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writes:There's this extremely shy, beautiful and smart girl (we'll call her Pamela) that I've adored for some time now. Since it's almost Christmas time, I have thought of giving her a simple card, but I get a bad feeling that she may not like me back, and if I were to give her the card, she might just throw it away without reading it--or rip it up completely, and she knows I like her. Though I only have her in two classes, we both leave for home after our 12:30 class. I need to know how I can come up and give it to her without being awkward or creepy. I'm even trying to come up with some dialogue, or what I should say to her when I give her the card. Any suggestions? We're both very introverted.
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reader, Lurio Macora +, writes (15 April 2009):
Lurio Macora is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI still want to thank you all for helping me with his problem. It's been months now, but that memory of me giving her the card remains as fresh as if it happened yesterday. Thanks again everyone...
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reader, Jendorset  +, writes (9 January 2009):
Well done.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2008): You are hereby awarded Dear Cupid's prize for "THE MOST BRAVE ROMANTIC GUY OF CHRISTMAS 2008."
Your as brave as the guy who realised his mistake, booked an airplane ticket and followed his girlfriend to Australia, with an engagement ring and a proposal of marriage. He was the winner of Dear Cupid's summer prize for bravery and romance, and he got bonus points for his stupidity in the first place...
A simple Christmas card, very difficult to give, but you did it, you went out and did it and you made her smile. You made me smile too. That took a lot of courage, and brightened up her day, my day and everybody here that is following your story. Thanks for coming here and sharing that with us, and thanks for coming back to tell us how it went..
It's so romantic, just like something out of the movies, who knew a small little Christmas Card could do so much. Thank you, hope your new year is golden.. Blessings.
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reader, Lurio Macora +, writes (27 December 2008):
Lurio Macora is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you very much!
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (23 December 2008):
 Yayyy!!! The ornament idea was great! How thoughtful. Well, I wish I had a fella like you giving me Christmas cards. You sound like such a catch!
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reader, Lurio Macora +, writes (23 December 2008):
Lurio Macora is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAhh...forgot to mention this to all of you:
I gave her the card last Thursday after we had our final, I just barely caught her before she drove off home for the last time this semester, and I simply just gave her the card (I also threw in a little ornament decoration), and she seemed pleased. She smiled as she thanked me so shyly (she may have been blushing also), it was so adorable. Thank you all very much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2008): Guys thanks do much I have almost the same situation and would like to know what to write in the card. I am on the way to Get a card. Please give me some of your suggestions :) Thanks
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reader, Lurio Macora +, writes (10 December 2008):
Lurio Macora is verified as being by the original poster of the questionEveryone's answers are being quite helpful, keep it going. I only have until this Thursday to give her the card, and right now, I'm just trying to find a simple sentence to put onto it. "Merry Christmas, I really hope I'll see you again soon, Lurio." or something of that sort. Thursday's our finals in those two classes and I'm just looking for advice. I'm sorry I had to ask this at the last minute...haha.
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reader, Cheater cheater pumkin eater +, writes (10 December 2008):
Generally if you want to give her the card give it to her. Dont be to shy even though it's someone you like, I say you give her the card and tell her you mean well.
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (10 December 2008):
Write out cards to a few other people and make sure she sees you giving them out. She wont think its weird if shes not the only one that gets one and it will let her know that that you thought of her. When i get christmas cards i always think how nice it is that the person thought of me.
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reader, steaknife +, writes (10 December 2008):
most likely she'll like the gesture. I've liked a girl for awhile and i gave her a bag with some scented candles and a candle holder. she loved it. don't worry about it. but if you are worried, you could do what anonny said and hand out a couple within a short amount of time so that it seems that you arent tageting her.
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reader, SinVA +, writes (10 December 2008):
Say hello in class, whatever you normally do, and when class ends and everyone is leaving or you guys are walking out, give it to her and say 'merry christmas' or 'happy holidays', smile, and proceed. If she stops and reads it there, i guess wait and have a small conversation, otherwise just head on your way. I'm sure she will appreciate it.
To be honest, I would probably speak to her after class, either about the class so far, your final exam, what she is doing over break, and then after a minute or so say something like 'Oh, i almost forgot' or 'i got something for you' and give it to her, makes it seem a little cooler and whatnot. Go for it man! Let us know how it plays out!
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reader, Anonny +, writes (9 December 2008):
Yes - its only a Christmas card! - She'll be pleased you've made the effort!! Why don't you try writing a few others and handing them all out together - then it won't seem like you are targeting her! - You can always write your own private message inside hers!!
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (9 December 2008):
I agree with 'bubbloo' all the way!! If the girl rips it up, WOW. Get far away from THAT crazy girl if that's what she does. That would be tacky and a drastic reaction to a Christmas card.
She'll probably be extremely flattered - cards with a little handwritten note (even if it's just "Merry Christmas, Lurio", but I would maybe give it a little more oomph than that) are so sweet and romantic. Give it to her after class, with a simple "Merry Christmas". If she makes it easy for you to talk to, make a little chit chat, ask her what her plans are fr the holidays, etc. If she is a little nervous and quiet, then leave the note with her and tell her to have a nice weekend.
You'll be fine, your idea is completely sweet. She is a lucky girl!
Happy holidays!
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reader, cherrysundae19 +, writes (9 December 2008):
From my point of view, I think coming up with dialogue ahead of time is not a very good idea. If you think about it your going to be racking your brain about the right thing to say to her, and when the time comes for you to acually do it a totally different thing will come out instead. If you really care for this girl then when you confront her and give her the card what ever comes out of your mouth will come from your heart not previously thought out. Go out and buy a cute card for her minus things relating to love. Something telling her you hope she has a wonderful Christmas and she gets everything that she wishes for. Just enough not to scare her away. If she happens to react bad towards you giving her that card, then wasting your time with someone like that is not for you. You deserve someone who will cherish you for all the little things that you do for them. Women love the little things verses the big things, they mean more to us (well for me they do). I say for sure give it a shot, whats the worst that can happen, she will turn you down. Good luck with everything, I hope it turns out in your favor.
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (9 December 2008):
 I'm sure if she's the nice girl you think she is, she won't rip it up or throw it away. That would be just plain hurtful. And to be quite honest with you, if I was given a card from someone that I knew liked me, I'd be far too keen to read what they'd written on the inside!
If she does react in a bad or hurtful way, then you know that she's a horrible person and you shouldn't want anything to do with her. But I'm sure she'll be very happy to accept a christmas card from you.
After your 12.30 class, before she starts her journey back home , I would just walk up to her, gently hand her the card and say "Merry Christmas" with a smile. Don't approach her too keenly if she is shy, just calmly walk up to her. You don't need to say anything more than that if you're too nervous unless she starts to hold a conversation with you.
You'll be fine, just be yourself.
Good luck and take care, I hope it works out for you :) xx
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