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writes: Im an auto mechanic (almost all the commuter's request me) and also fixed everything around the house (like the night table). This really bugs my husband because he says that cant care of me and Im taking his "manhood" away. I mean come on if he wants to fix something all he has do is beat me to it cause I ain't chancing. Whats the big deal. Why he care so much. I wouldn't mind if he actually cooked dinner (for once), Reply to this Question
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (29 November 2008):
 What is with your husband?? He needs to grow up. Why is he so competitive with you? Do you two still have a good sex life? At home, do you make him feel like a man? By that, I mean, you don't call him out on things your superior at that he "should be", do you? If you maybe are (even unintentionally) showing him up in an outwardly embarrassing way in things that he connects to what makes him a "man", then think about the way that you talk to him and show him your handiwork. If you are going to him with the attitude, "HAH, I'm a woman and I fixed this better than you EVER could, pansy.", he's still a baby, but you are being a bully. Somehow, I doubt this is the case, but if it is...
Petina1 had a great idea of giving him some things to do, so that he feels useful. In the meantime, he needs to learn to love your skills - you are an awesome woman and he's lucky to have such a kickass lady!
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reader, MissUnique  +, writes (29 November 2008):
 Hey. Tell him it isn't the 18th century anymore...women can be police officers, firemen (or women, whatever) and all sorts. But don't tell him that, it might upset him :) I would say that Petina1 has suggested something good, just give him a list of stuff to do...a compromise. He probably wouldn't do them inanyways and you can always finish them if he mucks up ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2008): Quite a lot of Aussie birds are 'masculine' so I'm guessing he's a recent immigrant and not used to your ways. Let's face it, even your name is masculine - ok, the feminine of 'Brian', but what non-Aussie ever heard of that? Then there's your chosen job - fucking auto mechanic???
Give him a break and ask him why the fuck he married a 'he-she' in the first place? He really shoulda known what he was getting into. His fault.
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reader, petina1 +, writes (28 November 2008):
 give him a list of jobs that need doing. If he hasnt done them after a couple of weeks, then slowly work down the list yourself. At least give him a chance to make him happy. good luck. hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2008): Yeah it would bother some men that they can't look after their wives.
Personally speaking though, from my point of view he should've known and accepted all this before he married you so he doesn't have a right to be upset.
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