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... Send *asteofIndia a private message | | | *asteofIndia's profile:TasteofIndia here. I'm 33 years old, with my BA in Theater & Psychology. I suppose you could say that I have studied people and how to get into their heads. I've been here on Dear Cupid for well over a decade. I love Dear Abby, Ann Landers, all those advice giving goddesses... when I found this website how could I resist?? (Couldn't.) I love Dear Cupid, love being a moderator and love giving advice when I can!!
A lot of people ask if I'm from India... just to clear things up, I'm not. I'm not Indian, I just really liked that song by Aerosmith when I first made this account. I've never been to India. I'm not even an Aerosmith fan, really, but I really liked that song at the time.
I've been with my fella for 14 years, married for 10. We have two cool daughters and a pretty cool life that involves lots of adventure, art and laughter.
I adore: positivity, theater, llamas, fromage, sweatpants, earrings, and sitcoms. That just about sums it up... |
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I haven't been introduced because I'm black!
Q. I guess I am just needing objective opinions on this matter. I have been dating a guy for about 15 months. We have been living together for the last 5 months. I have 2 children and he is very involved in their life. We are our own family. We do ev...
A. 29 May 2009: Well good! Glad things are going well for you, him and his family. Way to be patient (you have more patience than I ever could), kudos to your good attitude!!
Good luck in the coming months!... (read in full...)
How can I lift my breasts without telling anyone?
Q. my breast are very unattractive My nipples are big and light colored, my left is about a half of size smaller than the right, and worst of all there saggy…..I am only 14 years old so I cant have any kind of surgery and I don’t want to talk to my pa...
A. 21 December 2008: I don't know about a chicken fillet in your bra, but you could try a silicone insert to boost the other breast up so that they match in size. A padded bra will do the rest of the work.
BUT, sweetness, you're so young and you've hardly given yo... (read in full...)
What can I do to get better in our private moments? She said I hurt her.
Q. this is kinda akward but.. well me and my girlfriend have been together a while and she recently "ran me to second base" and when i felt her breast she said it hurt, i wasnt being rough i was gentle, im worried that something may be wrong with.. ...
A. 20 December 2008: Good thought that she may be on her period, or nearing it. My breasts get SUPER tender and I don't like them being touched - heck, they can hardly handle the bra!
Still, be even MORE gentle with them. Don't grab them in handfuls, stroke them wit... (read in full...)
I'm a sophomore, he's a freshman, can I ask him out?
Q. Ok so, Im a girl sophomore in high school and i like this guy who is a freshman and i think he likes me back. Would it be ok for me to got out with him. I asking this because usually its the other way around when guys date younger girls not girls ...
A. 20 December 2008: YES YES YES, you should go out with him. You're the same age!! You're on the same wavelength. If anyone even tries to give you any crap, just say "we're both 15, whatever."
Good luck!... (read in full...)
How can I be more sexy?
Q. I'm not really comfortable with wearing revealing clothes, etc. but how can I look/ seem sexier? Perfume? Wearing my hair a certain way? I'm at a loss....
A. 20 December 2008: When I need to feel sexy, I wear my hottest bra/panty set. Then it's like I have this little sexy secret that I know every guy I talk to would love to know about...
Also, pay attentions to details. If your nails are done and YOU know it, you'll b... (read in full...)
What kind of perfume do guys like?
Q. It's time for me to buy some new perfume. What perfume or scent do guys like girls to wear? Especially guys in their teens through twenties....
A. 19 December 2008: My fella goes CRAZY when I wear "Very Sexy" from Victoria's Secret (it's the red one). Not to mention, when I put it on I feel like a sex kitten. I also really like DKNY's "Be Delicious".... (read in full...)
Guys, what body...?
Q. What body type do guys prefer? Short? Tall? Long torso? Long legs? Thighs? Chest? What's your ideal type? Just curous. ;0...
A. 19 December 2008: My man is in love with booties. He really can't resist the tempting pull of a full and juicy booty. I forgive him for this, as he only actually touches mine, but I know that he's tempted to grab handfuls of badonkadonk. I appreciate the efforts he ... (read in full...)
I haven't been introduced because I'm black!
Q. I guess I am just needing objective opinions on this matter. I have been dating a guy for about 15 months. We have been living together for the last 5 months. I have 2 children and he is very involved in their life. We are our own family. We do ev...
A. 19 December 2008: You know what? I'm biracial (and to people who are closed minded, half black and half white translates to Black) and I've never been a secret from anyones family. I can't imagine BEING a secret, I can't imagine being with someone who isn't thrilled ... (read in full...)
Is it even really a friendship if I can't even talk to her in person?
Q. I happen to really really like one of my friends, or at least I think I did, or I still do, I don't really know. All I know is I had a really deep kind of affection for her, I would always enjoy her company and just generally thought she was a ...
A. 19 December 2008: I think she has done the right thing by giving you the distance you need to get over her a bit. She's been clear that she values your friendship but isn't interested in anything else. It seems like for you, it's a little toxic to be around her ... (read in full...)
Are these feelings of hers just in her head?
Q. Well i have been in this great relationship for 2 and a half years now and everything has been great. We were even engaged. But i had to move away for a few months and now shes met this guy and says its love at 1st sight. She says she still wants me ...
A. 19 December 2008: You're still young, and both of you probably haven't dated very many other people - at least not seriously. She needs to sow her wild oats and so do you. Take a break, explore the world and other relationships and if you come back to each other then ... (read in full...)
Where is that male G-spot that I read so much about?
Q. Hi! So here I am, all grown up and feeling so sexually mature. Love to have sex with my bf, and love to try everything I feel like. But I just don't know this really important thing... and never really thought about it...WHERE IS THAT G SPOT I read ...
A. 17 December 2008: Lying down has always worked best for me... Try playing iwth the outside of him right until he's super close. Then insert, don't be afraid to use your whole finger (and I hope you don't have long finger nails. I keep my index finger trimmed for ... (read in full...)
Bartending fiance?
Q. My 29 year old Fiancee wants to begin Bartending. Should I be concerned?...
A. 17 December 2008: I don't think so. The bartenders I know mostly hate people (seriously, bartenders are tough). If you are worried about her being picked up, I'm sure she'll get real sick of guys REAL fast working at a bar with a bunch of drunk idiots slobbering all ... (read in full...)
Whats a guys fave nail polish color?
Q. ok this is probably a weird question but here it goes. is there any nail polish that guy especially like on a girl ? I know guys may not pay attention to that stuff but I'm going on my first date this weekend and I want everything to be great and ...
A. 17 December 2008: Red is such a foxy color, and YOU'LL be feeling confident if you're wearing something you love. Red is great, but I also encourage you to wear your favorite color, whatever YOU feel hottest in. Trust me, that confidence will rub right off on you.
... (read in full...)
"Rough Doggy-Style Porn"- should I even ask?
Q. My boyfriend and I rarely get intimate, once every two months to be exact. A couple of days ago I found porn on his computer. That doesn't bother me. What bothers me is that it was titled "Rough Doggie Style" and the first few seconds shows a man ...
A. 16 December 2008: Hello,
Well of all the porn you could've found, that was pretty tame and typical. Porn always tries to give itself the raunchiest names ever. And, a lot of fellas have a little porn somewhere on their computer for lonely days when they have urg... (read in full...)
Do guys prefer a thin girl, like size 0?
Q. right so im about an average weight for my height and age but do guys prefer a thin girl or a girl with a bit of weight.do they like girls who are size 0? ...
A. 16 December 2008: My boyfriend likes a girl to have some curves - and I think most guys do. A size 0 girl is a TWIG! Not to say that it's a bad size, if you're shorter and that's just the way your body turned out, it's fine. But it's ridiculously small, and I would ... (read in full...)
Is she pregnant? She's too scared to buy a test.
Q. My cousin stupidly had unprotected sex with her boyfriend 2 months ago in October. Before then, her periods were pretty regular arriving on the 12th, and very heavy. However, a month after the sex she's said to have had her period on the 11th of ...
A. 15 December 2008: She could be, she might not be. Why don't you go out and get a pregnancy test for her (it's not embarrassing at all when you know you're not the one who could be pregnant). Otherwise, she'll have to go to a doctor, which will be much more expensive ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to be 17 and not like sex?
Q. Im 17years old and im not in to sex yet i like snogging my bf and touching him in places i and like to top half but if he take his boxer off in front of me i would probably run my mate is all ways saying to me have you not had sex w...
A. 14 December 2008: I was completely the same way... finally at 19 I found a fella who I did not want to run from when he took off his pants and that's how I knew he was the one. My friends (who were saying "just sleep with someone, ANYONE to get it over with!! It's ... (read in full...)
We don't want this baby!
Q. hie.. my gf is 1 month pregnant.. we dont want to have this baby .. can u suggest me whether she has to go for an abortion or whether by taking some medicines or pills we can get rid of this baby????/ please reply at the earliest..thanx...
A. 14 December 2008: Go to a doctor. If you choose to get an abortion, please do not go to some seedy back alley doctor or take some pills that you've been told may work. Go to a clinic and talk about your options and they'll be able to handle things for you. ... (read in full...)
She's 15, I proposed, she told me to wait..now what?
Q. I'm a 16 years old boy. I like a girlfriend, whos age is 15. I like her more then my life. But i'm not understanding, she like me or not. Once i also proposed her. But she reject my proposal and told me that her decision is not everything. She also ...
A. 13 December 2008: You wait exactly like she requested. She is a smart girl and recognizes that it is far too early for her to be thinking about something as serous as marriage. Please just enjoy your relationship together and talk about your future together, but ... (read in full...)
Do I send a birthday card?
Q. Hi, It's my Ex Girlfriends birthday next week. We were together 3 years and broke up in September this year, I still think about her every day and deep down I know I still love her, is it right for me to still give her a birthday card and write how ...
A. 13 December 2008: A card is a great idea, but a message detailing your feelings is too much. Keep the card simple - the gesture will speak enough without needing to overwhelm her with words. ... (read in full...)
I missed him terribly while I was away, why am I suddenly so distant?
Q. Last week I went away for five days to visit some friends. During those five days, I missed my boyfriend terribly. I cried every night I was away because I missed him so much, and we were always texting or phoning each other. But now i'm back, it...
A. 13 December 2008: Yep. You adjusted. I think it's great that you did... you don't need to lean on your boyfriend so much. Dependence isn't a healthy trait in a relationship. Are you still attracted to him? If you still love him, and all that then I think you just ... (read in full...)
Is there anything wrong with being gay
Q. am im gay for being attracted to a girl who is every thing i wish i was. she has somthing special bout her smile and personality help and is there any thing wrong with being gay ...
A. 13 December 2008: Hello,
As the others have said, I don't think I'm convinced that you're actually a lesbian. Maybe you have a tiny girl crush, but it just seems like you really admire her.
However, there is NOTHING wrong with being gay or lesbian. There a... (read in full...)
Cuddling and tickling do all guys do this?
Q. I have cuddled with lots of guys and they all seem to tickle/rub my arm whilst doing so. Do guys like this or is it just something to do?...
A. 13 December 2008: My guy LOVES it. It actually drives me crazy, I'm horribly ticklish and he starts stroking my arm at night and it wakes me up. I hate it. Sorry, I digress.
Then I figured out that it's him who loves it!! It puts him into this happy, cuddly p... (read in full...)
I Think My Boyfriend Likes My Clothes More Than Me
Q. Since I have an extremely feminine face and body, my boyfriend likes it when I wear girl clothes a lot; things like skirts and dresses. And I'm starting to get the feeling he's more attracted to the GIRL clothes then me. Should I be worried about ...
A. 13 December 2008: I don't think you have that to worry about. Is it just the clothes that he enjoys? He still enjoys your "love stick" or "man meat", yes? Some men really love to do the cross dressing thing... I don't think it's a reflection of any desire to be with ... (read in full...)
Do others find oral sex gross?
Q. I find oral sex totally disgusting! Yes, call me weird. My Bf tries to make me give him a blow job, but i refuse. Am i alone on this? Am i like the only girl who thinks that's totaly gross? I just dont like the fact that stuff gets into my mouth, ...
A. 13 December 2008: Here's the solution, it's what I do. I just don't let him cum in my mouth. I jerk him off to satisfaction. He is good, he always warns me when he's close. It's fun for both of us!
BUT, don't do ANYTHING that you're uncomfortable with, that you... (read in full...)
Tired of my lazy fiance!
Q. I am really tired of my fiance's bullshit. I just asked him to go to the store for us cuz we needed food for the house--boy did he have a fit. he kept laggin about goin, he still layed on the bed n didnt move, i wan on the computer doing my online ...
A. 13 December 2008: Okay, it's more than clear that you need to finish with this relationship. Please don't get married to this man, can you imagine feeling like this for the rest of your LIFE?? You will be miserable, stressed out and exhausted. He may be a nice guy ... (read in full...)
He says time apart will make us appreciate each other. All it does is make me feel rejected and angry.
Q. Me and my boyfreind have been goingout fover over a year now. Recently me and my boyfriend have been spending a lot of time together, and I've loved every minute of it. However a a few weeks ago he said he didn't want to see me as much anymore ...
A. 12 December 2008: If you two are spending 24/7 together, then you definitely need time apart. Unless he has given you a reason to think that his interest in you in dwindling or that he has someone else, you should listen to his thoughts. Time away from each other ... (read in full...)
How can I increase my sex drive?
Q. How can I increase my sex drive?...
A. 12 December 2008: Exercise totally works. You'll be feeling more energetic, but most importantly you're going to be feeling sexier and sexier as your body gets more and more in shape.
Or, try switching birth controls.
As Eyes says, your doctor will be able to ... (read in full...)
Is a man's orgasm more intense when he cums inside his partner?
Q. This a rather silly question but maybe the answer will resolve a dispute between my bf and I. Is a man's orgasm more intense when he cums inside his partner? I've been with my bf for over 2 years. I never refuse him sex. I don't make him wear a ...
A. 12 December 2008: Hello,
I'm a lady, so maybe my view is completely skewed by being on the other side of the orgasm. Firstly, it seems that an orgasm is an orgasm. BUT, finishing inside of your woman seems like a really satisfying ending for guys. Otherwis... (read in full...)
Poll question: What is the most arousing part of a mans body?
Q. Poll(for women/gay men): Whats the most arousing part of the mens body? Shoulders, Abs, Penis, Ass, Back, Legs, Face...
A. 12 December 2008: Most Delicious: Shoulders, hands and face.
Last on the list: Feet, abs.... (read in full...)
What movie can win her heart?
Q. I was want to make a special night for a girl I know. She is into acting, and loves movies. Her favorite genre is Romance, and her fantasy is to live a scene from a romance movie. I absolutely don't know what her favorite romance movie, nor would ...
A. 12 December 2008: Love Actually... Moulin Rouge (so many girls I know swoon over that movie regularly). I love the movie Chocolat, and if she's a Johnny Depp fan, that one is a MUST.... (read in full...)
I am dating a married man. Can his wife sue me for loss of affection?
Q. I am dating a married man. Can his wife sue me for loss of affection?...
A. 12 December 2008: Plexi, I heart you.... (read in full...)
Will first time sex suck?
Q. Hi. I was talking about the fact that I'm a virgin with this one girl, and I told her that I wanted it to have sentimental value when I finally lost it. She said that my first time will suck, and it's not all it's cracked up to be. I'm wondering.. ...
A. 12 December 2008: The first time will not "suck". It might be awkward, and it might not be the most amazing sexual experience you'll ever have, but that won't make it any less special. The beauty of losing your virginity is in the awkwardness, the newness, ... (read in full...)
She keeps thinking she's pregnant, even though we use protection. What can I do!?
Q. Hi, Me and my girl started having sex about 3-4 months ago. Its always great but the big problem is her. We ALWAYS use protection and throughout the whole month she keeps thinking she is pregnant! I tell her not to worry, but she refuses to liste...
A. 11 December 2008: There are many other forms of birth control that can put her mind at ease. You could also double up on the protection - use spermicide as well. Why don't the two of you take a trip to your doctor and talk about pregnancy, what sort of birth control ... (read in full...)
Can anybody tell me if there is any way possible to workout a relationship with someone with a drug problem?
Q. Can anybody tell me if there is any way possible to workout a relationship with someone with a drug problem? I've known this peron for over 30 years and always stayed in touch as good friends. He's had a drug problem as long as I could remember but ...
A. 11 December 2008: I wouldn't waste time finding out. After 30+ years of consistent drug use, if he quits it won't be for long. What he needs in order to quit is a LOT of rehabilitation and an attitude and life change. If he has sought out that in the last 7 years, it ... (read in full...)
Should I call him to appologise or free him and go on with life? I am suffocating without him.
Q. I requested a break for4 some time from my boyfriend by sending an sms to his phone 4 days ago because we quarrel over sex and I am not ready for sex, I am still a virgin and so is he also. I am 20 and he is 26. I found out that I can't cope without ...
A. 11 December 2008: You did the right thing by realizing that he was pressuring you for sex, you weren't ready and you stuck by your guns. You were strong and I applaud you for that. Now, you need to continue with the strength! Make no apologies for doing what was ... (read in full...)
I want more action but don't want to come across as sex crazed!
Q. I'm crazy about a guy who I see from time to time! The thing is we are both backwards at coming forwards and all we do at the end of a date is give each other a goodnight kiss! The thing is he seems reluctant to make a move and I'm too shy (yes - ...
A. 11 December 2008: Next time he drops you off, ask him if he'd like to "come in for coffee", or just invite him over to watch a movie (pick on that has a little bit of sexy action). Any date that starts or ends at home is going to be sexy... provided you make the ... (read in full...)
Does a man have a higher sex drive if he has hair on his chest??
Q. I heard, man with hairy chest has higher sex drive , than man with no hair on his chest. It seem to work in my relation ship, as my husband lost his drive and has no hair on his chest. But I don't know ,if it is a myth , or real? What do you think?...
A. 11 December 2008: Well, the reality is: it's a complete myth.
However, my man has hair on his chest and he has a libido that is completely unmatched to any of the hairless boys I have dated before.
Interesting...... (read in full...)
Should I give my virginty to him in one sided love?
Q. I love my boyfriend. But he does not loves me. He says he just likes me as a good friend. He wants to have sex with me. Should I give my virginty to him in one sided love?...
A. 11 December 2008: Be with someone who wants to love YOU, not just your body. Please don't waste something as beautiful as your virginity to a guy who is not even worth giving it to. He does not deserve it.... (read in full...)
Will having sex with him affect my future
Q. Hi Fiends. As there are many elder, mature and wiser people here.Please help me in deciding what will be good for my future.As right now i can just see my present happiness. I love my boy friend very....... much. He also have the same feelings...
A. 11 December 2008: It depends - are you a virgin? If you're a virgin, you should wait. Your first time having sex hurts and doesn't get better until you've had lots of practice, so save it until you can really enjoy the process of losing your virginity and enjoying ... (read in full...)
Sex with his dad to get a baby?
Q. My husband wants children, and so do I, and we have been trying for a baby, but without success. Nothing we have tried seemed to work. Me and my husband were having a conversation about the issue one night, and trying to think of ways to have chi...
A. 11 December 2008: What a bizarre solution your husband has come up with. Before anyone starts having sex with anybodies DAD, why don't you go to a fertility clinic and have them give you suggestions? Get both of you checked out, see what the issue is.
And I mean, ... (read in full...)
Her dildos are bigger than I am
Q. My girlfriend and i have been living together for about 3 months now.I recently found 2 dildos she had hidden in our closet.She hasn't told me about them.They are both larger than me in size.What should i do?I dont know how i should feel about it....
A. 11 December 2008: Hello my dear,
Keep in mind that dildos come in many shapes and sizes, but most of them are on the bigger side. It's a challenge to find a 5.5 inch, maybe 2-3 inch around dildo in a porn store nowadays. They're all monsters! So don't think th... (read in full...)
Where is that male G-spot that I read so much about?
Q. Hi! So here I am, all grown up and feeling so sexually mature. Love to have sex with my bf, and love to try everything I feel like. But I just don't know this really important thing... and never really thought about it...WHERE IS THAT G SPOT I read ...
A. 8 December 2008: Hey darlin',
Ahhh, the elusive G-spot on a fella. Well, by getting your finger up in there, you have pretty much tackled the biggest battle. Now, for location. It won't feel super hard to you until he starts to get really, REALLY horny - like, cl... (read in full...)
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