More porn = less sex. What's not to get?
Q. Just wanted to put an opinion out there... I have posted questions and answers about porn, spoken to girlfriends and read endless articles about men and womens views on porn. One thing seems glaringly obvious yet so often overlooked by me...
A. 2 February 2012: Women do not get a man's sex drive, plain and simple. There's no way on earth we can compare the physiology and psychology to our own. We can't comprehend that the way we feel having gone a month without sex is the same way a guy feels three DAYS ... (read in full...)
My wife had a termination 6 months into our relationship, and now 7 and a half years later the sex is still terrible!
Q. Hi, me and my first love have just got married 5months ago, we have been together for 8 years nearly and have never slept or even been out with anyone else! We are only in our early and mid 20's. For the first year the sex was great and very ...
A. 31 January 2012: She had a termination which for her was a devastating and extremely traumatic event. Subconsciously, she bundles sex with what caused her extreme pain. You didn't mention how you and she got pregnant in the first place, but if you failed to "pull ... (read in full...)
More porn = less sex. What's not to get?
Q. Just wanted to put an opinion out there... I have posted questions and answers about porn, spoken to girlfriends and read endless articles about men and womens views on porn. One thing seems glaringly obvious yet so often overlooked by me...
A. 31 January 2012: Of course, there's the obvious response to your post is:
If porn use by the man does *not* upset the wife/girlfriend, then the amount of sex will be unchanged.
However, if the porn use is way over the top and obsessive, then it'll interfere ... (read in full...)
His codependency is slowly killing me.
Q. I'm in a relationship I don't see any future in and honestly I don't want to be in the relationship at all anymore. I'm 21 years old and I've been dating my boyfriend for 6 years come this April. The saddest part is I have told my boyfriend this ...
A. 31 January 2012: This is not about codependency. I could sum up your entire post in just a few short sentences:
You're tired of the relationship, his lack of ambition, you losing your free single youth to this guy, and you want out.
Did I get it right?
I c... (read in full...)
Why do some women want to control their ex boyfriends life?
Q. Simple Question: Why do women control or want to control their ex boyfriends? even after several years ,and several new relationships. Ex. I have a friend who remains friends with some and/or still contact ALL their ex's, but completely gets ...
A. 30 January 2012: This does happen, unfortunately. Not often, but it does. Her ego is the reason it happens along with her insecurity. She flips out at her exes because to know that they're moving on, talking to other women and such means that she wasn't good ... (read in full...)
My gf is really 21 but looks 14!! Is it wrong to date her?
Q. i am 29 girlfriend is 21 but she looks about 13 or 14. is it wrong to be going out with her?...
A. 30 January 2012: I disagree with the last poster that there is something wrong with you. If you were dating an actual 13-14 year old, then there would be something wrong with you! In fact, my opinion is that the fact that you're asking this question on here is ... (read in full...)
Which woman do I pick? My long term gf or the new woman, I feel sexually attracted to?
Q. hi im 32 im a gay woman and been with my girlfriend over a year. dont live together yet but we are engaged. thing is we had some ups and downs and i just no longer fancy her and lost my sex drive months ago. i love her so much and enjoy her company ...
A. 30 January 2012: First of all, and you won't like to hear this, but YOU are a cheater. You're cheating on your girlfriend! You're dating another woman while still with your current girlfriend!
That's not *DATING*. That's *CHEATING*.
I'm also going to state w... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is beginning to think I am not attracted to him, anymore! What can I do?
Q. My boyfriend has a high sex drive and i dont, which makes it hard to want sex as often as he does. Im an very emotionally and physically attracted to him, but somedays i just dont feel like having sex, as to him he wants to have sex at least once ...
A. 30 January 2012: Your boyfriend is an insecure tool. Sex isn't all about his drive. Once or twice per day is a lot, and yes, the relationship isn't just about the sex!
You've woken him up to have sex, and he's making it an issue that he can have sex when you... (read in full...)
Asked her out on a 2nd date by text and there was no reply! Feeling a bit awkward, so how do I deal with this?
Q. I went on a date with a girl from work. I liked her and I text her the day after asking for a second date. I have recieved no reply over a week later. I can take this and i know it happens. the problem is that im likely to see her at work. we...
A. 30 January 2012: I agree with everyone on here.
Asking out by text? What?!?
You say that you *see* her regularly as she works in the same building. Ask her out face to face! Asking out by text is showing her that you consider her about the same as an imper... (read in full...)
I feel depressed and sad that my parents are still trying to have children and they aren't thinking about me and my feelings!
Q. i recently came to know that my mom had a missed abortion with a 9 week fetus. I feel so embarrassed and angry and sad because i am 20 and old enough to have my own kids but they want a second kid after so many years. I found out that she had a ...
A. 27 January 2012: First of all, your parents are devastated. They might not have known about the pregnancy, or they might have. It's usually customary not to let people know of a pregnancy until after the 12th week because of the possibility of miscarriage.
Of co... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for being unhappy with the engagement ring?
Q. Dear Cupid, My boyfriend of 4 years and I just recently got engaged. I'm really happy and excited about it all, because I had been pushing the whole get married thing for so long. We shopped around for rings and at first I didn't care which one he'd...
A. 27 January 2012: Wait a second. You *both* shopped for a ring before you told him that you didn't care which one he got you??
You had the ability to pick out your own ring, yet you threw it away in order to "test" how he felt about you, and now you don't like the... (read in full...)
Boyfriend contacts suicidal ex-girlfriend
Q. Long story short: my boyfriend regularly contacts his suicidal ex-girlfriend to make sure she is not going to kill herself and he lied to me about this contact for a long time because he didn't think I would understand and it hurts him to talk ...
A. 19 January 2012: If she was indeed suicidal, and it was an uncomfortable mercy mission for him, why would he lie to you? That is what would upset me the most. The second thing is that he still contacts her and keeps her in his life to some capacity.
I'm with per... (read in full...)
Boyfriend being childish about going down on me. Anyone else having the same issues? What did you do about it?
Q. Ok so, its more something to rage off a bit. I've seen these topics a lot but still, I just NEED to rage it off. The point is, I've been in a very loving relationship for like 7 months now, and we're sexually very active, I have given my boyfrien...
A. 19 January 2012: Heh, he's being childish because oral is an acquired taste, and he sees no reason to do it. You threatening with shaving isn't going to be the answer. The real answer is that he never gets a blow job ever again. Nope. None for him if none for ... (read in full...)
Men, do you watch porn? Woman, are you okay with your man watching it?
Q. Okay I need to know answersfrom men an women! Men do you all watch porn? Me an my boyfriend of 6 years has had this issue I the past year I found him lookin at porn. So it hurts that he has to look at other women it's not like he's watching a video ...
A. 19 January 2012: I've been married for 13 years. My husband watches porn. Not obsessionally, but I know full well that it's a good bet that if I'm out of town, or he's out of town, or I'm off running errands for the day, he'll most likely uhh...partake.
I kne... (read in full...)
We talked about a three-way but my boyfriend won't even talk to the other girl!
Q. Hello For about a year now me and my boyfriend have talked about the idea of having another girl in our relationship. Mostly in a sexual way, but not purely just that... we actually want a 3 way relationship. Anyway, so we talk about this A LOT...
A. 19 January 2012: WOW!! I have never heard of a three way being initiated under this dynamic before (i.e. you starting it because you're bisexual).
Get this -- you are being confronted by very different motives for the threesome. He's intrigued by the sexual f... (read in full...)
I found out she cheated, should I stay or go?
Q. I have been with that girl for over a year now, but I feel like she has a little problems with the word commitment. She has two kids for two different fathers, and the second one when she had it, she was not even divorced. I have found out she has ...
A. 19 January 2012: Yeah, her record of cheating is a very valid concern. Add that to her commitment issues with you, and that does cause things to become uneasy.
When did she cheat on her ex-husband? If it was less than 5 years ago, I'd agree with Code Warrior ... (read in full...)
How do I ask my gf to have sex?
Q. So I want to have sex with my gf, and I don't know if she wants it or not. Both of us are 16, and we've been dating for a month and a half. and both of us are virgins. anyone got advice??...
A. 19 January 2012: A month and a half is kinda soon, especially if both of you are virgins. Losing it, especially for a girl, is a once in a lifetime thing.
I'd say instead of starting the conversation with "i'm really interested in sex with you", you might wa... (read in full...)
My mum and younger sister make me feel I am overweight! I hate eating and I constantly feel fat!
Q. My mum and younger sister always comment on my weight and how I look. In the past 6/7 months I gained 1 stone but my weight is still healthy and so is my BMI for someone who is 5'8" (11 stone) Both of them are overweight and they both admit it bu...
A. 18 January 2012: Listen, they are projecting their own feelings about themselves onto you, and it's actually in a weird way their way of trying to warn you to not become like they are.
You know that your weight is still healthy. If they're keeping on you like you... (read in full...)
Girlfriend hearing things and assumes I'm cheating!
Q. Please I am need of desprate assistance Yesterday my girlfriend came over to my house to study she was already mad at me because she is thinking I cheated because Long story short I didn't cum the day before and I told her "I'm gonna cum ok" she ...
A. 18 January 2012: Boy, with girlfriends like this, who needs enemies?? You said a fight over cheating was getting "physical"? Was she hitting you and slapping you?? Abuse is abuse. No one has the right to put their hands on another.
Not only does she have maj... (read in full...)
Guys, is it a deal breaker for you if your girlfriend hates blow jobs?
Q. I tried giving blow jobs, it hurts, my jaws got irritated , i felt used (i knew i`m not gonna like them) and i felt bad about myself, i love sex though. so is it a deal breaker if a woman refuses to give it to her boyfriend? i never asked any men ...
A. 18 January 2012: It's about sexual compatibility. Some guys must have it, others couldn't care less. I think the answer lies with individual preferences.
Personally, it was an acquired taste for me. I had to get used to it, and now I absolutely love giving t... (read in full...)
Dating for a year and b/f will not touch me! He says I am putting pressure on him
Q. I got myself into a pickle. I think I'm in love with this man I've been dating for a year. I'm 24 and he's 37. In this time we have only fooled around but never had sex. I will pleasure him but he has never touched me down there. He will ...
A. 18 January 2012: Boy oh boy. Dating a year, and it's an argument over his being sexual with you? He shows no hunger except for you to go down on him?
He's either a 37 year old virgin, or he's gay.
Either way, my creepy meter is off the charts.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says the mark on his neck is a bruise. I say it's a love bite.
Q. Thanks in advance for your answers! Last night I noticed what looks like a lovebite on my boyfriends neck. When I mentioned it he said it must be a 'bruise'. Since when do love bites look like bruises? When I tried to bring it up again he got angry, ...
A. 18 January 2012: Good question Cerberus. Often, anger is a red flag. However, before we read too much into the kind of anger, there is a difference between anger and defensiveness. It was also not mentioned WHERE on the neck the mark is, nor the size, shape, or ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says the mark on his neck is a bruise. I say it's a love bite.
Q. Thanks in advance for your answers! Last night I noticed what looks like a lovebite on my boyfriends neck. When I mentioned it he said it must be a 'bruise'. Since when do love bites look like bruises? When I tried to bring it up again he got angry, ...
A. 18 January 2012: So very Confused brought up a really good point.
I grew up with two brothers who loved nothing more than to wrestle constantly with their guy friends and each other. One of their favorite moves was a headlock, which can definitely bruise the hell... (read in full...)
I think I love my girlfriend's best friend!
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for a while now and everyday I hang out with her and her friends. I think that I'm starting to have feelings for her best friend. No matter what I do I can't stop thinking of her. I'm not sure what to do or if this is ...
A. 18 January 2012: STAY AWAY From the best friend. Seriously. Bad, bad bad bad idea. That breaks all sorts of woman-law to even look at a best friend's boyfriend, much less commit the ultimate betrayal of stealing a best friend's guy. No way! Even if you and your ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says the mark on his neck is a bruise. I say it's a love bite.
Q. Thanks in advance for your answers! Last night I noticed what looks like a lovebite on my boyfriends neck. When I mentioned it he said it must be a 'bruise'. Since when do love bites look like bruises? When I tried to bring it up again he got angry, ...
A. 18 January 2012: Wait!
I bruise really easily, and many times I have no idea how they got there. A love bite *is* a bruise, and if I were in your shoes, I'd watch for more of them or other marks of passion before jumping to the "love bite" conclusi... (read in full...)
Does he deserve a second chance after he lied about wearing a condom?
Q. I have been dating this guy for a couple of months. He's nice to me, although he has a bit of a problem telling the truth. He does not like wearing protection as he says he doesn't feel anything and the rubber irritates him. I finally agreed t...
A. 18 January 2012: Person is correct. This would be an issue of sexual assault. Depending on where you live, it can best either be pursued criminally or civilly. However, you missed the window of proof as far as DNA goes, and in order to win the battle of your word ... (read in full...)
I dyed my hair bright red, what do you think people think, when the see my hair?
Q. Hi. I am a teenager and like most teenagers I want to express myself. I dyed my hair bright red, and when I say bright red, I mean BRIGHT red; I love it! I am usually a shy and quiet person, and listen to my mother and teachers, im not a goody tw...
A. 18 January 2012: Bright red hair tells me that the person is creative! This might not be true, but I'd think you were artsy/creative or maybe a musician or poet. It would also tell me that you're not boring!
I've had my share of bright hair colored friends,... (read in full...)
How do I ask her out without sounding pushy?
Q. I was recently put in touch with an old female school friend I havent seen in 20 years, I ran into her at a restaurant a few months ago and I heard she was seperated, I requested her as a FB friend and we shared a few comments back and forth, How ...
A. 18 January 2012: Go slow! If she's separated, she still has business with her soon-to-be-ex husband. Stay friends for now. Get to know her without the pressure of getting sexual or asking her out. Let her open up emotionally to you on a platonic level. Get to ... (read in full...)
An affair with married man who gets caught but still wants affair?
Q. I already know what people will say about my relationship with the married man I am seeing. I feel bad and have ended it more than 4 times now but he keeps wanting me back. Here is my story. I have known this man since we were kids and dated in high ...
A. 18 January 2012: Maybe it's time to see him for what he truly is and ask yourself the questions you've been avoiding, such as:
1. If he's had two marriages, yet has had an affair with you throughout both marriages, why weren't you good enough for him to pursue a... (read in full...)
He wants to propose in front of everyone!
Q. So me and my boyfriend are 3 and a half years apart. he asked me if he proposed to me what would i say? (he is older) so i said of course i would say yes. and he said he can't wait till he can do it infront of everyone! im really nervous. i dont ...
A. 17 January 2012: Do you want him to do it in front of everyone?
I'd say be happy that he wants to do it anyway. He wants to do it in front of everyone as a way to declare to his entire world that you are the ultimate love of his life, and that he wants to shout... (read in full...)
Does my wife love me?
Q. lm a guy aged 24 and im married.my wife she is pregnant,the problem is that all the time she want to fight with me and she hate me.the other thing is that she likes sex everytime when i am at home even im tired coming from work,tell me did this ...
A. 17 January 2012: This one's weird. You say she wants to fight you and she hates you, but she wants to have constant sex with you no matter how tired you are.
I'd say your wife is dealing with pregnancy hormones, unless she was treating you like this before s... (read in full...)
I just don't seem to be monogamous. Is this a problem that needs therapy or am I fine, with a different preference?
Q. So I'm 27 years old and I'm beginning to wonder if there's something wrong with me. I'm a lesbian by the way, just to get that out and open before I even really begin. I've watched as every single one of my close friends has met someone, settled...
A. 17 January 2012: First of all, if you feel like therapy is a good option for you, then pursue it without shame, because there should be absolutely no stigma to doing everything in your power to help yourself if you need it.
That being said, I think your being a ... (read in full...)
He wanted sex. I had my period. Finally I agreed to do it, as I was horny. But it all ended badly, with him freaking out. Was his reaction excessive disgust?
Q. This may gross some people out with I need some honest opinions... I have a fwb and we have sex on a regular basis. Well the other night he came over and I was on my period (a very light one) so I declined sex and just gave him head. Well the ...
A. 17 January 2012: I agree with Ciar, but I want to address something you said that I didn't see commented on by the others:
This:
"I have a fwb and we have sex on a regular basis.?
This:
" And just so you know there's nothing between us except for se... (read in full...)
Why are women so close about allowing a new woman to join them? I feel excluded and cannot understand why they do it.
Q. Something I don't think I will ever really understand is relationships among women. Specifically friendships. I have never been apart of the 'girls' clique. Ever. Not even when I was a child! To this day I am still faced with this problem. I l...
A. 17 January 2012: It depends partially on where you live (different regions tend to have women who are more or less open), and partially on whether or not you're meeting people with common interests.
That being said, it depends MOSTLY on you. I've learned that if ... (read in full...)
He and his wife are separated but he's in no hurry to obtain a divorce
Q. I met a man 6 months ago. I knew he was still married. His wife left him after an injury a year and a half ago and is involved with another man. This has been the best 6 monthd of my life. I have been single for a couple of years with two young gi...
A. 17 January 2012: Hmm...there are no kids in this situation you say? This is also not about property or estate division because if he's having a foreclosure, there wouldn't be much of any assets to speak of.
Clearly, the guy's not ready to move on. Money's ... (read in full...)
Does he deserve a second chance after he lied about wearing a condom?
Q. I have been dating this guy for a couple of months. He's nice to me, although he has a bit of a problem telling the truth. He does not like wearing protection as he says he doesn't feel anything and the rubber irritates him. I finally agreed t...
A. 17 January 2012: One other thing -- can you please let us know if you get your period? I'll feel better if you didn't get impregnated.
Also, I read in your post that you're in a country where emergency contraception is banned? Your flag says the US, which al... (read in full...)
Does he deserve a second chance after he lied about wearing a condom?
Q. I have been dating this guy for a couple of months. He's nice to me, although he has a bit of a problem telling the truth. He does not like wearing protection as he says he doesn't feel anything and the rubber irritates him. I finally agreed t...
A. 17 January 2012: Sorry about my language, but HOLY SHIT!
First, if you're not yet on the pill, I'd recommending quickly getting the morning after pill and taking it without delay. Given that your period is two weeks away, you're at very high risk for pregnanc... (read in full...)
Husband didn't satisfy me emotionally so I went online, he found out and we are working on things but things still aren't right
Q. Hello everyone, I have been married for almost nine years, I have a wonderful husband, he's been the most kindest, compassionate, wonderful man I have ever known, only problem is, is that we don't get intimate nearly enough, if I'm lucky it's once a ...
A. 16 January 2012: You're writing this as if there are only two options here:
Leave, or cheat.
This is simply not true. While I understand needs not getting met by the marriage (many guys talk about their sexual needs not being met, and it's valid as well), ... (read in full...)
I don't trust her
Q. I have a girlfriend and we've been friend for many years. She and her husband have always had a rocky marriage. He has a reputation for fooling around on her and when this happens she sleeps with other men to get even. Maybe it's an ego boost. My ...
A. 15 January 2012: No way should you trust her!
You can trust your husband though as of now because he's being honest with you, informing you of what happened and such. This is a good thing. I doubt at all that he's regretting not taking her up on her offer be... (read in full...)
I started to have feelings for my FWB so he told me to get a boyfriend
Q. Ive been seeing some one for about six months.. But its susposed to be just a phsyical relationship if u get me. Because of our circumstances he wudnt have time for me properly and im 20 hes.39.. No one no's about it, anyway we decided to just have ...
A. 15 January 2012: You're 20 and he's 39, and he wants to use you for sex. This guy isn't worth it! If you've developed feelings for him that he doesn't return, time to end things with him and quickly, forcibly, and finally. To wait, continue to sleep with him, and ... (read in full...)
I've gained weight and loss myself confidence
Q. I feel I am loosing myself confidence, I use to be able to go outside wearing my pj's and no make-up, and now I wouldn't dare, at least not without feeling like crap. This is all because of my weight, I can't seem to get control of myself, I am the ...
A. 15 January 2012: Well, in some of us, our metabolism slows down as age advances, coupled with eating being used as comfort, as well as a lack of decent sleep, stress, young kids, and a need to set s program for ourselves that can cause our physical fitness and ... (read in full...)
I feel guilty that I don't want a child with my wife, but I might with another woman
Q. My wife is now entering into menopause. We never had a child. We talked about it now and again, but it was never a priority for us. There was a time when she said she wanted that experience, but I didn't take her seriously because - for on...
A. 15 January 2012: Well, it's not that you're lying. You're simply telling the truth as it stands now. Your truth with your wife is that you don't want kids with her.
However, as far as your guilty feelings are concerned, this is something to reflect on. Does par... (read in full...)
| *ouWish's friends
These are mutual friends, so *ouWish has
added them and they have added *ouWish!
|
![[?]BitterSweetFinale;[?] agony aunt](/avatars/7bb1e9ea-6c2f-43b8-a4f7-0635b7eff08c.png){kind=small}
