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*opeles4love
writes:im 18 years old and ive never had a girlfriend. i have plenty of friends that are girls but have never had a serious relationship. ive never even been kissed. im not a bad looking guy. i have girls tell me im good looking and some actually check me out. but every time i get to know a girl and eventually ask them out they say sure but cancel the day before or the day of the date. i would definatley under the category of a nice guy. i get told that a lot. are girls just not interested in nice guys? i see girls complain all the time about how they broke up with their boyfriend because he was a jerk. yet they wont give me a chance to show them i will be good to them. do girls not like nice guys or what? advice would be very appreciated
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reader, micpets  +, writes (27 August 2010):
Women.....they change according to that time of the month.
Hahahahaha......anyway you can never tell........
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reader, BridgingTheGap27  +, writes (26 August 2010):
 Personally, I think nice girls like nice guys. The girls who know what's important in a relationship and who are mature in their view of love will want a guy who cares about them, makes them feel safe, makes them laugh and makes them feel like the luckiest girl alive.
I used to get very low about the fact that I've never had a boyfriend but I'll soon be 16 and this summer I've begun to realise that if you continue to be a decent person, decent guys will want to go out with you.
To the people who take one look at you and decide they don't want to go out with you, I say 'your loss'. Who are they to judge you and think they've got you all worked out?
Any girl who makes you feel like you need to be someone else, dangerous, mysterious whatever, isn't worth it. It means she won't appreciate you for what you are and will always be wanting you to change to suit her idea of what a boyfriend should be like.
I know you'll find a girl who's looking for a nice guy who will love her with all he has, there are more of us out there than you'd think.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (25 August 2010):
What girls really like it fun, novelty, spontaneity, surprise and a little hint of danger.
Sadly, bad boys provide all that more openly that nice guys, who often take time to really open up. Bad boys represent a challenge, they represent someone who will sweep a woman off her feet and have fun and such.
So, the key for you is to make sure that you remain nice, but you have interests you can share with a woman, that you're confident, that you are able to surprise a woman, and that you know what you want from your own life. That way you can provide the fun and excitement while also being a decent guy. And then you'll you'll suddenly find that a really decent woman will be interested in you. And I know, because it happened to me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2010):
Most girls are more attracted to jerks. They screw a bunch of jerks before they grow up enough to want a nice guy.
If you want to wait several more years for a girlfriend, and then end up with a girl who has already fucked every jerk in town, then keep on being a nice guy.
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reader, Morrissey-fan +, writes (25 August 2010):
Not all women are the same!! Sometimes guys get bad and confident mixed up, confidence is extremely extremely sexy
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2010): What The Realist said and also the fact that many girls are naturally drawn to drama or passion, i.e. the jerks/bad boys. The nice guys will get the nice girls. The problem is the nice nice girls are more rare than the nice guys. Also nice girls are still like most girls and will take more time to see what they really need.
Put yourself out there more. Don't be afraid to flirt or smirk if you can pull that off. Draw in some more interest from girls and don't label yourself. If you have that mentality, it's harder to put yourself outside of its stereotypes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2010): There's not too many people like you. You will make someones mother happy! Keep it that way! Just continue to be you. Remember some chicks may think you're not into them, so check your convos. They're plenty of web sites with flirting tips that are acceptable for your age. Or try looking up conversation starters. Good luck, and stay cool!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2010): It all depends on the girl. I would like a guy that is really nice but if someone were to come up to him and start talking bad about him or a friend or me I would want him to kick his ass. Someone that could protect me, who cares, whos sweet, I like both. As I said it all depends on the girl. Women like to see both sides of a man. Its mysterious, and handsome [I think it is I dont know about other women]. Dont worry, you'll find a girl and you'll get kissed, have sex, have kids, and get married someday.:]
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (25 August 2010):
 Girls are interested in nice guys but it usually takes alot longer for things to develope between a girl and a nice guy. In the end the nice guys are the ones who get the best girls though so don't stop being the nice guy that I am sure you are. Be patient, nice guys may finish last but we finish the happiest.
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