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writes: Do we have a future. My partner and I have been together for a year, he has lied constantly throughout his relationship, initially saying he was single and childless, as it turns out he is married with a 20 month old daughter. He told me in March 06 about his daughter but not wife, which I found out about myself, to which he then stated they were divorcing. By accident I met his wife n October and she knew nothing about it, they were still living in the same house. He has now moved out, professes to love me very much and things are now happening as they should ... but i don't know that I can fully trust him again?
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (10 January 2007):
 You will have to be constantly checking up on his activities, phone calls, whereabouts, purchases...etc Do you really want to live like that?
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (10 January 2007):
 Do you have a future? Yes.
Is it a good future? Probably not.
Can you trust him? No.
He spent a whole year lying to you about not something small (like "no, honey. I love going down on you for 12 hours at a time!!"), but about something HUGE. Being MARRIED and having a CHILD. Jebus. I agree with Dragonette, his wife probably caught onto him cheating on the sly and kicked him out.
Who's to say he could cheat on you like he cheated on his wife? And if you're thinking to yourself, "because I'm different. He loves me." etc, well - he probably loved his WIFE too if he married her.
Don't trust the man.
Good luck, sweetie. Find yourself a nice guy who doesn't have a hidden agenda.
xxIndia
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reader, Lilly223 +, writes (10 January 2007):
 You can't trust him. The only way this guy has fessed up to the truth is when he is blatently busted. What makes you think he is going to be honest from now on when he hasn't been honest in the past? My opinion... he will continue to lie, and only admit the truth when he is caught. Do you want to enter a relationship with someone that you will continually be suspicious of? Why would yu want a relationship with that kind of burden hanging over your head? I frankly think he is professing his love to you because he knows you care about him, and you have a warm place to stay. Don't pick up the pieces of his life. He will only learn, and mature from cleaning up his own messes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2007): No way, are you kidding, I can't even believe you would ask this question, I would have been devestated and never spoken to him or seen him again, how do you think his wife feels---does she know about you?
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (10 January 2007):
 How can you build a good, solid relationship when he has told you so many lies and so early on in the friendship, this man cannot be trusted and may one day be telling his next conquest that he has no partner and you will still be sleeping with him and thinking everything in the garden is rosy.
Tread carefully.
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (10 January 2007):
 This guy had a relation with you for a year, pretending he was not married to another woman.
The only reason as to why he's now moved out is probably because his wife kicked him out.
Most likely, you deserve someone better than this. This guy will only make you unhappy.
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