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writes:I had sex with my best friend's son. His son is near my age and though we have had a past including being intimate, part of me doesn't see it's that wrong but the other part does. His son pursued me for a while, flirted, we went out together to clubs and one night we both we're intoxicated and one thing lead to another. Now since, I feel, he got what he wanted, he has all of a sudden taken the high moral road, I am confused by these mixed signals. Am I so wrong to think it is okay since his dad and I are not in a serious relationship and never have been? It would much rather have his son as a friend than a lover, I want to fix it but I don't think I can at this point.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2012): I would leave this pair behind for good. Don't have sex with men who only want to be your "friend", it's a croc. Don't have sex with your friends, keep it platonic.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2012): Thank you all for replying. To answer some of the quesions to my relpy. First of all, I had not been intimate with his father for many months. He always claimed we were just "friends". And was very clear about me going out to see other people, his son was not in the picture during that time nor did I ever consider his son as someone I would be willing to be intimate with. As far as what we had in common, our personalities complimented each other, he was easy to get along with and so am I. We laugh and have many things in common. I do understand more about myself and why I was attracted to him since beginning our "friendship". He has some of the same qualities as my own father. He listened to me, gave advice and support of the divorce of ten years I was going through. He was a great comfort to me in a very difficult time. After a year of seeing him, his son moved in with him. He ask me to help him out if I could, so I did, and not in the context of being sexual. His son kept coming around every now and then, more so than his father ever did. I do feel like I was being toyed with in the end. I felt his son was playing devil's advocate, talking to his father about giving me mixed signals and he would talk to me about how his father really was about women. I started really questioning things about our "friendship". It definetely put more distance in our friendship than any other time. Was this his son's game to come between us for himself if only for temporary entertainment? If most guys found out their women did that, the woman would be no where near them so no woman would come between them. I wonder if this was the intention to get me out of the picture all together. I am not a bad person, I am going through a bad time but then again I could be wrong. I will not be intimate with the father again because of this. I feel like I should haul ass as fast and far away from both of them but my heart says I would miss my best friend terribly although we are parting slowly. His son is an ass and that could be another reason I am attracted to older men. Guys my age still seem to lack the maturity and finesse of older men.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2012): I think it's fine! So? It's nothing to be ashamed about! We all have sex. You love that man. So??
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (1 April 2012):
 You are best friends with a man old enough to be your father (if his son is the same age as you), and you messed around with the son. What do you and the older man have in common to be best friends? Has he never introduced you to his son, given the fact that you are both single (I'm assuming he is, too) and of the same age?
Its not really technically wrong but it doesn't seem very right either; its messy, to be honest. Think of it this way, if you were to marry the son tomorrow, you would be your best friend's daughter-in-law. I dont know, it all seems a little off, somehow. I would steer clear, if I were you.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (1 April 2012):
 Your best friend is a guy who is obviously older than you by hopefully 20+ years or so? This is really awkward, and if it came out, you may have just torched your friendship with the guy.
How would you feel if you had a daughter and your guy friend were to sleep with her without your knowledge? Yes, you all three are adults, but that's just a bit too close for that sort of thing.
If his dad and you are close friends, this isn't the sort of thing you should do. There's nothing legally wrong about it if he's 36-40 like you are, but that's adding a bit of discomfort to your relationship. I think it crosses a boundary, to be honest.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2012): I don't think this is fixable. Having sex with his son is probably not going to go over well with him and obviously his son has changed his tune now that he got you into bed, it seems like it was just a game for him to see if he could get what his father had. pretty creepy the whole thing imo. I would back away from the son and just don't even mention it to his dad if you want to keep that friendship.
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