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writes:On New Year’s Eve, my husband fell asleep and I ended up kissing his best friend at midnight. It only lasted two seconds, and then I freaked out and ran over to where my husband was asleep on the couch and tried to pretend nothing happened. Then two minutes later, he woke up and was saying how it was a shame that we all slept through midnight. I felt so bad but I didn’t want to say anything (we were all drunk and my husband is known to get violent with too many drinks in him if someone does something disrespectful towards him).Several hours later, we all went to sleep. When I woke up at 7:00 all I could think of was what happened (although a lot of the details were blurry because I drank a lot). I woke my husband up and told him what I remembered, and when we were all awake talked about it. My husband says he’s okay with things, but I feel so guilty and depressed about it and wish it never happened. I don’t know how to make it up to him. I thought about buying him a present, but that just seems insulting. Like buying him something gives me an excuse to kiss his friend, right?I mean, I'm never going to do that again, but I wish I could show him how sorry I am faster than just showing him over a long period of time (by not doing anything with anyone else.)Any ideas of what I can do? Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for all of your answers. I tend to make a big deal out of things when they're not that huge to begin with. Guess this is one of the times I'm doing that again.
Eddie - well, at first it was a peck, but apparently right after that I kissed him again (don't remember that part specifically) and I could tell that it would go further (this is the part I actually remember), so that's when I just stopped and went over to the couch. And the fact that I would do that is why I've felt so bad. If the second kiss didn't happen, I wouldn't be upset about anything - because you're right, it would have been just a typical new year's eve kiss.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (2 January 2007):
 Was it a typical New Years peck or the big wet type of kiss. If it's the first and it was two seconds, who cares. That's what we do on New Year's Eve.
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reader, perky  +, writes (2 January 2007):
 hey dont beat urself up he said its ok he will get bak in the flow of the relationship and dont live in the past u cant change wat happend but u can change wat happesn next in ur relationship i think the best way to do it is to say ur sorry of corse lol and then just shwo him u love him be romantic with him susprise him with sumthing that he likes u doin ha has said ok hes ok with it whcihn shows he loves u and if u artn gona do it agen then shwo him prove it to him tell him how u feel out wat u did and keep ur chin up have to make a mistake to change wat happens next and now u have made urs and now its time to learn from that thats wats important and just be happy that he forgave u and still wants u it is hard to forget but u got to move on he is still there so talk to him confind in him but most of all be happy ope i have helped u and i oep it works out chin up x
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (2 January 2007):
 Just put it behind you and try to not get so sloshed in the future.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (2 January 2007):
 I think you've punished yourself enough.
If you were already honest with him and he's okay with things, then it's time to move on. This guilt won't do anything GOOD for you. A two second kiss... a peck... that's alright. If it didn't mean anything to you, I think everything is fine.
Don't kill yourself over this little, little incident. At least you know you really, truly love your husband and won't be curious about kissing anyone else in the future.
xxIndia
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2007): Look, it was just a drunken mistake; you're blowing it all out of proportion! If your husband is fine about it, then you just have to let it go. Going on about it, buying gifts etc will just make it look like it was a huge big deal and that you have residual feelings for this man.
If you have no feelings for your hubby's friend, and nobody else is upset about it, stop obsessing and get on with your new year!
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