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writes: Well... I have been sexually active for about 4 years. I didn't start enjoying sex until about a year ago. I now LOVE sex. I don't mean that I have sex with every guy I see, but when I am in a committed relationship, I can't get enough. Most of the time I stay really wet naturally all the way through, whether it just be a 15 minute quicky, or 2 or 3 hours of wild sex. It just seems like some times I get really wet in the beginning, but I can't stay wet for very long, which leads to painful sex for me, and no orgasm for him. Is there anything that is wrong, I don't want to tell him that I think we should start using lube, because I don't want him to think that it is something that he is doing wrong, he is amazing in bed. Is there some position or something we can try that would keep me wet????
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2008): trust me... for the longest time i didn't want to use lube because it made me feel like an old lady but then i researched it among friends and apparently a lot of people do use lube. after we started using it sex is soooo much better. in fact we never do it without the lube. Use KY, but i wouldn't suggest the warming sensations one yet. Start with the normal KY. Don't be afraid of what he will think about it, whatever makes you happy during sex will in turn make him happy because it's better to use lube and be thoroughly enjoying yourself than be afraid to hurt his feelings and just lay there in pain. Who wants to make love to someone in pain? lol
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reader, passthechocolate +, writes (4 January 2007):
I also have this problem. Usually it is because of what time of the month it is for me. When you are ovulating (2-3 days half way through your cycle) your vagina produces more natural juices. Lube always works (theres a really great one called Gun Oil that doesn't make as much of a mess as KY), and clitoral stimulation helps to keep you fully aroused.
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reader, rammsteinfan  +, writes (4 January 2007):
 I have had the same thing happen to me from time to time. So when that happens, I use lube,too. The best one, I think, is Astroglide!!! I have used KY in the past, but Astroglide is absolutly awesome! And you can get a free sample over the internet to try it out!
So don't worry about it....you are not alone!
Good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2007): The chances are the reason you were so wet at the start was because there was a lot of clitoral stimulation in the foreplay. If you're drying up once that's stopped, don't be afraid to ask him to get a bit "manual" while you're having sex, or even do a bit of DIY! It won't interfere with the sex itself, it'll enhance it if anything.
If the problem's still there once you've tried this, then lube's a good plan. But you won't lose anything trying this out first!
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (4 January 2007):
 Lots and lots and lots and lots and LOTS of girls have this problem. BEHOLD the power of lube!! Sounds like you've already had that idea - stick with it. Lube is such a marvelous invention...
My favorite is KY Warming Liquid... it warms up when you put it on, and it's not too sticky and messy. It's the best, if you ask me.
Make sure he knows that it's not that you're not horny, it's just that that initial wetness can't last forever! Sometimes it just dries up, even if you're still totally into what's going on. Lube isn't the enemy... it's your new best friend.
Enjoy, sweetness!
xxIndia
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reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (3 January 2007):
 I don't think there's a position in the world that will keep you wet.
I don't think time-out for a lube job is too much to ask. Keep it handy so he can wax it down while he's going to town. . . so to speak. LOL.
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