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A lot of people ask if I'm from India... just to clear things up, I'm not. I'm not Indian, I just really liked that song by Aerosmith when I first made this account. I've never been to India. I'm not even an Aerosmith fan, really, but I really liked that song at the time.
I've been with my fella for 14 years, married for 10. We have two cool daughters and a pretty cool life that involves lots of adventure, art and laughter.
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After 5 years I am still completely crazy about him. Do I ust forget him?
Q. With pain and in tears I'm writing this, feeling like my world has been torn to pieces. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years. We are both young (20 and 21), probably too youngh but it did work out well, we both love each other deeply and we ...
A. 18 June 2007: Hooray, girl!
Good for you! Enjoy the Netherlands... I'm jealous, I wish I could go!!
xxIndia... (read in full...)
My GF of 6 years wanted space to sort out her feelings - should I wait for her?
Q. Will we ever be together again?? My gf and I dated for 6 years. We are both 24. Anyways our relationship was good. We were both deeply in love. In the summer she said that she felt like she had drifted apart from me and that if felt like she on...
A. 12 January 2007: I just re-read my answer, I hope you know I meant between the ages of 18 and 24.... not 14. What a silly mistake. Ahh!... (read in full...)
I'm interested in a man at my son's school. Should I approach him? If so, how?
Q. There is a man at my son's school who I have become very attracted to (yes I am a single mum). I know this guy is single unfortunately due to losing his wife to cancer. I would like to pluck up the courage to speak to him and get to know him but ...
A. 11 January 2007: Hey again,
I think your daughter is close enough to your son in age. One year isn't too big of a difference. But I think "Lilly223" had a good idea of inviting them both over to dinner. "I'm sure it'd be nice to eat a dinner cooked by someone ... (read in full...)
I have symptoms of pregnancy, but both tests turned out negative. I don't know what's going on!
Q. Dear Cupid, so can yall help me? I mean okay the last time me and my *ex* man had sex was November 21. My monthly red ended a week before that. It's now January 10th and I still have not gotten my period. I don't know? I took two pregnancy tests ...
A. 11 January 2007: First: Go get some more pregnancy tests and try it again. Maybe the first ones didn't take - it's been awhile. If you're still coming up negative, it's time to visit a Planned Parenthood or your doctor and figure out what's going on. Because ... (read in full...)
We hugged for the first time and I said he was 'comfortable' - wrong thing to say?
Q. hi my new bf an i hugged yesterday for the first time and i said "y are u so comfortable" while hugging him lol! it just came out, i didnt mean to say that, i wasnt thinking lol. i just thought he was really comfortable and i was almost falling a...
A. 11 January 2007: I understand what you were trying to say. If someone said that to me, I would hear "why am I so comfortable with you?". If your boyfriend gets upset, just explain to him what you really meant.
I'll bet he didn't read too much into it. He was prob... (read in full...)
I'm interested in a man at my son's school. Should I approach him? If so, how?
Q. There is a man at my son's school who I have become very attracted to (yes I am a single mum). I know this guy is single unfortunately due to losing his wife to cancer. I would like to pluck up the courage to speak to him and get to know him but ...
A. 11 January 2007: Hi there, sweetness!
Here's just a thought. Is his daughter close to your son in age? Because if she is, you could use that to benefit you. Go up to him and mention that you'd like your son to meet some new people to hang out with and you were won... (read in full...)
He has different sized nipples and it's turning me off!
Q. My boyfriend has a really small nipple on one side and a huge one on the other. theres almost a 2 cm difference! its a major turn off what should i do?...
A. 11 January 2007: Yeah, that's kind of weird. And I'm not exactly sure if you can "chisel" them - sounds like that would HURT like CRAZY!! Ahhh! I don't think there's anything you can really do about the size.
So there's nothing you can do to fix them. Pretty m... (read in full...)
I like to please myself because I don't have a boyfriend. Am I normal?
Q. dear cupid i dont have a boyfriend so i like 2 masterbate. Am i normal? I feel weird afterwards but it makes me feel better about myself. wat shud i do? shud i stop masterbating? please help me xoxoxo...
A. 11 January 2007: Girl, love up ON yourself!!! Masturbate as much as you WANT! Even if you had a boyfriend, no harm in a little self love now and again!
If you like masturbating and it makes you feel good about yourself, girl - GO FOR IT!
I'm cheering you on,... (read in full...)
My GF of 6 years wanted space to sort out her feelings - should I wait for her?
Q. Will we ever be together again?? My gf and I dated for 6 years. We are both 24. Anyways our relationship was good. We were both deeply in love. In the summer she said that she felt like she had drifted apart from me and that if felt like she on...
A. 11 January 2007: I think her friends and her sister are right. She sounds pretty confused and it sounds like she just needs some time by herself to figure out more about who SHE is and what she wants in her life. Usually the time between 18 and 14 is used to do some ... (read in full...)
How do I draw the hair on my girlfriend's face to her attention, sensitively?
Q. I would like some imput on the best way to go about asking my girlfriend to remove some hair on her face. I know its not a huge deal and its natural, but this is the only flaw she has. The more i think about it, the more im drawn to look at it ...
A. 10 January 2007: What a tricky question.
Here's my only thought, and I'm going in the same direction "anonymous" was. I think that maybe a good way to do this would be to get her a gift certificate to a local beauty salon that does waxing. Make it a generous... (read in full...)
I saw him pleasing himself... Wht does it mean!?
Q. Recently I accidently saw my boyfriend masturbating. I thought we had a healthy sex life. Why does he need to do this? Also I saw naked pictures of him on his phone what does all this mean...
A. 10 January 2007: I think everyone is right on with the masturbation issue. However, I'm going to defend this guy with his pictures on the cell phone.
Now, it is a little weird. Yes. Granted. And even a little suspicious! Is he sending these pictures to someone?... (read in full...)
Bored of my finger, any tips?
Q. Ok I need some advice. I am a 19 year old girl who is a lesbian. I dont have a girlfriend therefore I do it manually! Trouble is now Im bored of just fingering myself and want something different but I don't want to try sex toys as ive tried before. ...
A. 10 January 2007: Dragonette is right on. If you don't want to do sex toys, try your opposite hand. It does take a lot more time and some practice, but it's totally different.
I'll tell you think right now though... the vibrator is my best friend. I. Freakin'... (read in full...)
My ld bf has booked his flight to go w/ me to prom, but they've just set an age limit of 21. He's 24! What do we do?
Q. Hi, I have a bit of a problem (obvious statement right?) I'm 18 years old and will be attending my Senior Prom in May. I was planning on taking my boyfriend since we've been dating for three months and were close friends long before that. He ...
A. 10 January 2007: Oh no!!
What I would do before you cancel plane tickets, I'd talk to your principal. You tell him exactly what happened. Tell him you're dating a wonderful guy who lives out of state, who already bought a plane ticket to attend the prom with you... (read in full...)
I'm not happy that my gf is constantly talking to her ex. Don't they need time to get over each other?
Q. Can you get over an ex and still talk to them all the time? My girlfriend broke up with her ex about 3 months ago. she didnt hear from him up until a few wks ago but now theyre talking on the phone all the time. She says she wants to keep talking to ...
A. 10 January 2007: You know, if I were you, I'd be feeling weird about this too.
I'm all for being friends with ex's. I'm friends with most of mine. However, there is a limit. If your girlfriend is talking on the phone with him all the time for long periods of time ... (read in full...)
It's our first time meeting up together - how should I represent myself?
Q. Hello there i have a question There is a guy i know but he does not know me i have asked him to get to know him and he has agreed with great interest. I really want him to enjoy my company and want to see me again so should i tell him everyth...
A. 10 January 2007: Everyone is going to tell you to "be yourself" and I am just going to have to agree with them. If you want this guy to get to know you, you have to let him know you.
Wear something nice (because it will make you feel nice), talk about things t... (read in full...)
I couldn't get it up when we were going to make love. Is it nerves? What can I do?
Q. HI, im 22, met a really nice girl just before christmas, probaly to nice for me, but she does really like me. anyway, went to hers the other nite and was going to make love but i couldnt get or sustain a full erection, this was my first time so im ...
A. 10 January 2007: Totally the nerves kickin' in. You're alright, and I promise - it'll get up and it'll work just fine. What you need is time and patience. Don't force it and just relax.
Lots and lots of foreplay will do the trick. And even if it doesn't work the... (read in full...)
He said he was single and childless, but he's married w/ a daughter! How can I trust him again??
Q. Do we have a future. My partner and I have been together for a year, he has lied constantly throughout his relationship, initially saying he was single and childless, as it turns out he is married with a 20 month old daughter. He told me in March ...
A. 10 January 2007: Do you have a future? Yes.
Is it a good future? Probably not.
Can you trust him? No.
He spent a whole year lying to you about not something small (like "no, honey. I love going down on you for 12 hours at a time!!"), but about something HUGE... (read in full...)
What is the point to relationships if they always end in tragedy?
Q. I'm 20 and might be starting to date women. You'll probably notice the "might be". The reason why is that I would like to have a relationship with a women, yet everywhere I look it just ends in catastrophe. People getting divorces, people having ...
A. 10 January 2007: You know, I've had a lot of relationships. And all of them have ended. Every single one. Because you know, when you get into a relationship you have to know that it's going to end in one of two ways.
1) you get married
2) you break up
The ... (read in full...)
I'm an 18 year old virgin and I freak out and stop whenever I'm about to lose it!
Q. im nearly 18! and still a virgin and every1 thinks that i am not cause of the way i come over (but i havnt told them i am a virgin 2 be honest) anywayss i have been in the situation many times!! but some how it always doesnt happen! i always stop! ...
A. 10 January 2007: Hey doll,
I was determined to lose my virginity by 17. But everytime I was going to do it, I stopped. Why? I didn't know, it just happened.
You know what that is? Your subconcious. Telling you that it's not the right time or the right guy. I... (read in full...)
New year means new things! What is the scariest thing you have ever done in your life?
Q. Just a general question really to all you guys and gals out there; what is the scariest thing/s you have ever done? See I read this question in a magazine recently and couldn't think of anything scary I had done so I thought I'd put this questio...
A. 10 January 2007: The scariest thing I've ever done... what a question!!
I'm gonna say that the scariest thing I have ever done was deciding "adventure". Trying. Experiencing. I decided that all though I adore my family to no end, it was time to do somethin... (read in full...)
I'm 2 months pregnant - will sex affect the baby?
Q. well i am 2 months pregnant does sex affect my baby?...
A. 10 January 2007: You'll be fine, just fine - so long as your pregnancy is a normal one. If your doctor thinks that there might be certain complications then he or she will probably advise against having sex.
So if you're having a perfectly normal, healthy pregnanc... (read in full...)
We want to kiss, but we've never done it before! I'm 12 and he's 14. Does that matter?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out for 5 weeks now.And we have said that we wanted to kiss each other.It will be my first kiss and his.We both said we were going to kiss the next day but I guess we both got nervous and didn't.He then told me he ...
A. 7 January 2007: Ahhh, your question made me smile. I'm so happy for you!! First kisses are so special and memorable. Even if they're not the best kiss in the universe, they are the most special and you'll remember it always.
12 and 14 isn't too big of an age diff... (read in full...)
After 5 years I am still completely crazy about him. Do I ust forget him?
Q. With pain and in tears I'm writing this, feeling like my world has been torn to pieces. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years. We are both young (20 and 21), probably too youngh but it did work out well, we both love each other deeply and we ...
A. 7 January 2007: Hey sweetness - again,
Okay, I don't think his mother is right in saying that all men are unfaithful. And no, I don't think you should stay with him and allow him to go out and play around on the sly. No. No. If he's with you, he is with YOU. And... (read in full...)
I don't want her back, but is there is a way of putting it so she will still sleep with me?
Q. Ok Got a Problem. my Ex girfiend txt's me yeserday and ask's me if i'm really over and she think's i don't love her anymore. i told her i still care and love her. but i'm well over her. she tell's me she's horny like mad now. so i offer n...
A. 6 January 2007: I hope to God she's on the pill.
If she's not, personally escort her to a doctors office and get her some birth control. Then no one has to worry about any babies between you or anyone else she might sleep with. ... (read in full...)
Should I start a relationship with my school sweetheart?
Q. Ok, So my elementary school sweetheart pops back into my life about every 5 years. When we were kids we had a crush on each other but we did the usual kid things, he picked on me and I was mean in return. Both of our mothers are close friends so ...
A. 6 January 2007: What a great story!! What a great story to tell the grandkids!
It sounds like a story of true love. Absolutely I think you should go for it! It seems like for you, he's the one who got away. You've both dated around, and you still haven't ... (read in full...)
Am I bulimic like my friend was?
Q. hey.. so i hve a problem a couple of months my friend started being bulimic and she lost about a stone and a half but she started couffing up blood now shes stopped but i think im starting to be - when i eat food it always makes me feel sick and...
A. 6 January 2007: Sweetie, I think you very much need to see a therapist, or maybe your guidance counseler or just an adult who you really trust. I think that you need to nip these feelings in the bud.
It sounds like you're well on the road to bulimia, and if y... (read in full...)
I know it makes you blind, but is this another side effect?
Q. Is it true that when you masturbate it kills thousnads of brain cells?...
A. 6 January 2007: If masturbation made you lose brain cells, I'd be dumb as a rock.
... (read in full...)
After 5 years I am still completely crazy about him. Do I ust forget him?
Q. With pain and in tears I'm writing this, feeling like my world has been torn to pieces. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years. We are both young (20 and 21), probably too youngh but it did work out well, we both love each other deeply and we ...
A. 6 January 2007: Oh, sweetness.
I'm so sorry.
I can see where he's coming from. He's been seeing you since he was 15-16? So both of you have been in a really serious and committed relationship with each other during the time most other people are dating aroun... (read in full...)
I want revenge on my ex gf and best friend. Advice please before I do something dumb?
Q. My girlfriend cheated on me with my best-friend 3 days after she told me she was pregnant. Now they are living together. I want revenge, but i'm not going to jail. I don't know how to deal with it without getting my own back somehow. Please advise ...
A. 6 January 2007: So your girlfriend cheated on you. What a bitch (pardon my French)!! And your best friend totally betrayed you. What a friggin' jerk.
Isn't it revenge enough to know that they'll only make each other miserable? Don't risk your own morals for two ... (read in full...)
We've dated a few times and he's telling me to change my hair! Should I be wary and do I need to change for him?
Q. Iv been seeing this man a few times and we get on really well,he told me that he found me very attractive and intelligent.Now my problem is this,a couple of times he has said that i would look better without my fringe and to cut my hair shorter and ...
A. 5 January 2007: What a bizarre man you're dating. Why is he so focused in on your hair? That's a little creepy. If you don't want to change your hair, you don't have to. It's YOUR hair. You can have it done however you'd like. I'll bet it looks great right now.... (read in full...)
I want to have a child with my ex but she is hesitant about it!
Q. Ok My And My Ex Girlfriend of 3 week's are over she doesn't wanna get back together that's fine by me. i keep saying 2 her we sould keep trying for a kid. y because i always wanted 1 and she want's 1. new year's eve i nearly got her 2 say yes i ...
A. 4 January 2007: Good lord, please do not reproduce.
You're trying to convince some 20 year old girl to have your baby? She's 20. She's got her whole life ahead of her. And it's possible that maybe she doesn't want to be with YOU for the rest of her life. You do r... (read in full...)
I really like this girl so much, but I have no idea what to do!
Q. im 16 and the girl I like is 15, I dont know if she likes me or not but I've tried to hide that I like her and I can't anymore. Whenever she sees me, she smiles and waves hello to me, and she talks to me when out of school, and tody she looked at me ...
A. 4 January 2007: It sounds like she likes you. Sounds like there's some serious flirtage going on... hooray for you!! Next time you see her, strike up some serious conversation. Maybe find out what she's into - music wise, movie wise, food wise (all that ... (read in full...)
She's been married for 5 years, but told me that she's loved me for all this time! What on earth do I do?
Q. 8 years ago I was the best man at the wedding of two good friends. Over the years we kind of lost touch until today when she called me out of the blue wishing to meet me. When we met, she told me she has been in love with me all this time and has ...
A. 4 January 2007: I think you know what the right thing is to do here.
Would you really want to hurt your best friend like this? If you pursued a relationship which you don't even know if you really want, wouldn't the guilt kill you? This relationship would ne... (read in full...)
Why am I so jealous and insecure?
Q. Why am i so jealous and insecure? Im 22 years old and have been with my boyfriend for 6 years. Hes a good man and will do anything for me and vice versa. Ive suffered from jealousy and insecurity now for many years, however i am bett...
A. 4 January 2007: Well, sweetie, just like "Ponungalangb" I don't think that anyone here could solve your problem with a piece of advice. It sounds like your insecurity issues run a lot deeper than the common person.
I understand the pressures in society to be th... (read in full...)
During sex...I dry up and it's painful. Any tips?
Q. Well... I have been sexually active for about 4 years. I didn't start enjoying sex until about a year ago. I now LOVE sex. I don't mean that I have sex with every guy I see, but when I am in a committed relationship, I can't get enough. Most of the ...
A. 4 January 2007: Lots and lots and lots and lots and LOTS of girls have this problem. BEHOLD the power of lube!! Sounds like you've already had that idea - stick with it. Lube is such a marvelous invention...
My favorite is KY Warming Liquid... it warms up when ... (read in full...)
He texted another girl saying he loved her. He gave me excuses, should I believe him?
Q. My boyfriend of three years text another girl saying he loved her. When i confronted him he said because it was new years eve and she lives in another country he just wanted to show he cared. Should i believe him?...
A. 3 January 2007: No one knows the REAL story of what's going on here.
Do YOU feel like you trust him, other than this incident? Does he seem to really be committed to you otherwise? If he's never given you a reason to not trust him before, I think I'd let this... (read in full...)
When I masurbate, I always fantasize that I am the man-is this normal?
Q. Hi guys and girls!! Well I am a bit embarassed to be putting this on here as it is a very personal thing, and hope that some people can give some constructive advice. Or reassure me that I am relatively normal...if there is such a thing!!! Thin...
A. 3 January 2007: Oh my God, I have the exact same fantasy. Only sometimes mine get even more carried away with the penis idea. Maybe I have penis envy, I don't know. But yeah, you're totally normal.
Either that or we're BOTH weird.
Enjoy sweetness!
... (read in full...)
Why do I kiss and hug my bf in my imagination and not in real life?
Q. heyyy its weird. im 16 and i always imagine i have a lovely b/f that treats me really nicely. i imagine that we are kissing and cuddling and i sometimes even kiss my hand pretending its him. is this abnormal? and also now i have a b/f since 2day...
A. 3 January 2007: Hi there, sweetness.
You are soooo normal it's incredible. I even still kiss my hand sometimes. Hey - your hand is the best kisser you'll ever find... haha. Anyhow, if you're not ready to be kissing, you don't have to. "Rammsteinfan" was right in... (read in full...)
His ex texted him to wish him a happy new year - I'm livid! But should I really be concerned?
Q. An ex i was worried about contacting my b/f on new years eve did text him. I guess i just dont like the idea that some girl he slept and went out with sometimes is in contact with him. It was like 12:45 am. The text i guess was sent to a lot of ...
A. 2 January 2007: Oh my Lord.
You are freaking out. Over. Nothing.
xxIndia... (read in full...)
I kissed my husband's best friend on New Year's. He's fine about it, but I feel awful - what can I do?
Q. On New Year’s Eve, my husband fell asleep and I ended up kissing his best friend at midnight. It only lasted two seconds, and then I freaked out and ran over to where my husband was asleep on the couch and tried to pretend nothing happened. Then ...
A. 2 January 2007: I think you've punished yourself enough.
If you were already honest with him and he's okay with things, then it's time to move on. This guilt won't do anything GOOD for you. A two second kiss... a peck... that's alright. If it didn't mean anything... (read in full...)
I cheated on him and didn't regret it...should we just break up?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been going out for 4 months and we both lost our virginity, to each other, about one month in. i'd known him for a year so i was comfortable with it. now its like sex is all he thinks about. i wonder whether i should break up ...
A. 2 January 2007: Can you last? Well, yes. If you plan to keep secretly hurting on him and wishing you were single. It doesn't sound like you're really interested in a relationship right now... you say you like looking and talking to other guys. You even like hooking ... (read in full...)
Is it possible not to be able to have an orgasm?! Any advice?
Q. is it possible not to be able to have an orgasm?! ive been with my boyfriend for 5months now and were sexually active and everytime we 'do it' he waits for me to cum first but i never have, i never have before i was with him either. In this ...
A. 2 January 2007: All though I can't reeeaaallly offer you a solution, I can offer you this.
You're not the only one who suffers from lack of orgasms. I kind of do too. It's annoying, but bearable. I know it'll happen someday... I have faith. You're perfectl... (read in full...)
When we tried to have sex..I could only get semi-hard. But when I masturbate-I get hard! Why is this happening?
Q. hello, im 16 and me and my girlfriend for about a year and we recently tried to have sex, but it didnt happen. i could only get a semi erection, wich i felt was realy odd as i find her really attractive, and i never get a problem when im on my own. ...
A. 2 January 2007: Is this your first time having sex with your girlfriend? If it is, you're probably just having some jitters about the first time. My boyfriend agrees with me... "I've been there.", he says. "You just have to relax."
After a few more tries, y... (read in full...)
We have online sex...is this considered an affair if we have partners?
Q. Short n sweet: having a textual affair with a man from work... if i am with someone, and he is someone, is it still considered an affair....
A. 2 January 2007: First off, you called it an affair yourself.
You know this man as well? He works with you? What's stopping you from going the whole nine yards and meeting up with each other on a lunch break?
Yes, it's an affair. Even if you're not actually tou... (read in full...)
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