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*sitworthit16
writes:I really need some help/tips with this recent problem that I just discovered. Me and my boyfriend are both virgins and ready to have sex and we tried a couple of times already but he just can't enter me. It has nothing to do with me not being wet enough or him not being hard. Idk what the problem is but he just can't enter me:( what can we do??
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reader, EbonyBlossom  +, writes (19 August 2010):
 It's because you're tight. He will fit, but you're gonna have to stretch, and more often that not, it hurts! Relax, use plenty of lube, talk to each other about what's happening and things will be easier =]
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reader, daletom +, writes (19 August 2010):
You didn't give much detail about why he can't enter you. Physiologically, bringing you to orgasm just before trying to enter you is often recommended - you will be as open, lubricated, and relaxed as you'll ever be. Using one of the girl-on-top positions is also suggested, so that you can get the angle and location just right - there is NO WAY he can feel what you're feeling as he tries to enter.
It may be helpful to read some of the "First Time Sex" threads, such as "How does it feels having sex for the first time in your life as a teenager?" at http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-does-it-feels-having-sex-for-the.html , or "First time - painful?" at http://www.dearcupid.org/question/first-time---painful.html .
My suspicion is that perhaps your mind, your emotions, and your body aren't quite in agreement that this is something you should be doing just yet.
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reader, Jesc +, writes (19 August 2010):
 Did he do the steps?
1 finger
2 finger
3 finger more
Then just try the tip of his penis.
Make sure it is just the tip.
Seriously relax and do not force it to hurry.
Take your time.
I'm not going to say this will work 100%
As sick as it sounds you have to stretch yourself.
make sure I stress like no other you are FULLY LUBED.
whether that means you use the whole bottle.
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reader, smiliek  +, writes (19 August 2010):
 i hope he's wearing a condom... Get him to put lube on his penis that will help. And take it slow. Chances are you're a bit nervous about having sex and our bodies tend to close up more when we're worried. Try and relax. And if its not working, dont try and rush it. You're young, you may not quite be ready yet
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reader, isitworthit16 +, writes (19 August 2010):
isitworthit16 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah he fingered me before that and there is like no pain or anything and we did use lube so idk. Ahaha and yes the vagina not the hole lol. Can it be an actual problem?
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reader, heartbroken101 +, writes (19 August 2010):
 finger. make sure its the right hole and RELAXXXXXXX. but god he must be big :P push ok seriously he needs to push if it hurts to much dont stop all together... use lube and relax and just feel everything kay. go with it. if it dont feel right dont push it otherwise it just wont feel comfy and you wont wanna do it again.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (19 August 2010):
 Try lots of other lube and get a good fingering session in before he tries to enter you. Then try to relax as best as possible and it should work. The fingering will open it up as he goes up from one finger.
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reader, Duckiies +, writes (19 August 2010):
 wow hes must be big.
Um make sure its the vagina and not the a hole LOL.
Maybe your to tight for him and hes to large.. just use lubricate or something to make it slide in
have fun (:. take it slow
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