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writes:Penises just completely disgust me. I literally feel like i am going to throw up. And thats just from looking at it. I've been told there's great looking penises and horrible penises, but I just think they are all nasty. I don't want anything to do with it, look at it or touch it. I don't think it's normal but I just don't know. I've come to realize i cant avoid it no matter how much i want to.Just thinking about them right now makes me want to gag. Does anyone else feel this way or is it just me. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2013): First of all, I'm a guy who used to be able to watch porn with penis in it , now I also get sick to my stomach. This happens for a reason that is either physical or mental but remember you are not happy if you lack either one. Don't fly solo!
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reader, GeeGee255  +, writes (14 March 2011):
 If you were attracted to other girls I would have thought you would have known it by now. Maybe you should go out with a lesbian and find out.
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reader, AQY  +, writes (14 March 2011):
Well a penis feels like a hard nose from the shaft, and soft like skin abit rougher from the knob .You just got get over the fear lol .Their not bad what about circumcised penisis
Just more options for you i guess be bare and try them out ,you might even end up liking them one day ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2011): You don't have to be sexually abused to feel this way, but it sure arouses a lot of red flags when this is the feeling.
Those who suggested therapy are "spot on" for what you need. You do need to know why you have this revulsion.
But, if you do see a therapist, make sure that you are totally open and honest, or it is a waste of time and will leave you frustrated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI guess I don't really find men that attractive, so i guess i might be a lesbian. But maybe i just need to find the right guy.
My family wouldnt have cared if i had sex when i was 14.
Its just the penis itself. Dirt and that arent a big deal to me. Ive never been around anyone that was very sick. Picking up poo or seeing someon puke doesnt make me want to puke either. Seeing my parents naked wouldnt have been a big deal either.
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reader, GeeGee255 +, writes (14 March 2011):
One last question that I haven't seen asked yet.
It is just the penis itself that offends you, or is it maybe because you think they are dirty and unclean?
Sometimes strong feeling of disgust like you describe, goes back to childhood and how you were raised. Did anyone in your house have a phobia about dirt or germs? Where you ever punished for things like playing outside and getting dirty?
Were you ever around someone who very ill for a long time?
How are you with other yucky things, such as picking up dog poop, (with a shovel or bag). Or if you see someone throw up, do you have to throw up too?
How open were your parents about nudity in the home? If you walked in on one of them by accident and saw them naked
how would they react? No big deal or total freak out?
Think about these things and maybe you will discover the root of your problem.
I'd love to hear you answers and if this helped you in anyway.
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reader, Tbosse  +, writes (14 March 2011):
 Are you sexual active?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2011): I dont find them attractive to look at either but that doesnt put me off. How do you relate to men in general? Do you sexually desire any men at all? Do you want a sexual relationship with a man?
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (14 March 2011):
 Well, some are symmetrical, straight, nice size but not grotesque - yet perhaps some women cannot abide any man's sexuality. My suggestion is to use a mirror and check out your own labia/vulva. Even though it may appear rather fleshy, unbalanced, twisted, folded, or any of a number of configurations, we men tend to love and appreciate whatever you have. Perhaps another girl's vulva would not cause you to throw up, and that's okay, but it will not fit into your vagina.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2011): Same here. I find them nasty. Only when it is attached to someone I love do I not hate them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2011): Well...it's nothing I'de like to put on my coffee table either.
Objectively speaking, a vagina isn't a thing of great beauty either, but it doesn't stop most men from enjoying the company of women.
How do you feel about men in general?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2011): I used to feel the exact same way and in all honesty I still think they are disgusting! It's more normal than you think. What changed for me was when I found the man I loved, I didn't think it was disgusting at all. I loved every part of him (including his penis haha) I think the same thing will happen for you. As for now, just don't put up with them until you find the one!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIve never been sexually abused or anything
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reader, Illithid +, writes (14 March 2011):
 In all seriousness, this sounds a lot like my ex-girlfriend, and it has cost her several relationships. You might want to talk to someone a bit more professional than us. Have you had abuse in your past? Or is it possible you're just not really into men in general?
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reader, YouWish +, writes (14 March 2011):
 Hmm. Yeah, that does sound unusual. A lot of things came to my mind as I read your posts, but something in me warns me not to guess about this on here, except to say that you might need to talk to someone professional to determine why the penis causes such strong feelings of revulsion in you.
A penis is a natural thing, just as our sex organ is natural to us.
I guess being in love with the owner of the penis puts the mechanics of the organ itself into perspective. You love the guy. Instinct and attraction brings the two of you together, and the end result is wonderful. The penis itself is just a tool, and if you find the man beautiful, you find every part of him beautiful too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2011): I agree. I don't take any offense just because you don't LIKE it. I've got one and don't think it's particularly attractive either. It's just an organ, no better or worse.
It's not there to hurt you. It doesn't smell much. It doesn't really get any more gooey & wet than the female parts do when excited.
Some women get exited about it because they take the erection as a symbol of how attracted the man is to them. (Erections aren't always that simple but male arousal plays a big role most times.)
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reader, jay07800 +, writes (13 March 2011):
have you had bad experiences from one ??
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2011): I have never heard of anyone feeling like that, but I guess there will be some answers soon and maybe other women feel the same. I certainly don't feel like that.
Look, you have to absolutely not look upon this part of someone's body as something separate - it is part of them. It doesn't sound to me as if you are in love with anybody, so why would you be encountering anyone's penis, anyhow? When you do, it should be part of someone you have strong feelings for - someone you really like. And that is just part of him.
Ok, it is something that you don't have - it is a different part. Actually, it isn't totally different - we are all made from the same stuff - it is just that the penis and testicles are the male version of what women have. It is the same material, the same deal. Eg, they have testicles; we have ovaries. The same thing just differently developed.
I don't know why you have this phobia about this part of a man's body. I don't think it is the usual reaction - I think most females are kind of fascinated by it. The natural reaction is to find it at least interesting, and mostly very attractive. OK, if it is attached to a man you don't find attractive - then, yes, it is totally not something you would want to be anywhere near. But if it is part of the guy you love, or are very attracted to, then you feel honoured to be close to it!
I kind of don't know what to say. I think your way through is to find someone you love, then love all of him. Stop freaking out about 'the penis' as if it was some kind of unattached object. It isn't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2011): They are pretty ridiculous looking - not very aesthetically pleasing in the flaccid state, that's for sure. Just like noses, eyes, ears - there are a great variety of penis shapes, some "prettier" than others.
I honestly wouldn't waste my time worrying about it for now. Your feelings will very likely change when you become involved with someone.
If, after you are in a relationship with someone, you find yourself feeling the same way, that is, if it becomes a problem that stops you from developing a relationship with a man, then perhaps you might think of speaking to someone about it.
For the moment - don't worry.
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