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writes:hey i am 14 and my name is sherry i have allways wanted a baby sence i was 11 and i really want one i have got a boyfriend and everything but i really dont know what to do Reply to this Question
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reader, 123Jessica123  +, writes (27 August 2010):
 I was just like you, ive always wanted a baby young, and im now 17 and i have a one year old, and starting off i wasnt in the position to have one, i was babysitting for a part time job, i was still in school, and me and my boyfriend were on and off. Having a child at your age is difficult, there are so many risks that can harm you and the baby , and like other people have responded to this question they are right in ways, like not being able to go out with your friends and taking precausions.
My advice to you, is to take your time on having a baby and wait longer, when you have a stable job, house/appartment and a stable relationship.
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reader, *julia*  +, writes (27 August 2010):
I really think you should wait. It isn't like out are going to stay with the boy your with now for the rest of your life and good luck finding another boyfriend who will accept a baby. If you get pregnant, odds are your mother and father will lose all respect for you and they won't take care of your baby for you. They may be cute and you may want one, but they will consume all your time. I'm your age and I don't even want a child at all and good luck making plans and going out because you won't be able to. Just please wait till your older or you will regret it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2010): A bit of advice - watch "16 & Pregnant" It will put you off babies for life!..Im the same age as those girls having children and I think "Why would they want to be housebound and look after a young baby when they are still only children themselves!?"..
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reader, lou_xx  +, writes (27 August 2010):
PLEAAAAAAASE dont go down this road. Trust me, wait until you are older or you will regret it. You are young, there is so much you can do with your life! You can travel? You can even invest in setting up your own buisness... anything!! but believe me, a child will hault whatever your dreams of the future are. Yeah, they are beautiful and they will love you forever, but it will be the same in a few years! I want kids too! but im going to wait until i have finished university and until im stable in life.
come on girl, its not like theres going to be a huge epidemic in the future where no one will be able to have children, you will have children one day. But you are still a child yourself.
hope you make the right decision xxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2010): Wait till you are secure in a job and have the finances to support the baby. Far too many babys are brought into the world and live in unstable backgrounds. Get good qualifications, wait at least 10 years and offer to look after other peoples kids. Its not all fun and games!!!
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (26 August 2010):
Babies are cute, aren't they? Smiling eyes, sweet laugh, innocent and cuddly...What you don't realize is that they don't sleep at the times you want them to, cry when you want them to be quiet and you'll have to change diapers, feed them, look over them. You want to go out? Too bad, you can't leave the baby alone. You want to go away a week with your friends? Scratch it. You want to make something of your future? Go to college, travel maybe? Forget it. Tired of your boyfriend after a while? Good luck finding a new one who will accept a child. Having children is great. But NOT at your age. You have no idea about the responsibility you have and it is NOT FAIR to your baby if you have it while you haven't secured your own future yet. Don't rely on your parents either. In the end, it's YOUR child and you want them to call YOU "mom". You probably know some people who have a baby. Ask them what it's like and not just the good things. Help around for a day if they permit you and you'll see how much work you have to put in caring for such a harmless, helpless little thing. If you really want to be a good mom, wait until you have the following:- a house or rented home paid for by you (and your spouse)- an education that enables you to have a job that covers the expenses and gives you room to spend money on things like clothes and amusement. In other words: stability. You're still living under your parents' roof. You don't have the means to care for a child. And just because you want it doesn't mean you should.
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reader, The Realist +, writes (26 August 2010):
 I say don't have one for quite some time. Now its not based only on your age because I think you would really put your all into the child and be a good mother. The problem is that you still have to get through school to get a good job so that way when the baby does come you will be able to provide for it how ever you want to. Right now you may have the drive which is good but you don't have the resources to follow through on it. Have patience for one day you will have children and be very happy that you enjoyed your youth which you only ever get one of. Trust me, in time you will find the guy you will marry and then when you have a nice place for your children to play and grow you will be happy you waited till then.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2010): You are way too young to have a child, you're still a child yourself. Concentrate on school and going out with friends, you shouldn't even being thinking about having a child at such a young age.
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