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writes:I met this guy at a party at the beginning of this year - he didn't hide that he fancied me but I wasn't really interested so I just left it. I hadn't seen him in a few months but a few weeks ago I went to another party that he was at. We started chatting again and after the party someone else told me that he had fancied me for a few months and took ages to stop fancying me.We've been talking lately and he is clearly interested again - but I'm not sure if I like him that way. He's a lovely guy and he's not bad looking, but I don't know whether I actually like him like that, or whether I'm just becoming interested because he is. I'm just wondering whether this is a bad foundation of a relationship or whether it doesn't really matter at this stage. I'm only 17 so not looking for an overly serious relationship or anything.So I just don't know whether it'd be a mistake like going out with him because I'm only really interested in him because he is with me? Some people say that it could only end badly but I'm unsure, any help or past experience or anything would be greatly appreciated, thanks xxx Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey thank you for all your advice :) I've taken it on board xxx
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reader, laxchic24  +, writes (19 August 2010):
Hello, I have had so much experience with boys and men that I'm sure I could help! There are only two things that could happen if you choose to go out with him; one, you could end up actually really having feelings for him, two, you discover that you don't like him like that. The only way to really know for sure if there could possibly be a spark is to have a date or two. There have been times when I wasn't sure I liked someone like that and after spending some time alone together I was able to figure it out. My best advice to you is this, go on one date and trust your gut completely. If there is any doubt about how you feel, trust that intuition and call it a no. Any time you are uncertain about whether you have feelings for someone, most likely you don't. Its nice to be fancied like that but it doesn't mean you like him, just the way it makes you feel to be wanted and adored. I've made the mistake of being in a relationship just because he liked me, but I wasn't sure if I actually liked him or if I just liked the way he made me feel. It went on for a few months and became a chore to see him and I eventually left him for someone else. That someone else wasn't good looking, but I was sooo attracted to him that we ended up having an intensly passionate relationship and fell madly in love. When you meet the right guy, your heart will race, your stomach will drop, and everything becomes sunny. You're suddenly goofy and carefree, and the attraction you feel will be undeniable and every second will be spent thinking of him. But for some people this doesn't happen right away (it does for me) and it can take a couple dates or for my best friend months. That's why I say give it a try and let your instinct decide for you. Maybe there's a side of him you will absolutely fall for, and it's a side of him you haven't got to know yet. You are very young so I'm sure this isn't gogoing to be a wedding so have fun! Take a chance that you may have found Mr special, and if not, at least a good looking guy friend that makes you feel special. Good luck! And please update
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (19 August 2010):
 Every relationship doesn't start with the two falling madly in love with each other. When i first met my gf we had nothing in common and didn't think we would ever be together but thiings just worked out. I would try atleast one date to see if you have feelings for him when you two are alone and its not the party situation. You never know what will come out of it.
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reader, clayton +, writes (19 August 2010):
why dont you just be friends with him for a bit? learn a little about him and see if you guys are compatible? then go from there
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reader, Duckiies +, writes (19 August 2010):
 Plain and simple. Give it a shot. worst come to worst you break up.
JUST GO FOR IT, WE ONLY LIVE ONCE
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reader, LublyuYa +, writes (19 August 2010):
You're still young, and if you don't want a serious relationship and he seems like a nice, decent individual I would go for it- gives you experience with guys so when you finally meet someone you want a long-term relationship with, you know more about what you want and don't want in a relationship. Just be cautious if you do find yourself wondering whether you like or him or just like the fact that he likes you. No harm going out on a date or two, and if it doesn't work, it doesn't work, and you both move on.
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