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writes:I need some advice. My husbands parents go to these bike rallies where all the women walk around completely naked and you can see ppl getting blow jobs and having sex and stuff. Anything you can think of goes on at this place. Well they keep asking him to go with. And i dont think it is a place for married men. I just feel like it is a place for single ppl and if he wants to act single then he needs to be single. But he says that if i trusted him i would let him go because guys are going to look anyways it is in their nature. Am i being too uptight about this?
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reader, dirtball +, writes (23 August 2010):
 Why are you so sure he'd be drooling over the girls there? You don't have very much trust in him. That's truely sad.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2010): Hi
My main question would be is he a BIKER in the first place? Does he even ride?
Spunkey Monkey
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2010): Thanks guys for your response. But I actually have seen what goes on. His dad brings the video camera and videos women the whole time. and there are ALOT of naked women and men there. And they do perform sexual acts there. I was considering letting my husband go until i saw the video. And at first his parents offered for me to go..with or without my husband. And when i saw what goes on i told them it is not my preference. So now that they know i dont like it they keep trying to get my husband to go without me. They are always trying to make trouble between us. But it would kill me to go and see my husband drooling over a bunch of other women. And i feel like if you are married you shouldnt be out getting drunk and partying with other (naked) women. If it were just a harmless BBQ then it wouldnt be so bad
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2010): Thanks guys for your response. But I actually have seen what goes on. His dad brings the video camera and videos women the whole time. and there are ALOT of naked women and men there. And they do perform sexual acts there. I was considering letting my husband go until i saw the video. And at first his parents offered for me to go..with or without my husband. And when i saw what goes on i told them it is not my preference. So now that they know i dont like it they keep trying to get my husband to go without me. They are always trying to make trouble between us. But it would kill me to go and see my husband drooling over a bunch of other women. And i feel like if you are married you shouldnt be out getting drunk and partying with other (naked) women. If it were just a harmless BBQ then it wouldnt be so bad
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2010): Not a place for a married man? So you don't have any trust in your relationship?
Where did you get your source of information? I've been to bikers fests and they have been NOTHING like that.
You are being unnecessarily uptight. If you dont trust your husband to leave the house and not have sex with somebody else, maybe you should re-assess your relationship.
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reader, StrayTogether.com +, writes (21 August 2010):
 I'm going to guess that "all" the women walk around "completely" naked is probably an exaggeration on someone's part and that while some sex acts may be witnessed, that, too, is likely an exaggeration.
I think the comments here noting that these are not model-perfect people walking around exposing themselves and that there will be far less to arouse him then one's imagination may hold are pretty accurate.
And is there a reason that you can't go, too? I also agree that it could be a fun new experience for the two of you to take in together.
Personally, [and this comes from a swinger], I'm not sure that this is the sort of event I'd want to attend with either my parents or my in-laws, but to each his own. :)
Fondly,
Jill
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2010): really dunno how to answer this but iv got to b honest id b livid, and he wudn b going without me. U need to question y he wants to go to a mass orgy in the first place. Tho iv been to a couple of bikers festivals and theyv been nothing like that i promise.
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reader, alexia_marie +, writes (20 August 2010):
you should go to, it would a expierence for both of you.
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reader, Chippy2 +, writes (20 August 2010):
I would be concerned as to why his parents didnt invite you too? I dont think that he should go without you and that you should have blind trust - no that sounds like and invite waiting to happen AND his parents may not be watching him - they may want him to stray while there or dont care - maybe they are swingers themselves!
If he wants to go then he should tell them you are going too - and go and see what it is all about. Are ALL the women naked? Men too?
Let me tell you - they wont all be beautiful people like you may have in your mind! LOL
Good luck -
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reader, dirtball +, writes (20 August 2010):
Ahhh, Sturgis, good times.
Have you ever been there? Have you ever actually seen this stuff? I doubt it, because if you had, you'd realize that most of the naked women you're left wishing had cloths on. The people you see having sex are straight nasty. And really it's just a bunch of drunken stupidness. Really, I sincerely doubt you have anything in the slightest to be concerned about.
"Mmmmm, toothless biker skank. I'm gonna cheat on my wife because I REALLY want herpies, syphilis, the clap, or whatever else they may have brewing in there!"
Serously, you should both go. I think it would put your mind at ease.
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reader, Over..worried.  +, writes (20 August 2010):
 Wh don't you offer to go with him? Then maybe you can feel better about it and maybe even have fun?
And I have to agree, with the person before me I can't see how going with his parents would be fun .... considering you say all the women walk around naked so I am assuming.......
But no I to don't think I would ever go myself or let a husband or even serious boyfriend go.
I say suggest going with him, if he says no ... then you might want to be worried .
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2010): I disagree that it's not a place for a married man, his parents go, they're married right? I've gone to a few of these and they're not the free for all you think they are. Most, if not all those people getting it on are long term couples and even that's kind of rare. It isn't some meat fest where everyone is shagging. It's just a festival like any other where people go and get nicely drunk and eat bbq food.
Has your husband been to these kind of things before? Before he met you even?
Why can't you go with him?
I'll tell you though, if he's going with his parents then he's going to looked after. You really think anything is going to happen while they're there? They probably just want to have some fun and beers with their son.
Personally I think you should try and get over it, not because I think you're wrong. You're feelings are natural and it's fine to feel that way. But you should allow him the freedom to go out and have a bit of fun, if there are naked people around, so what?
I'm sure you go out sometimes with the girls on nights out to clubs where there are lots of single men. He trusts you to do the right thing there doesn't he? Then why is this so different?
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reader, The Realist +, writes (20 August 2010):
 He is right that if you trusted him you would be able to let him go to temptation and know he would not do anything. Plus I am doubting anything is that arousing there especially with his parents there. Then there is your side where if he loved you he wouldn't go because it bothers you so much. Personally I say let him go to test whether you can actually trust him in these situations. Tell him that its ok that you see these things but you can't get involved. He'll probably laugh and say that that was a no brainer. Test him and see how he does.
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reader, cocoqueen88 +, writes (20 August 2010):
 I agree that it's not place for a married man to be however you have to trust your husband...
so in a way you bother are right. but since you feel so strongly about it then you have to put you foot down. And I think his parents are starting up trouble. I mean did they even invite you to go too? If you both go it could spice it up a bit.
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reader, BrownWolf +, writes (20 August 2010):
Are you going too?
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