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writes:okay, well i've been with my boyfriend about 2 months he's a year older than me and he has "urges". he wants to get sexually involved with me but both of us have no experiece and i'm not sure wether i'm old enough or even ready i don't know what to do help! :(thanks xxx Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionEverything worked out :) thanks everyone :)
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reader, QuartzKitty  +, writes (28 August 2010):
I have to concur with the other answers here. Regardless of your age, if you have any doubts that you want you want to have sex, you are not ready and should not do it. It'll just cause you to regret it. Wait until you have no doubts. When you feel that you are ready, when you have no doubts or reluctance at all, then you are ready.
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reader, sexytiff  +, writes (27 August 2010):
well i say u wait girl becaz im young and my bf is 2 years bigger and we have been for 3months and we both love each other and agried after marriage,so if this guy really love you he will wait until u r ready...well i guess best of luck if he agried...
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwow you'va all helped so much i know what i have to do now i'll just tell him we're not ready but maybe in time we might be and not time a week time at least a year xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks a lot ihearttw
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks a lot. :)
He's really sweet and like 5 mins after i leave him he'd send me a text saying i miss you or i love you so i wouldnt say that's all he's looking for .. should have really describe him more woops well i'm his first girlfriend but i've had a few before him he's sweet and never stops telling me he loves me and how he never wants to lose me and yeah there's an update anyway
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (26 August 2010):
 If you are having second thoughts about it then its best that you wait and do some research. This is something that you don't want to regret. I am not one to put an age restriction with sex but it has to be when you feel you understand all that is involved and truly want it. Don't let the pressure bother you, you have a long time time to decide and I wouldn't be in a hurry to do it. Also wait till the guy has earned your trust and proven thats not just what he is there for.
Best of luck to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2010): You should be a 100% ready to have sex when you do. So if you "aren't sure" that means you aren't ready. It's natural for boys (and girls) to have sexual urges, I mean your teenagers, but there's a difference between wanting and it being alright. Sex is an emotional experience as well and if you've only been dating for 2 months I'd wait. Get to know him better. Make some memories. Have fun.
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reader, DanceInTheDark +, writes (26 August 2010):
 If you're wondering if you're old enough, then chances are you aren't.
If you don't want to do it, then don't. He has urges? Then he can go masturbate.
Chances are you aren't ready, so don't rush into it, or it could turn out to be a huge mistake. Will you two even be together in 6 months? What if he breaks up with you after?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2010): If you're having doubts then you're not ready. Don't do something you'll regret and can never take back. So what if your bf has "urges" if he cares about you he will wait.
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reader, ihearttw +, writes (26 August 2010):
 My boyfriend and i are the same way, but the best way is to wait till your even at least 17 years old to have sex. My mother is a labor delievery nuse ( delivers babies) and she has said that alot of the younge girls she has had, cry so loud, scream, rip, or die. Just tell him to wait, all boys at this age have "urges" because they get their stuff alot fast then us girls. Just wait, plus it gives you time to build a strong realationship. Plus i am guessing you dont know alot about sex, or boys, just because of the urge thing, but look some stuff up about guys, and sex. That's what i did. Your welcome:) and be safe
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