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writes:What should I do? are my friends right? ?My ex boyfriend cheated on me, betrayed my trust and my love for him. I loved him so much and he hurt me and lied to my face over and over.He told me he doesn't want a relationship and wants to be single and I found out he's been cheating on me for 2months. the girl told me everything. I told him I know about his other girl he didn't deny just kept saying sorry. I told him he means nothing to me anymore.He texted me saying he's a liar a cheat, etc: and that he's sorry. He says he didn't leave me for the other girl she knows herself he's not keen on her and he didn't leave me cos of her but cos he can't live with himself knowing that he's doing that to me. but I didn't text him back cos I don't want to..I feel like is all just words.My friends think I should go to his house give him the things he got for me and let his family know he cheated on me cos he's probably told his family lies about why we broke up.Please what should I do?Thanks..x
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2011): Are you his wife?...Do you have kids with him?... You'll only make a fool of yourself reporting him to his family...Maybe if they ask you might but even then i think you should just move on and stop wasting precious time and energy on petty paybacks.....And what good will it do you to tell them anyway?
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reader, Justtryingtohelp +, writes (16 March 2011):
 Unless the family start phoning you up and bad mouthing you for some form of lie, I'd leave it.
Though giving him things back may be good to get everything to do with him out of your life.
Or you could just sell the stuff he gave you, or give it to a charity shop.
But the family thing I'd leave unless you felt it necessary for them to know it, he's nothing to you any more anyway so letting the family know would really only do harm.
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reader, soon567  +, writes (16 March 2011):
Just let this go coz your relationship with him has run its course.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2011): First off it is all talk when he says he's sorry. Or else he wouldn't have cheated in the first place. Second what purpose would it serve to go to his house and tell his family that he cheated? Give him back his stuff and be done with it. You would just be creating unnecessary drama for yourself. Move on and be done with him. I have been with too many cheaters that all say they will stop and they never do. Good luck and be strong. :)
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reader, Adorskable  +, writes (16 March 2011):
 What would you gain out of it, the relationship was between you and your ex. If you come out talking sh*t about the relationsip and about him what is this going to solve. You need to get on with your life and worry about you and only you. Don't create more drama in your life he is now part of your history and you should leave him there in the past.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (16 March 2011):
 The best thing you can do is go on with your life - without him.
Dont listen to his excuses, just go out there and enjoy yourself! Do things for yourself, make yourself look extra good when you go out - sometimes the best revenge is no revenge.
By going to his home and telling his family is going to make you look like a spoilt girl. Do you really think they are going to do anything about his cheating?
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reader, YouWish +, writes (16 March 2011):
 What would be the reason for doing that? He is your ex now. Doing that is only to satisfy feelings of revenge in you, and truthfully, if you're wanting to do that, then you're not over him. Your life will hit a rut and grind to a standstill if you keep obsessing over what he did to you.
If you want your ultimate revenge on him, this is how you do it. Take some time and pamper yourself. Sounds like your friends are very supportive and that's great. Listen to them when they say that you did nothing to make him be a liar and a cheat. There is nothing wrong with you.
Then, when you're ready, shake off any urge to either pine for him or become bitter at what he did to you. Let this experience cause you to be better than he is. When you find a new guy, and you will, make sure he's a keeper.
Your lying, cheating ex will have no one but himself to blame, and your life will have rocketed to the stars because you didn't let his crap stop your life's momentum. THAT is ultimate revenge, not to lower yourself to running after him and trying to hurt him. Who needs that. You're much stronger than that.
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reader, MamaBear +, writes (16 March 2011):
Return the items to his home. Period. His family does not need to know the reasons behind your breakup - and would they care? I honestly see no reason to divulge such info to his family. You have no idea what he may have already said, whether true or not! You are both young, I suggest moving on with your life and as the old saying goes, "there are plenty of other fish in the ocean!" Good luck.
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