissory rings as being a more teen ager thing! I suppose as one gets older it is assumed that he/she can afford a better ring, say an engagement ring. I may be wrong. Never have gotten one and have only seen about one, so I am no expert. Go ahead and invest in one and surprise your lady friend. She may be expecting a big rock, tho! Thus, the surprise. Or, she may want to have some input into it. Will she wear this ring after you two marry? My brother and his lady friend who are in their 65-75 age brackets are wearing rings that they had from previous commitments with spouses no long living. Thus, a showing of their devotion and future plans for marriage. I think I'd go with what my lady friend may want and what your budget allows. Whatever, good luck to you.
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (16 March 2011):
 This article should help you out here...http://honeymoons.about.com/od/onlineshopping/f/promise_rings.htm
Basically my understanding is a promise ring means that 2 people are in a monogamous relationship and are pledging to be faithful to one another. It can be a pre engagement ring.
As the article suggests, if you buy this ring, make surethat you and the woman talk about things and are on the same wave length and know EXACTLY what kind of promise you are making to one another.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2011): I couldn't put it better than this: http://honeymoons.about.com/od/onlineshopping/f/promise_rings.htmTake care and good luck! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2011): Women LOVE jewelry and a promisory ring is a lovely idea. You may want to make sure she understands its NOT an engagement ring. You don't want her to assume that this is a done deal and to start sending out wedding invitations.
I have heard of women giving men promisory rings but I did it once and it totally scared off the guy.
Good luck.
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