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writes:Ok Got a Problem.my Ex girfiend txt's me yeserday and ask's me if i'm really over and she think's i don't love her anymore.i told her i still care and love her. but i'm well over her.she tell's me she's horny like mad now. so i offer no string's just friend sex today she tell's me if she's gonna have sex with anyone it will be her good friend Ryan a lad that fancy's her like mad but she doesn't wanna new boyfriend yet.me and my ex girlfriend r good friend's we txted each over 20 time's a day talk 2 each over when ever we can and we see each over nearly 3-4 time's a week.i told her unless she wanted a r-ship with ryan she shouldn't sleep with him because it will make him think something. she think's it's gonna be better if she did sleep with ryan than me.ok i think it will be wrong. she doesn't where moveing in with each over at the end of the month. but she still think's us having just fun sex is stupid i think it would be easy for us both 2 have sex with each over than messing around with friend's mind's and giving the wrong ideas. ryan fancy's her he want's her as a girlfriend she told me she's doesn't want that if she as sex with him he's gonna think there's a chance and it will change there friendship. been apart from my ex 3 week's going out 2 moz to find a new girl. she's gonna meet me.do u think there's a way of putting it so she will still sleep with me? all fun i don't want her back before u ask.she think's it will change our friendship if we slept 2gether. but i told her it wouldn't because i'm looking for a fun fuck and staying friend'sdo u think she's gonna have sex with ryan?or do u think she should have sex with me?she's more bothered about the fact is i may fuck another girl in the next room when we move in. if she's that bothered y not b that girl? she told me she's gonna put throw over's on the sofa so if i did bring a girl back she can wash them. is there any chance 4 us?reason for us spliting? -- she doesn't let guy's let 2 close she dumped me. i think it's because we was trying for a kid and she told me the other day she didn't want a kid at 20 she want's to wait a few year's. do u think she's trying to say " i don't want a kid with you? " any help would be great.
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (6 January 2007):
 I hope to God she's on the pill.
If she's not, personally escort her to a doctors office and get her some birth control. Then no one has to worry about any babies between you or anyone else she might sleep with.
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reader, I Waited For The One +, writes (6 January 2007):
I Waited For The One is verified as being by the original poster of the question Just so u all know.
i had sex with my ex girlfriend last night
she came over we had sex twice was the best sex in a long time.
where still agreeing that it's all fun. and no string's or anything is 2 be touched. she told me if any of us get the feeling where going back 2 that place where we don't want to go we stop. i told her good idea
the day after? feel's like it didn't even happen we shared a secret kiss or 2 but other than that. nofthing else happened it was like we r best friend's still.
i bite her again she bite me lol we had fun today even after what happened.
she told me she's gonna have sex with me & other's but with me no comdon's but i've got 2 wear them with other's
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reader, I Waited For The One +, writes (6 January 2007):
I Waited For The One is verified as being by the original poster of the questionLast Night i txted her asking her if she wanted to cum 2 the house she did in her pj's i made a joke " don't worry your not going to be in them long " we went into the bedroom (i live with my mom & family) and we was toy fighting on the bed.
i had her pined down and i said " what would happen if i kissed u? " she said " let's find out "
we kissed and spoke about everything.
after we spoke we kissed again and we made love 2 each over.
afterwards she told me we can do this whenever we want but it's not going to turn into a r-ship what so ever.
i told her kool we made a deal everyone we sleep with we wear protection and with us were not. she told me if she got pregnant we would come to that bridge when we cross it.
for now where like 2 very young teen's running around haveing fun.
yeserday i was biteing her and licking her arm and stuff as a laff. after the sex it's the shame. it's like the sex is all fun for both of us.
we both agree not to turn it into anything else and if any of us feel like where going back 2 the part where we need each over all the time we will stop. i told her kool after the sex i'm hungry for more. maybe tonight? or maybe not that's what i'm being told.
she's happy with the arrangement with us liveing 2gether kissing when where not " shagging " as she put it. and just haveing a general laff.
what is wrong with that arrangement?
nofthing as changed nofthing.
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reader, DeeDoc +, writes (6 January 2007):
 THESE ARE MY THOUGHTS: Where the heck is my shoe?? Is this for real? Ya know what? YOU are not over her. Trust me. If it is over why the heck are worried about her sleeping with other people and giving them the wrong idea? Why should you care? You are extremely worried about Ryan. Why is that? Jealously maybe? In my opinion, you don't want her to find out what greener pastures might provide for her. You want her to stay in your "field" and you be the only "bull" she can ride. Why don't you let her be the judge of who she wants to be with. You are treating sex like you are the only one who can provide her with it because it's just for fun, right? Geeze...Sorry for being so crude, but you've got my panties in a knot. You are giving SEX a bad name. I believe that all involved should stop having it! I feel that everyone should just move on. I hope that you find true love and experience the true wonders of sex. Right now it's just a game. But, all games end at one point. Good luck. Again, forgive me for being so crude. It's just that sex is a treasure and some people tend to treat it like garbage.....tossing it around and dumping it...ya know?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2007): So you want to manipulate your ex into sleeping with you for fun? Why don't you try just saying I only want to have a one off with you?
Really, this whole thing sounds very childish and dysfunctional....why the heck would you move in together and she is even willing to wash the blankets after you have sex on them while on the couch, which is in the living room where you both watch tv and socialize, really this is very weird...sorry to say....it is time to grow up and face the fact that you are not ready to produce kids with a woman you are not married to.(thank goodness one of you had the prescence of mind not to do that)....nor is is mature to live in a house with your ex girlfriend have sex with her for fun and then also have sex with other women under the same roof....
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reader, Farris +, writes (6 January 2007):
 I think she's saying that she doesn't want to have a kid yet. Also, I don't think that she should have sex with anyone she's not in love with, but that's just my personal ideals...
Sex is tricky business when it comes to ex-partners or friends. Even more so when you the person is both, IE. you. Step back a little and look at this from another's perspective, maybe the reason why she doesn't want to sleep with you is because she still wants to be with you. You say she split with you because she doesn't want a child with you at this point, that doesn't mean that she won't still have feelings for you, and sleeping with you would just put her in a really hard position. No strings attached would be a lot easier with someone that she doesn't and never has had feelings for.
I'm sorry, I know that isn't exactly what you want to hear, but I really do think that for the sake of your friendship, you shouldn't sleep with her. After all, it seems to me a little like you just want to take advantage of her feelings towards you.
You say that you told her that she shouldn't sleep with Ryan because it would make him think that she wanted a relationship with him. I would give you the same piece of advice. You shouldn't sleep with her because it would make her think that you wanted a relationship with her.
I just hope you can really put her best interests first when it comes down to it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2007): This sounds like a mess! Why are you moving in with her? She's your EX gf. You should both be living your own lives - separately.
Nor should she sleep with Ryan just because she's horny.
You really should re-think this whole thing - especially moving in together
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