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A lot of people ask if I'm from India... just to clear things up, I'm not. I'm not Indian, I just really liked that song by Aerosmith when I first made this account. I've never been to India. I'm not even an Aerosmith fan, really, but I really liked that song at the time.
I've been with my fella for 14 years, married for 10. We have two cool daughters and a pretty cool life that involves lots of adventure, art and laughter.
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How can I give this girl a Christmas card without seeming creepy?
Q. There's this extremely shy, beautiful and smart girl (we'll call her Pamela) that I've adored for some time now. Since it's almost Christmas time, I have thought of giving her a simple card, but I get a bad feeling that she may not like me back, and ...
A. 23 December 2008: Yayyy!!! The ornament idea was great! How thoughtful. Well, I wish I had a fella like you giving me Christmas cards. You sound like such a catch! ... (read in full...)
Where is that male G-spot that I read so much about?
Q. Hi! So here I am, all grown up and feeling so sexually mature. Love to have sex with my bf, and love to try everything I feel like. But I just don't know this really important thing... and never really thought about it...WHERE IS THAT G SPOT I read ...
A. 17 December 2008: Lying down has always worked best for me... Try playing iwth the outside of him right until he's super close. Then insert, don't be afraid to use your whole finger (and I hope you don't have long finger nails. I keep my index finger trimmed for ... (read in full...)
Her dildos are bigger than I am
Q. My girlfriend and i have been living together for about 3 months now.I recently found 2 dildos she had hidden in our closet.She hasn't told me about them.They are both larger than me in size.What should i do?I dont know how i should feel about it....
A. 11 December 2008: Hello my dear,
Keep in mind that dildos come in many shapes and sizes, but most of them are on the bigger side. It's a challenge to find a 5.5 inch, maybe 2-3 inch around dildo in a porn store nowadays. They're all monsters! So don't think th... (read in full...)
I love my best friend but he's got a girlfriend
Q. i've been best friends with a boy for 2 years, but the trouble is i've been in love with him since we first met, and he's had a girlfriend the whole time, and it's very serious. plus, they're both in a band together, and she considers me her friend. ...
A. 11 December 2008: You continue to carry on this crush in your head and nowhere else. If it is a strong, serious relationship then you should not be interfering. You should be moving on and finding a single fella to think about. It will be hard, but the reality of the ... (read in full...)
Sexy christmas gift ideas needed for my wife for Christmas.
Q. Help, I need a gift Idea for my wife for Christmas, any sexy ideas? ...
A. 10 December 2008: Okay, I had a great idea and did a little research and found out this actually exists...:
http://www.cloneawilly.com/info_choc.php
You can make a milk chocolate replica of your penis!! I mean, talk about sexy, tasty... get her some lingerie an... (read in full...)
I've caught my wife secretly wearing my clothing.
Q. I've caught my wife secretly wearing my clothing. At first she denied she had been doing it. When I pressed her and told her I saw her through the crack in the door of the bedroom she spat in my face. Now she openly wears my clothes around the ...
A. 9 December 2008: Spitting in your face is the problem here. As for wearing your clothes, I wear my boyfriends clothes all the time!! They're bigger, more comfortable. In fact, I'm typing this to you in my boyfriends sweatpants and they are GLORIOUS. Much more ... (read in full...)
What to get my 22-year-old girlfriend for Christmas?
Q. christmas is coming, and i can't think of what to get my girlfriend. we have been dating for fifteen months, we are 22 years old, and we live together. i have done a great job with gifts in the past, for last christmas, valentine's day,...
A. 9 December 2008: Ithaca Chris - seeing you post is always such a little thrill for me, since Ithaca is my all time favorite place.
Get her season tickets to a playhouse. If you are still in Ithaca, best gift I ever got was season ticks to Kitchen Theater, but Hang... (read in full...)
How can I give this girl a Christmas card without seeming creepy?
Q. There's this extremely shy, beautiful and smart girl (we'll call her Pamela) that I've adored for some time now. Since it's almost Christmas time, I have thought of giving her a simple card, but I get a bad feeling that she may not like me back, and ...
A. 9 December 2008: I agree with 'bubbloo' all the way!! If the girl rips it up, WOW. Get far away from THAT crazy girl if that's what she does. That would be tacky and a drastic reaction to a Christmas card.
She'll probably be extremely flattered - cards with a l... (read in full...)
Where is that male G-spot that I read so much about?
Q. Hi! So here I am, all grown up and feeling so sexually mature. Love to have sex with my bf, and love to try everything I feel like. But I just don't know this really important thing... and never really thought about it...WHERE IS THAT G SPOT I read ...
A. 8 December 2008: Hey darlin',
Ahhh, the elusive G-spot on a fella. Well, by getting your finger up in there, you have pretty much tackled the biggest battle. Now, for location. It won't feel super hard to you until he starts to get really, REALLY horny - like, cl... (read in full...)
We're still friends and sleeping together. Why wont he get back together with me?
Q. Hi guys and girls, a bit of advice please, me and my bf split 2 months ago, we are still in contact and sometimes sleep together he dumped me to get bk with the mother of his child and things havent gone to plan with it shes gone bk to her other ex ...
A. 8 December 2008: He really seems to have gotten over you - or at least he's working on it. I think you should start working on getting over this relationship too. He seems to really like you as a person, hence why he wants to hang out and help you find a man. But as ... (read in full...)
He responded to my facebook friend request. Does that mean he is interested in me?
Q. I asked about this situation recently but I went for it and did something about it but I feel stuck again so please help :) I saw this guy on one of my friends' Facebook and I thought he was hot. I sent him a friend request and told him I thoug...
A. 8 December 2008: Maybe he likes you, maybe he doesn't. It's just Facebook, where everyone is cordial and it's harder to interpret what's flirting and what isn't. Maybe ask him if he wants to meet up in person, and then you can feel out what he's feeling a little ... (read in full...)
Any fans of Harry Potter?
Q. One of the questions that I answered on Dear Cupid just sparked my curiousity. I was wondering if any of the other aunts and uncles are fans of the Harry Potter series? Not everyone is a fan of course, but please humor me, because I'm curious....
A. 8 December 2008: Irish!!?!? Leaving us for Gryffindor? And taking your beer with you?!?! My feelings... crushed...
You're welcome back to the house that ROCKS any time.
P.S. Fade, I will never under appreciate Snape - he's my favorite!... (read in full...)
Who do I pick: the guy I'm dating and starting to like or the mean ex who apparently has changed??
Q. Hello. I just turned 21 and am stuck between two guys. The first one (A) and i were going out for 3 years. He took me for granted, was mean to me, didnt have a job, etc. We broke up and the day we broke up i found the second guy (B). He was ...
A. 8 December 2008: New guy!!!
A is old news, ditch him and try out something new and exciting. You're too young to have to go through all that drama and madness. A had his chance, he says he'll change, but will he really?? Empower yourself and stick with what you... (read in full...)
Any fans of Harry Potter?
Q. One of the questions that I answered on Dear Cupid just sparked my curiousity. I was wondering if any of the other aunts and uncles are fans of the Harry Potter series? Not everyone is a fan of course, but please humor me, because I'm curious....
A. 8 December 2008: It's official, I'm a Hufflepuff, followed by Ravenclaw. Guess my friendliness overpowers my cleverness.
I love the Potter!... (read in full...)
Any ideas on what to get him for Christmas?
Q. What should I get my boyfriend of 3 months for christmas?? Im about to be 15 and he just turned 16.. He loves sports but not jus any specific team I dont want to buy him the wrong thing.. What should I do??...
A. 7 December 2008: Tickets to ANY game. If he's just into sports, he'll be into seeing any live game with you. If you get him tickets to a live outdoor game, also get him a scarf (maybe for the team you think he'll favor). Say it's because you wanted to make sure he ... (read in full...)
Any fans of Harry Potter?
Q. One of the questions that I answered on Dear Cupid just sparked my curiousity. I was wondering if any of the other aunts and uncles are fans of the Harry Potter series? Not everyone is a fan of course, but please humor me, because I'm curious....
A. 7 December 2008: I am a Harry Pothead.
I think I'd be a Ravenclaw. I don't know why - I'm just know I'm not brave (I will cry if the spider looks mean enough), I'm not shady (sorry Slytherin, but let's face it), I got pretty good SAT scores, and Hufflepu... (read in full...)
What is acceptable to buy my married teacher for X-mas? We're friends.
Q. Hi I want to buy my english teacher a present for xmas. He's not just my teacher, he's more of a best friend to be honest. He got me a birthday prezzie a while back, so i feel kinda obliged anyways. However, he is married and Im fairly young (...
A. 6 December 2008: I don't think you should give him anything. Write him a nice Christmas card or something, but this relationship is already treading on inappropriate. His wife will raise her eyebrows if you get him any sort of jewelry or aftershave... those are ... (read in full...)
I have never been kissed but now I have to kiss on the stage, any tips?
Q. I am in a school production. I have a few kissing scenes... problem is I have never been kissed. I am ok with a stage kiss and he is also and that is what the director wants but in the play I am a very aggressive character that kisses him. I don't ...
A. 6 December 2008: Hi there,
Stage kissing, as in fake kissing, is really tough. The best thing to do is to just go for it, but if you are both really set on faking then you need to practice together to find out what looks best and feels most comfortable. The best... (read in full...)
What song should I do for my audition and do you have any tips?
Q. well, this is one of those questions that isnt really a relationship question.. but i do need help. well anyways.. in a few weeks, i plan to audition for our school musical. im only in jr high, ninth grade.. and this is my first year being invol...
A. 6 December 2008: I have a deeper voice so for an audition I recently did "Poor Unfortunate Souls" from Little Mermaid. It went so well, because it's a song you can really have fun with and give lots of character.
Pick something that you know and love and practice... (read in full...)
I'm completely put off by my boyfriend snorting cocaine.
Q. HI - I feel let down and have lost all respect for my boyfriend. The other night my boyfriend and I went to a house party, we both had a really brilliant evening. The next morning we went back to the house where the party was and spoke to the girl ...
A. 5 December 2008: Ugh, Cocaine is such a disgusting drug. If he had been smoking the reefer, I could've let him off the hook, but cocaine is a dirty drug and I think you should stick with your gut feeling and let this guy loose. You're young and there are a lot more ... (read in full...)
Is it possible for men to have multiple orgasms?
Q. Hello, I was wondering if the rumors were true? Is it possible for a man to have multiple orgasms? Have any of you experienced multiple orgasms? Does that mean multiple ejaculations, or is it something different? Any information and/or tips and ...
A. 5 December 2008: It's definitely true. I have seen it with my own two eyes. I've seen it in JO porn (I could offer you some websites, but somehow that seems inappropriate.), I've seen it in real life. How it's done, I don't know - it doesn't seem like there's ... (read in full...)
Can my school fax four transcripts to different schools?
Q. I plan on transferring to another college for the spring but I am not sure exactly what college I want to go to. I haven't spoken with an advisor yet because I want to have my mind made up. Is it possible that they can fax my transcript to four ...
A. 5 December 2008: I assure you that colleges send transcripts everywhere all the time. I have been a transfer whore the last few years - I've transferred colleges numerous times and have never had the slightest problem with getting my transcripts sent out. Usually ... (read in full...)
Is he my toyboy?
Q. Hi everyone my question is this who come guys can date younger girls but girls cant date younger guys? I'm having this problem I'm 13 so's my bf but hes in the year below me I feel like we're falling in love we have loads in common and inseparable! ...
A. 5 December 2008: So he's what a year or two younger? When I was in 8th grade, I dater a 6th grader. Yes, I got mocked - and it didn't help that he was literally a foot and a half shorter than me (he ended up getting so tall. He's 6'3 now and dreamy.), but whatever. ... (read in full...)
What's with all my sex dreams lately??
Q. ive been having sex dreams alot lately and i cant even recognize the guys in my dreams, ive never met them before and their different guys most of the time. i do have a boyfriend and he does pleaze me so i dont know whats wrong! heeeeelllllpp...
A. 5 December 2008: Ahhh, sex dreams. Sweetness, you have nothing to worry about. Sex dreams are just dreams - they don't mean anything. My dreams a notoriously raunchy, and my boyfriend loves to make fun of the fellas that get a piece of dream-booty from me. It's ... (read in full...)
Is it okay to masturbate while on your period?
Q. Hey this is more a question for the girls but any help is great! Ive recently started exploring my body and have stated masturbating I was wondering when you're on your period is it still okay to do? Thanks x...
A. 5 December 2008: It's totally okay to masturbate while on your period, just make sure (as you would any other time) that your hands, and fingernails are totally clean. Otherwise, the most you risk is getting a little messy - but if you don't mind, it's completely ... (read in full...)
Is fantasizing about other guys tantamount to being unfaithful?
Q. Ladies! Imagine you were in a faithful relationship when a dashing, debonair, handsome, lean and lithe, sensitive, passionate, caring, tall, good looking, cute man with nice buns, nice smile, deep voice, great shoulders (and what's more he thinks ...
A. 5 December 2008: It's totaly fine. If you make a habit out of that, well, that's just rude. As long as you're giving your boyfriend some nights where he can just be him and not Johnny Depp - I mean, the guy who asked you out - then you're cool. Just never tell him. ... (read in full...)
Is this just an excuse in case he backs out of the divorce before it's final?
Q. My BF of a few months thinks I'm being jealous and moody. His divorce will be final in 2 months, no kids. I get upset because I bring him everywhere with me, invite him everywhere and introduce him and he never does. He thinks its too soon and is ...
A. 4 December 2008: Leave this guy until he is legally and emotionally done with his ex. It sounds like he still is hooked on her, or at least not over her quite yet.
Don't let him drag you around while you wait for him to man up and fix up his life. ... (read in full...)
I always have to have a boyfriend because I'm lonely and unloved if I don't.q
Q. Hi, yeah I'm pretty young and I have this huge problem that affects me a lot and I need some help. I guess you could say that I always have to have a boyfriend because I'm lonely without one and I just don't feel loved. But the thing is...I haven't ...
A. 4 December 2008: You have too much down time. Where has your social life gone to? As a teenager, whenever I felt lonely it was only because I had too much time on my hands to be pining over my crush of the week or watching Titantic for the 35675th time.
Where... (read in full...)
Is this bend normal or caused by masturbation?
Q. im22yrs boy.. i do masturbation dially when i take bath.. now my penis size is 15cm. but it was lightly bending .. is it normal for all boys..or because of masturbation it happens bend...?...
A. 4 December 2008: Being bent isn't weird at all - all guys are different Some lean to the left, some to the right - some have big bends, some slight. Some point straight up to the sky, some not so much.
You're completely normal.... (read in full...)
How do I let her know that I'm diggin' her as way more than a friend?
Q. I've known my best chick friend for 8 yrs now (since sophomore year in college) and I'm completely in love with her! I've never had much luck with the ladies (didn't even start dating til sophomore year of college) but this is one lady I want that ...
A. 4 December 2008: Start with a date, then move on to marriage and babies. While she might want all the same things as you, she might not want them quite as fast. You seem so excited about this lady, but I think it's important that you not overwhelm her or smother her ... (read in full...)
Is my masturbation an addiction or a phase I'm going through?
Q. What`s up guys. I`ve got a question that im really concerned about. Here it goes: myself im 18years old and ive never had sex with a girl and don`t have a girlfriend. So to satisfy my sex appetite, i am used to masturbating a lot. Sometimes i can ...
A. 4 December 2008: 4-5 times a week? Nahhh, you're okay. Maybe if it was 4-5 times a DAY, you'd have a problem.
You're totally fine!... (read in full...)
Can sex or sperm make someone fat?
Q. Hi everyone, at there my question is this. Can Sex or Sperm make someone fat? Or can it make someone increase in hips. Because i argue this with my friends. please help ...
A. 3 December 2008: Nope! If anything, it'll help you lose weight - unless you're having unprotected sex, in which case you'll probably get pregnant and gain 30lbs!
In fact, I just found the raddest thing ever on the web for you - the calories burned for all part... (read in full...)
I want a baby, but I don't know what my parents would say!
Q. hi the thing is im 18 my boyfriend is 21 i have been with him for 3years and i really want a baby with him i understand the responsibility issue and not just the cute baby side. me and him would but we're both worried about what my mum and dad would ...
A. 1 December 2008: By the way, I just wanted to add that I don't think you're incapable of taking care of a child. That's all well and good, but the timing isn't right here. You're still young, you deserve to be able to save for your future and enjoy a little more ... (read in full...)
I want a baby, but I don't know what my parents would say!
Q. hi the thing is im 18 my boyfriend is 21 i have been with him for 3years and i really want a baby with him i understand the responsibility issue and not just the cute baby side. me and him would but we're both worried about what my mum and dad would ...
A. 1 December 2008: Get married or get a puppy. Seriously, a puppy will soothe all of those maternal urges you're getting. I love babies too, so my boyfriend said, "well, not quite yet but HERE have a puppy to name, love and nurture".
It worked. A puppy will poo... (read in full...)
Should I try to ressurect our dead platonic relationship?
Q. I made a friends with a girl, aged 44. I am 49. At first I saw her as a possible girlfriend, but after a couple of dates I realised she wasn't for me: she had too much of a brick wall around her emotionally. She's also a drinker, heavy smoker, and ...
A. 1 December 2008: You need some new friends, man!! If you are really thinking about calling up this alleged "friend" and making amends, you will be making a big mistake. Do you feel guilty that she has no friends? Or are you really lonely and she's all you've got?
... (read in full...)
Do I have a reason to be upset that he contacts his ex when I'm not around?
Q. Not sure if I'm just being jealous or if I have a reason to be upset. My BF who is recently divorced, no kids, shares a dog with his ex. She had him over Thanksgiving and on Thanksgiving Day he waited until I was in the shower to text her to ...
A. 1 December 2008: I'll just say this - I got a dog with my fella. If we broke up and he ended up with her, I would definitely keep in touch with him. It wouldn't be "it's just a dog" situation to me - my I get super connected to my pets.
I would not necessar... (read in full...)
Am I taking his 'manhood' away?
Q. Im an auto mechanic (almost all the commuter's request me) and also fixed everything around the house (like the night table). This really bugs my husband because he says that cant care of me and Im taking his "manhood" away. I mean come on if he ...
A. 29 November 2008: What is with your husband?? He needs to grow up. Why is he so competitive with you? Do you two still have a good sex life? At home, do you make him feel like a man? By that, I mean, you don't call him out on things your superior at that he "should ... (read in full...)
What can I do for my 16th birthday!??!
Q. this isnt a relationship question or anything but i would really appreciate all of your suggestions. so this sunday is my 16th birthday :-) and tomorrow night(saturday) me and my friends wanted to celebrate and party...we love to club but we cant ...
A. 29 November 2008: Pool hall - tons of hot guys, often loud music... then find a diner open all night and go after you're sick of all the hot guys flirting with you and "helping" you with your pool skills.
I did it for my 17th birthday and it was such an awesome ... (read in full...)
Will it hurt the first time even he were to be really gentle?
Q. Would it hurt the first time if he went gentle on me?...
A. 25 November 2008: Even if he's gentle, it will still probably hurt. Maybe not quite as much as if he had slammed into you without foreplay, but it will still be painful. You're still getting an outside intruder trying to push up inside you.
I would wait until yo... (read in full...)
When, where and HOW to propose???
Q. I've been dating a girl for the past year and a half now, we've had time to grow up, fight, cry, laugh and all the other good stuff together and I'm ready to tie the knot but the problem is, I don't know how to do it, do I do it on a holiday with ...
A. 25 November 2008: A long engagement is a great idea... take some time to get to really solidify your relationship and decision to spend your lives with each other. If you feel ready to get engaged and you're positive she's the one, go for it, sweetness. A long ... (read in full...)
I found out my friend's girlfriend used to work in the sex industry! Now I don't know how to react? Tell him?
Q. What a small world we live in. Here is the story. I have a friend, single guy who recently about 4 months ago met this woman, that he obviously likes. Everytime he talks about her he portrayies her as this little angel with so many talents in craft...
A. 25 November 2008: Touché, alright. I see now that you are just the bearer of a overwhelming secret. You feel like your friend is left in the dark about a fact that may render him unable to date her (for whatever his personal reasons may be). You want to tell your ... (read in full...)
I found out my friend's girlfriend used to work in the sex industry! Now I don't know how to react? Tell him?
Q. What a small world we live in. Here is the story. I have a friend, single guy who recently about 4 months ago met this woman, that he obviously likes. Everytime he talks about her he portrayies her as this little angel with so many talents in craft...
A. 24 November 2008: I guess this strikes a chord with me because I worked at a strip club for a year and well, it was an experience for sure. I'm probably the last person anyone would have thought would work at a place like that, and heck - I look back and can't even ... (read in full...)
When, where and HOW to propose???
Q. I've been dating a girl for the past year and a half now, we've had time to grow up, fight, cry, laugh and all the other good stuff together and I'm ready to tie the knot but the problem is, I don't know how to do it, do I do it on a holiday with ...
A. 24 November 2008: I agree that I think it's still a little soon to be popping the question and that you're a little young. A year and a half isn't very long... I'm on year 3 with the love of my life, but we're not engaged yet - just really enjoying the pre-marriage ... (read in full...)
I found out my friend's girlfriend used to work in the sex industry! Now I don't know how to react? Tell him?
Q. What a small world we live in. Here is the story. I have a friend, single guy who recently about 4 months ago met this woman, that he obviously likes. Everytime he talks about her he portrayies her as this little angel with so many talents in craft...
A. 24 November 2008: I think that you should keep this secret to yourself. It isn't your place to blow up her spot - obviously she's really trying to change her lifestyle around and that is WONDERFUL. Maybe she's not ready to tell him yet, give her time to do so. Maybe ... (read in full...)
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