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writes: I would like some imput on the best way to go about asking my girlfriend to remove some hair on her face. I know its not a huge deal and its natural, but this is the only flaw she has. The more i think about it, the more im drawn to look at it when i look at her. What would be the best way to bring it up without hurting her feelings, since i know it can be a touchy subject for some. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2007): Rite...this is what i would do...think of a girl that you both know (or a famous person) that has facial hair (Similar amount to you GF). Then one day bring them up in conversation and say how pretty you think they are but the fact they have facial hair REALLY puts you off...and its silly how they havent got rid of because there are so many ways to...(Do your research n list ways, give your GF some ideas). Hopefully she'll look at herself and think i have the same amount of facial hair as the girl he's talkin about maybe i shud do something (and she'll already have idea's of what to do because you told her some). Sorted hopefully !!!
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (10 January 2007):
 What a tricky question.
Here's my only thought, and I'm going in the same direction "anonymous" was. I think that maybe a good way to do this would be to get her a gift certificate to a local beauty salon that does waxing. Make it a generous amount, so she can get facial hair wax and a pedicure or something.
The trick here is to tell the people at the salon your problem. Tell them, "look, I have a beautiful girlfriend, who I love very much. The problem is she has a little bit of facial hair..." - tell them that you'd like THEM to bring it up instead of YOU. And of course, tell them not to mention that you said anything. See if they can get her to get the facial wax.
That's my thought. If I were in such a position (and it is a difficult one), that is what I'd do. It's a little tricky, yes, but I think it's probably the least hurtful way.
Just a thought.
Good luck, good luck, good luck. You're a good boyfriend to want to be sensitive. Good for you! She's lucky to have you.
xxIndia
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reader, Lemonpixie +, writes (10 January 2007):
 I agree with Joanna... has she got a really good girl friend that you can possibly rely on to tell her this in a way that wont at all come back to you? It all depends on how long you have been dating as well but maybe this may seem cruel but make a fake email address one not traceable back to you and send her websites like:
http://www.ehow.com/how_289_remove-unsightly-facial.html
she may already know she has it but if she gets embarrassed by someone else i think it would hurt less than you approaching her about it.
Or if youve dated long enough (at least a year in my opinion) maybe tease her sweetly about it... like awww your like a kitty with whiskers... lol i have no idea if there IS a good way but remember to make it not a big deal and to be really sweet and comforting even if she smacks you.
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reader, vina_101  +, writes (10 January 2007):
 Start by giving her lots of compliments and reassurance. I will now attempt this difficult task. lol. "You know I think you're really pretty that's one of the many reasons why you're my girlfriend. I think you are absolutely gorgeous. And I really care about you but I think you'd look better if you removed some of your facial hair. You look great now of course but I'd be a lot more attracted to you if you removed it. You can say something about me if you want because I know I'm not perfect. Just tell me now and I'll change it whatever it is, because I want to look good for you. I'm not saying this to hurt you by the way because you know I really care about you and I wouldn't do that. Not ever."
Say something along those lines. lol. I tried. It really is difficult to be sensitive about this. I hope you find the right words. Oh yeah and quickly change the subject after you're done talking, you don't want her to think you've been dwelling on it for ages.
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reader, Joanna25 +, writes (10 January 2007):
has she got a friend who who she confides in a lot? maybe you could spek to her friend about it and ask her to bring it up, girls take things a lot better from their friend! make sure you can trust this girl to keep her mouth shut though!
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (10 January 2007):
 As Rhythmandblues said.. there are alot of things that could pertain to this and without all the info its hard to really advise.... I see lots of women with slight facial hair, some dont notice it, some do and are over the top about it.... the trouble is with most facial hair, once you start shaving it/creaming it so on, it tends to grow back thicker and becomes more noticible... is this blonde hair, dark hair, is it above the lip ? It does depend on the girl how you raise this, as she may be aware of it but might not know what options are open to her... Theres no easy way to tell someone something like this... might be best to just come out with it! But i would be concerned if this all you can find wrong with her and you want to upset her because of it... no one is perfect... you could tell her this and yeah she could dump you on the spot, and then next girl down the road might have more things you dont like... is it really worth the risk of losing her ????
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2007): I can't really suggest you what to say to her but i can definitely tell you not to use the razor she'll end up like a man. Give her a voucher for a beauty salon...girls generally love that. I would best advise to wax that area as it is not that bad and leave the skin smooth for days....and she shouldn't forget to moisteurise the face regularly afterwards..it will ease the pain.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2007): You could buy her a razor as a gift with a note saying "nothing says I love you more than shaving your facial hair"Probably quite insensitive but funny nevertheless!!!In all seriousness though, if you want your girlfriend to get rid of this hair you are just going to have to tell her really sensitively that it bothers you a little and would like it if it goes. Once one of the guys working for me at work (who was 30 years my senior) had breath so bad you would literally choke to death whenever he spoke to you, but as his manager I had to sit him down and tell him. It's difficult telling someone about something like this but usually that person will be more embarresed than angry so if you do it very caringly and sensitive then I think you'll be fine.Imagine if you had an issue, your girlfriend would feel uncomfortable mentioning it, but im sure if she does it the right way you'll take it the right way.Good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2007): What kind of hair are we talking about? Where is the location of the hair, is it thick, is it dark in color, be more specific please and what is her age and ethnic background as all of this may pertain to what she can do about it.
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