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writes: my boyfriend and i have been going out for 4 months and we both lost our virginity, to each other, about one month in. i'd known him for a year so i was comfortable with it. now its like sex is all he thinks about. i wonder whether i should break up with him. not just about this, but i've been having doubts. i got drunk and cheated on him a week after he asked me out. i didnt regret it. i still look at other guys, flirt with other guys.... when we talk the conversation gets round to when he'll next see me and then, inevitably, sex. i dont love him as any more than the best friends we were... and so on.question:can we really last?any help greatly appreciatedx
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthe point wasnt the infedility, that was background information. i told him what happened and we both got over that. i dont plan to go with anyone, its just the fact that once while outta my mind i did, so no, i cant love him so deeply. sex changed us, and now thats all he ever talks to me about. THAT was the point.
i want to make it work, i just cant see it lasting the way i'm going
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (2 January 2007):
 Can you last? Well, yes. If you plan to keep secretly hurting on him and wishing you were single. It doesn't sound like you're really interested in a relationship right now... you say you like looking and talking to other guys. You even like hooking up with other guys!
Don't feel like you're obligated to stay with this boy just because you lost your virginity to him. It's just going to hurt him more the longer you stay with him without your heart in the relationship as well.
Break it to him gently, be sweet about it and then go do your own thing. It sounds like you're doing it already... now do it without hurting someone else in the process.
xxIndia
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2007):
Will it really last? Well you're a cheater, a lier, your relationships not going anywhere and you don't love him.
It doesn't take a genius to assume this relationship is not going to work. Interesting why you can heartlessly cheat on someone you're supposed to have loved, and continue to flirt with other guys. Perhaps you never loved or respected him, how could you? Or perhaps the problem lies deeper in to your childhood. How was the relationship with dad, I wonder?
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reader, sweetiegirl  +, writes (2 January 2007):
 I have one question for you
Do you want to stay with this guys and do you want to make it last ?
cause it sounds to me like you don't want to be with him anymore, sex changes alot of things in a realationship and he may have been your first, but just because he was doesn't mean you have to stay with him, if your just not interested anymore then their is nothing you can really do about it, just move on but if you find it better to just stay friends with him then maybe that's the best action to take just let him down and make sure he doesn't think that you just wanted him for sex you would be both crushed over the very thought of it.
So best of luck and hope that helps
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