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... Send *asteofIndia a private message | | | *asteofIndia's profile:TasteofIndia here. I'm 33 years old, with my BA in Theater & Psychology. I suppose you could say that I have studied people and how to get into their heads. I've been here on Dear Cupid for well over a decade. I love Dear Abby, Ann Landers, all those advice giving goddesses... when I found this website how could I resist?? (Couldn't.) I love Dear Cupid, love being a moderator and love giving advice when I can!!
A lot of people ask if I'm from India... just to clear things up, I'm not. I'm not Indian, I just really liked that song by Aerosmith when I first made this account. I've never been to India. I'm not even an Aerosmith fan, really, but I really liked that song at the time.
I've been with my fella for 14 years, married for 10. We have two cool daughters and a pretty cool life that involves lots of adventure, art and laughter.
I adore: positivity, theater, llamas, fromage, sweatpants, earrings, and sitcoms. That just about sums it up... |
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He smokes weed a lot..should I just forget about him?
Q. i like this guy alot..but he smokes weed ALOT! should i just forget about him?...
A. 6 November 2006: If that's not something you're in to, then yes... let him go. If you really mean a lot to each other, there could be room for compromise or quitting or something, but if you're just toying with the idea of a relationship, then I wouldn't persue one. ... (read in full...)
Should I be offended because he masturbates?
Q. my husband works 12 hr days and sometimes our schedule are not the same he works 6pm til 6am and I work 2pm til 1030pm. and sometimes I come home and find a towl that I can smell his man scent on so I know that he has maturbated should I be offended ...
A. 6 November 2006: I don't think you should get offended by the fact he gives himself some sweet self lovin'. You said it yourself - your schedules are off, it doesn't sound like you've got a lot of time overlapping to give you time for sex.
Just be glad he's mak... (read in full...)
My bf acts and may have to kiss on stage. How should I react?
Q. im in a loving relationship with a guy thats really passionate about life, music, drama ect.he studies drama at uni,we've been together for 2 years now, i really love him.the thing is im insecure about the people/girls he have to work with. The get ...
A. 6 November 2006: Speaking as an actress who has had to kiss many a boy on many a stage... trust me, you're fine.
There's not much you can do in this situation... if he's serious about acting, then he's going to have to perform to the best of his ability and that... (read in full...)
I need on how to make sex more spicey and horny for both of us.
Q. Dear Cupid, I am so annoyed with just lying there during sex, my boyfriend has never questioned it and has always said I am good in bed, however, I still don't feel satisfied myself. I'd rather not introduce toys because I don't want tha...
A. 5 November 2006: Go to the grocery store and pick up a Cosmopolitan... that magazine always has super fun tips and suggestions on how to spice things up.
The person who answered before me had it right on. Try dressing up for each other. Role playing isn't so... (read in full...)
I'm 17 and a virgin! Is this a bad thing?
Q. right im 17 i have only done sexual things once! and so ye im a virgin!! do you think this is kinda sad as im 17! and most people my age are sleeping around! i was to lose my virginty its just in scared and have no idea what im doing lol advice ...
A. 5 November 2006: When I was 17 (three years ago), I was totally in the same boat. I know EXACTLY how you feel. All of my friends kept having these fun gab session about their sex live and their latest hilarious sexcapades... and then there was me. I felt SO left ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and want to try sex with my bf...but I'm afraid!
Q. welll im 13 and i am very grown up for my age i have bin with much older boys than me and had to pertend that im older like 15 i am with this booy i realy like him to we are getting along wiked but l8a he has bin asking me if i wanna have sex with ...
A. 5 November 2006: Just like everyone else is saying, you are farrrr too young too be even THINKING about having sex. Fingering and oral sex, even... too much, too young!!
Enjoy being young and not having to worry about sex yet.
I encourage you to wait for ano... (read in full...)
Is dry sex the same as dry humping?
Q. Honestly what is dry sex? Is it the same as dry humping??...
A. 1 November 2006: I certainly would assume so. Clothing - optional, just grinding up on each other... no penetration... I would think dry sex and dry humping is the same. ... (read in full...)
Do women love doing oral on a man the same as we men love doing oral on her? Or do women do it out of obligation?
Q. I have a question for female readers from a middle aged guy. Do married women look forward to, or crave performing oral sex as a man might crave performing oral on a woman? Or, do most women who do it do it out of obligation?...
A. 1 November 2006: I'm not going to lie to you. I totally dig it. And you know why? Because my boyfriend loves it so damn much. It's so nice to have him so happy! So I gradually grew to really enjoy doing it.
Now on anyone else? No. I wouldn't. In fact, my boyfrien... (read in full...)
She wants sex everytime I sleep over? How can I say No without hurting her feelings?
Q. me and my gf been goin out for nearly a month and already slept together and now she wants it everytym i sleep over hers how can i say no 2 her with out hurting her feeling or making her think im goin off her?...
A. 31 October 2006: "Don't look a gift horse in the mouth, buddy. You're a lucky man!!" says my boyfriend, quickly adding "oh... I mean, I'm lucky now!... sorry." after he sees the glare on my face.
Now that he's slunk out of the room...
You're only seeing this... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a woman sheds a tear after the first kiss?
Q. Here's something I've never experienced before...a grown man at that! What does it mean when a woman sheds a tear after the first kiss? This happened to me the other night and it's thrown me completely! Can anyone answer that?...
A. 31 October 2006: You know, some women find first kisses to be really special. Some people see kissing as a very intimate thing - maybe even more than sex (most prosititutes won't kiss you. Mouths go everywhere else, but not on the mouth. Not as a hate towards ... (read in full...)
My gf gets TOO wet and I don't feel anything. What can I do?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for a few months now, and we are having sex often. When we start making out she gets really wet and I usually make her cum a few times before we start to make love. She really enjoys our sex and usually comes se...
A. 28 October 2006: Behold the power of babywipes!! Kleenex might just get sticky and leave scraps of paper all over the place, not to mention it's dry, so it hurts. But baby wipes aborb and are painless! Just keep some by the bed, and after she comes just wipe her ... (read in full...)
Is it appropriate for 14-15 year olds to kiss
Q. Is it appropriate for 14-15 year olds to kiss and make out? What is appropriate for this age group....
A. 28 October 2006: 14-15? That's pretty much when I did the most kissing and making out of my life!! That's the perfect place to start, darlin.... (read in full...)
If you give somebody head can you tell if he cums
Q. if you give someoe head can you tell if he cums? (in ur mouth) i gave head the other day, he seemed 2 enjoy it but i couldnttell if he had cum or not lol :S...
A. 28 October 2006: If you couldn't tell, he didn't.... (read in full...)
Hand-job timings?
Q. How long should a girl keep going for before stopping when giving her boyfriend a hand job?...
A. 27 October 2006: Generally speaking you'll get a big, gooey, white mess that pretty much is the "STOP" sign of handjobs.
However, if after 20 minutes you can't hear the heavy breathing and he is a little more focused on the TV than you, you can give up and sit ... (read in full...)
Ladies...Can you still feel a man inside you when he is not thrusting or moving?
Q. Hi ladies Can you still feel a man inside you when he is not thrusting or moving?...
A. 27 October 2006: Well, I can. Only because my partner is pretty big and it's hard NOT to notice. But I'm sure your body adjusts to the size and maybe when he's not moving you can't feel him. If he's small, you probably won't be able to tell after a few minutes of ... (read in full...)
He used to work as a male escort, should I get out now?
Q. Its been seven years since my divorce and since this have met no one special, until recently when a man the same age as me has swept me off my feet. Tonight after a romantic meal we where beng honest about our past. He admitted he used to work as a ...
A. 27 October 2006: His past is his past. All though it will be tricky trying to cope with what he's done, if he is truly the incredible man you describe him as, you should be able to look past it.
Sometimes people get desperate for money. Money is a horrible... (read in full...)
Sex with my new bf, hurt more..is it because he was bigger?
Q. Yesterday I slept with my new partner for the first time. He is the second person I have slept with, but I hadnt had sex for over a year (b4 yesterday). Basically when i lost my virginity and on the six times after that with the same partner) it ...
A. 25 October 2006: No wonder it hurt!! If you've only had sex with one other guy, who was physically "small" SEVEN times LAST year, then this one is definitely going to hurt a whole lot more. Clearly your vagina hasn't ever been expanded to fit a penis that big!
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We been married for 15 years and want to spice up marriage with threesome!
Q. dear cupid, my husband and i have been married for 15 years,and we are very secure in our marriage.but we need to spice it up a bit.my question to you is it cheating if we have a threesome? thanks...
A. 25 October 2006: Well, it's not cheating if you and your husband are both okay with it.
However, make sure you thoroughly think about all the emotional consequences that come with a threesome. They can be fun, but often jealousy can arise when you don't expect i... (read in full...)
Am I average height and weight for a 16 year old?
Q. hi can anyone tell me the average weight for a 16 year old. iam 136 pounds and 5feet 8 inches. is this normal?...
A. 25 October 2006: Lucky girl, your size is perfect. You're just a little trimmer than more 5'8'', 16 year olds, but I'll bet your figure is still BANGIN'.
So you can go pig out on some pizza and Cheetos and not have to worry about another couple pounds. You're a... (read in full...)
He left and hasn't given me a satisfactory explanation
Q. i have been in a relationship for four years. We finally moved together three months ago, now he left because he said it is to much pressure for him, but diddn't really explain. He says he loves me and misses me but still hasn't said he wants to ...
A. 24 October 2006: You've been in a steady relationship for four years, he moves in, freaks out and leaves. Hmmm.
Well, it seems like you've got a solid relationship if you've been happy together for four years. Maybe he just freaked out at the sudden jump in commi... (read in full...)
While we was friends and getting to know each other I was sleeping with my ex...do I tell my current boyfriend???
Q. Hi, Im a 22 year old who is in a good relationship with a 36 year old. age gap aside......... before we got together we were friends for a whole year. we shared a bed occasionally and sometimes got frisky but didnt have sex. meanwhile i was ...
A. 24 October 2006: I don't think you've done anything wrong. I can see how you'd feel guilty, but you weren't in a relationship with your current boyfriend when you were seeing your ex. Your current boyfriend doesn't think you two were actually together until after ... (read in full...)
Are we or aren't we ...together? He acts like we are but says "No we aren't". I'm confused!
Q. Dear Cupids, Been seeing a guy for nearly two months, I am 25 him 29. We have been getting on really well, sex is good, we have a laugh together and there doesn't seem to be any awkwardness. We have been seeing each other a couple of ti...
A. 24 October 2006: I can see how you would be confused. I'd be confused. What I suggest is maybe giving him a week or two of space and then hanging out again. Just test the waters. If he goes back into the affectionate direction, then maybe talk to him while he's n... (read in full...)
Being gay and brought up in the UK makes me find it difficult to understand why people do this!!!
Q. My partner and I have been together for six years, recently he stated that he thought being gay was a desease and that people like us should not be able to have any rights and that he puts his family first before me. This came as shock, but he is a ...
A. 24 October 2006: Martin, What a sad situation. My boyfriend and I debated your question for about an hour and finally came to a common answer for you. We think that you and your boyfriend need to have a sit down and talk SERIOUSLY about his new beliefs and view... (read in full...)
This will be our first time...how can I make it as painless as possible for her???
Q. My girlfriend and I are both virgins and have been dating for almost 9 months now. We really care about each other, and although we haven't exactly discussed sex, we know that we are both ready to take the leap together. I know that girls experience ...
A. 23 October 2006: Well, good for you waiting 9 months. That shows some maturity, now you should take that maturity all the way. First off, the importance of both of you getting tested is immense.
Yes, yes, you're both virgins. That doesn't mean both of you can'... (read in full...)
We're not together anymore but I am still a virgin and have the option to lose it with him!
Q. This is going to sound really weird. But last week i split up with my boyfriend of 6 months. It was my first relationship, but we never had sex (he was very patient with me). I am a virgin (i am in my mid 20's) and although the thought of having sex ...
A. 22 October 2006: Never. Ever. Compromise your self respect. No one else's respect for you will ever matter as nearly as much as your own. You have to live with your choices for the rest of your life.
So when you think back to your first time, do you really w... (read in full...)
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