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A lot of people ask if I'm from India... just to clear things up, I'm not. I'm not Indian, I just really liked that song by Aerosmith when I first made this account. I've never been to India. I'm not even an Aerosmith fan, really, but I really liked that song at the time.
I've been with my fella for 14 years, married for 10. We have two cool daughters and a pretty cool life that involves lots of adventure, art and laughter.
I adore: positivity, theater, llamas, fromage, sweatpants, earrings, and sitcoms. That just about sums it up... |
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Is a Christmas gift a sign to a girl that things are starting to get more serious?
Q. I've been dating this girl for about three months now, and we haven't really had any sort of talk about the status of our relationship. I really like her, I'm pretty sure she likes me, and we have a lot of fun together, but I don't want things to ...
A. 18 November 2009: Personally, if you've been dating 3 months and you're sleeping together (or even if you weren't), a little gift would be nice for Christmas. But it really depends on what the gift is to say whether or not it reads "serious relationship" or not. ... (read in full...)
Why do I always drift away in relationships or is it just fate?
Q. I am 14 years of age and I'v only had 2 proper intimiate relationships. Everytime I get intimate with someone, you would think that would bring me closer to that person but somehow we drift apart. I know it's somthing to do with my extreme s...
A. 14 November 2009: I agree with 'anon'. This is mostly just part of being young, being 14 and exploring both yourself, and relationships. I don't think you're frigid at ALL!! And always listen to your body, sometimes it knows better than your mind. Both parts of you ... (read in full...)
Help! I'm afraid to fall asleep when my boyfriend stays the night!
Q. Hi - I have a lot of anxiety problems and I'm afraid to fall asleep when my boyfriend stays the night! - I look awful first thing in the morning and worry my fella will wake and see me! I also snore and I worry my boyfriend won't like it! - What ...
A. 13 November 2009: Well, let's be honest. If you keep this up, you're going to be exhausted. You'll be falling asleep during dinner and mid bed romp.
Men love women first thing in the morning... no matter what you look like. It's the real you, the honest you and ... (read in full...)
Why do we watch our loved ones sleep?
Q. What do you think is the reason why people will watch their loved one sleep? I think it's sweet, but I was wondering why they do that?...
A. 13 November 2009: It's a very intimate time with someone. In my lifetime, hardly anyone has (sweetly) watched me sleep (oh God, at least to my knowledge they haven't). Maybe your parents while you're a baby... but otherwise, only those who are very close to you get ... (read in full...)
We are going to portugal so I can meet his family, but I am nervous!
Q. me and my boyfriend we are madly in love everything is going smoothly. he is now planning to go to his country(portugal) so i can meet his family. i am so scared and i dnt know wat to do. im suppose to tell my family that i am going to a trip with ...
A. 12 November 2009: I absolutely agree with Rebecca. Is this whole thing a lie to your parents? Because, even though I think it's great that you're in love and going to meet the family and getting some travel in, his parents will be absolutely LESS than impressed if ... (read in full...)
Need some thoughful ideas for my guy for Christmas, please help?
Q. My boyfriend is 24 and I dont know what to get him for christmas. I want to get him something that shows I care and put thought into it. I also dont want it to be original but i want it to be something he likes. He loves the redskins and beer lol. ...
A. 11 November 2009: Glad we helped. Just wanted to throw this in... my fella loves the Lakers, so one year I bought a jersey of his favorite player and wore it and nothing else and surprised him with an extra special gift. He went crazy!!! Just a thought...
Happy... (read in full...)
HOw can I control my urge to have a baby?
Q. Im 16 years old and i want a baby! i have previously been pregnant two times and miscarried both, which left me very emotional. i have always wanted to have kids but over the past 6months i have wanted one more and more and it can get emotiona...
A. 10 November 2009: Okay, so I'll skip over my cost spiel, because everyone has covered that. But, I will throw in this:
I love babies. And I've always wanted to have oodles... and someday, I will. But, to curb that urge over the last 4 years, I bought a big box - yo... (read in full...)
He wants to share a hotel room but I worry he'll think I am up for sex and I'm not!
Q. I need some advice, me and this guy I work with flirt a lot and we have never been on a date, we have kissed a couple of times, sometimes at work or at work nightouts. He has always wanted more but nothing serious, my response is - not at work. ...
A. 10 November 2009: I agree with quiet-echo. Just put it out there, so that there can't be any misunderstandings. Be clear and be firm - and if he's a nice guy, a gentleman, a class act - he'll be totally okay with it. And if he gives you any attitude... well, then you ... (read in full...)
Age difference has become a problem - after 5 years!
Q. My boyfriend is 17 years my senior. For most of our relationship, this was never a problem, but lately it has started to really bother me. It has nothing to do with our different interests or anything like that, and he certainly doesn't act his ...
A. 10 November 2009: Well, worrying about what you look like together is one thing. That shouldn't bother you - you've got a great man, so who cares what he looks like?
However, thinking about the future is a totally reasonable, responsible thing to do, and if you d... (read in full...)
Need some thoughful ideas for my guy for Christmas, please help?
Q. My boyfriend is 24 and I dont know what to get him for christmas. I want to get him something that shows I care and put thought into it. I also dont want it to be original but i want it to be something he likes. He loves the redskins and beer lol. ...
A. 10 November 2009: http://www.footballfanatics.com/NFL_Washington_Redskins/browse/partnerid/2444/source/google-redskins-one-word-team-name?gclid=CNeFgaKOgZ4CFQRM5QodL1TvqQ Also, maybe you could also see if there's any "Best of the Redskins" videos? And then, for my... (read in full...)
My boyfriends love of butts makes me insecure!
Q. I have a petite butt, small and a bit flat comparing to most women. My boyfriend said he loves my butt and he can't seem to keep his hands off of it. I'm just wondering why he seems to love my butt when my butt is smaller and not as nice as most ...
A. 10 November 2009: Hey girlfriend, my man is an ass man too... and now, as well as having a sweet badonkadonk of my own (it's no J. Lo, but I work with what I've got), I also do him the pleasure of pointing out particularly bodacious booties. I suspect this is why he ... (read in full...)
Her bf talks dirty to me on msn...is this right?
Q. Dear Cupid, A few weeks ago, my best friend got really drunk at a party and got off with this bloke who has been our friend for ages. The next day at school, they decided to hook up. Now personally i dont think that ts right to go out with someone...
A. 8 November 2009: Definitely don't let this go on any longer. Don't respond to his flirting, and any time he starts up with you, you need to be clear and firm and say, "I'm really not into you. I won't be into you. So I don't want to hear it, and I'm positive that ... (read in full...)
Will she get pregnant even though I wiped the sperm away?
Q. i got spirm on the top of my girlfriends virgina but not in it she used a wipe to get it off straight away will she be pregnant or shouldnt i worry ?...
A. 8 November 2009: She can totally get pregnant this way. No, it's not as likely, but it can most definitely happen. So get a morning after pill and talk to a doctor about some birth control so that accidents like this won't be a problem. Good luck!!
http:... (read in full...)
Can anal sex get you pregnant?
Q. Can you get pregnant if you have sex from the back?...
A. 8 November 2009: Well, technically no. But, semen can leak from the backside and getcha pregnant by dripping into the vagina. And, of course, you aren't safe from STI's... so it's best to make sure that you're on the Pill and using a condom. After all, what's better ... (read in full...)
Are people hiding things they know from me? Does he like me?
Q. I’ve been good friends with my best friend’s cousin for more than a year now. I and he have been very close since the beginning. The past couple of days have really shocked me. I was dismissed one day from school and I said bye to people and he ...
A. 8 November 2009: Maybe they all think that you two would make a cute couple. Maybe they do sort of hope that you guys will get together. I don't think it sounds like a conspiracy or anything, but it sounds like they think you'd be good together. Have you asked your ... (read in full...)
Shouldn't he be on my side?
Q. I’ve been dating this boy Coletun for a month and things were great. This week we barely talked and Friday, finally I called him. He told me he was mad because all his friends were talking bad about me and saying he should dump me because he won’t ...
A. 7 November 2009: Well, this is a lesson well learned. Definitely ditch this guy. He would rather tell the whole school that you broke up than sticking up for you and saying to the world that you two are together because you like each other - not just because of sex. ... (read in full...)
What do you think he meant by the kiss on my forehead?
Q. I finally hung out with a guy that i have been talking to for the last couple of months. i realized i have a crush on him:) when we were leaving he gave me a hug a kiss on the cheek and one on my forehead. i was just wondering what people think of a ...
A. 7 November 2009: I think it's definitely affectionate, but it's either a) romantic affection or b) little sister affection. So, if there are more signs of him being interested - like if he's flirty with you - then I would take it as a really good sign! Whatever ... (read in full...)
Know of a place to get a cute dress?
Q. hey this would be a huge help to me if i can get some answers. does anyone have any websites where i can find a cute strapless dress, above the knee in length. any color, that i can wear for my winter ball. thank you, just reply with any websites ...
A. 7 November 2009: Forever21.com
Wetseal.com
charlotterusse.com
victoriassecret.com
Those are my favorite websites for dresses!!!
Good luck, sweetness!... (read in full...)
I want to have sex on the prom night, what do you think?
Q. I want to have sex on prom night. And just b/c i'ts prom night. I can and i probably will. My b/f is sweet and hot and prom is the perfect time to do it. What do you think? He's coming from out of town and i wanna make it special. any tips t...
A. 6 November 2009: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/ladies--what-is-your-experience-with-sex.html
A similar question to yours... thought it might help!
Good luck, sweetness!... (read in full...)
Can two introverts date and have a successful relationship?
Q. I have a question for anybody that would like to add their opinion.Can two introverts date and have a succesful relationship? I ask because I know that I,for the most part,have an introverted personality.Im usually lost in my own thoughts,or ...
A. 6 November 2009: My parents are both introverts, and it works well for them. When you're in an extrovert-introvert, I would think it would be trickier, because maybe... Extrovert would want to go out, bring their significant other, socialize and party the night ... (read in full...)
Having second thoughts about possibly terminating my pregnancy.
Q. Hi,i can't believe i am 39 and got myself into this situation.Firstly i have a 6 yr old daughter from a previous relationship.I have been dating a new guy for about 3mths and have just found out i'm pregnant.My inital feeling is to have an ...
A. 5 November 2009: You know, I know a lot of women who have kept babies and are overwhelmed with joy everyday they share with them. But, I also know a lot of women who have gotten abortions and have been grateful for their decision ever since.
This decision... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't put effort into our relationship!
Q. [MODERATOR NOTE: This post was edited for grammar only, and to make it easier to read.] okay so my question is why does my boyfriend treat me like he doesn't want to be with me? he doesn't do anything to show me he wants to be with me he only hug...
A. 4 November 2009: So the only way that you know he loves you is because when you try to go, he cries and begs. That doesn't mean that it's YOU he's crazy about or that he's going to change. It sounds like he's afraid to be without you, afraid to be alone. And maybe ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm her brother and not her lover!
Q. Hi all. I'm 22 and I've been in a relationship for about 3 years now. This is my first proper relationship. Shes 19. Things have been okay. But its starting to feel abit like a brother - sister relationship, instead of lovers. Plus the fact ...
A. 3 November 2009: Well, do you know why she's waiting? Is she waiting until marriage? I personally think that you can still keep this relationship hot, even without the sex. Maybe you have gotten into a routine and you're in a little bit of a rut. Maybe you need to ... (read in full...)
We just broke up after a month of dating! What happened?!
Q. ok PLEASE PLEASE HELP!! me and my gf have been going out for like a month now. She just broke up with me, she still has feelings for me... but she said it didnt feel right... in the space of two days she didnt feel right, something wasnt the ...
A. 3 November 2009: Hi, sweet.
She was being honest with you and you have to appreciate that! A month isn't very long, but it's long enough to tell if you're really interested in a relationship or not. But, if you want to try to get her back, you need to give her... (read in full...)
Romantic gift ideas?
Q. Hi All My partner is a little down lately, and id really like to surprise her with something to cheer her up.. something romantic. The problem is, money is VERY tight right now, and ive done most of the things i can think of (massages, flow...
A. 3 November 2009: One day I was having the crappiest day ever, so my fella handed me a disposable camera and told me we were going on an adventure. So we went to a nearby town that we'd never been to before and had so much fun poking around the stores and taking ... (read in full...)
What does a belly-button piercing symbolize? Advice from those under 20.
Q. I’m looking for input from the under-20 crowd here about just how piercings are perceived. My 14 year-old daughter is anxious to get one. The first negotiations were for her nose, but lately it’s been for her navel. I’m old and stodgy, and have...
A. 3 November 2009: Sorry Old Guy, I'm 23 but had to pipe in. My parents rejected the belly-button idea and the instant I turned 18 I went out and got it (and have loved it ever sense). And yeah, I did it mostly to be cute (and because I love earrings), and I wasn't ... (read in full...)
Do girls have a problem with a curved penis? And what skin tone do girls find more attractive?
Q. Hi...i'm 18 years old boy,i have two questions. 1. I don't know why but i have a slightly curved penis.Its very little bent downwards and slightly curved to its left,perhaps its coz of the way i masturbate as i masturbate pressing my penis on...
A. 3 November 2009: Curved penis is totally cool - not a problem, and it has nothing to do with how you masturbate. Penises grow however they grow.
Skin tone, I don't think it really matters. If you look good, you look good. That's like asking if ladies prefer b... (read in full...)
How do I get a No-Strings-Attached Relationship?
Q. Ok without going into the reasons why I want one and the up- and down- sides of it: I want a sex buddy. So how do I get one? I can't (and don't want to) ask exes or female friends. How do I even let a women know that's what I want, without co...
A. 3 November 2009: There's always Craigslist - Casual Encounters. I've never personally tried it, but I've heard success stories from people who have. And at least there you can be straight forward and say exactly what you want without leading anyone on or coming off ... (read in full...)
Is there a foundation to launch a relationship from here?
Q. Hey i thought id give u some news - I met this reali kool and hot girl. But she was reali trashed so she didnt reali remember anything. but we had a reali kool conversation. Anyway, by odd coincidence, my friends from high school happened to meet ...
A. 30 October 2009: What's the link, Brendan?... (read in full...)
I fancy my driving instructor...does he think I'm stupid?
Q. Hey, I've been having driving lessons for a while now (over a year - embarrassing - I was crap at first). My driving instructor has been really supportive... But I really fancy him! I know he's married and I'm engaged but I can't stop thinking ab...
A. 29 October 2009: Whoa, whoa, whoa. This sounds like the beginning of a bad porn with an incredibly drama-filled horrible ending. It seems like this is a sexy situation. You guys are alone in a car all the time, spending quality time, getting to know each other... ... (read in full...)
Ladies: what is your experience with sex on prom night?
Q. I’m going to the winter formal soon. I truely care about my boyfriend . I look forward to a the evening of dressing up etc. the thought of sex has entered my mind. If we have sex on the winter formal night I think it should be with someone like my ...
A. 28 October 2009: I take it all back. Hire this guy to play during your first time and I can't imagine a more sexy situation. ROWR!!!... (read in full...)
Ladies: what is your experience with sex on prom night?
Q. I’m going to the winter formal soon. I truely care about my boyfriend . I look forward to a the evening of dressing up etc. the thought of sex has entered my mind. If we have sex on the winter formal night I think it should be with someone like my ...
A. 28 October 2009: Can I just add, that usually first time sex is not flowers and violins and beautiful. It's more awkward, a little (or a lot) painful and accordions (tried to pick the least sexy instrument... that or bagpipes).
So, if you're planning on doing it... (read in full...)
They're on a break, I'm really taken by her, but I'm worried he'll say "no more other people"!
Q. I am a 29 tear old male, who's been pretty damaged by love. yet, somehow remain consistently open to the prospect. i work 3rd shift 6 nights a week which makes meeting women difficult on top of that most realize off the bat that ill almost never be ...
A. 26 October 2009: I agree with Boo. This is just going straight for disaster, unless you want to be a dish on the side or a booty call. As soon as they break up, you'll be a rebound, or if they get together, you'll be ditched. Like Boo, it feels like you both are ... (read in full...)
Drving test anxiety!
Q. Hi,this isnt a "love" question but im hoping to get some help. My 1st driving test is coming up soon and since i've booked it in i havent had a decent nights sleep because of the worry. Im constantly feeling sick and keep crying about it. Im so...
A. 24 October 2009: I know people who re-took their drivers test 3, 4 times. It's no big deal if you mess up, you just re-take it. I know before mine started, I was bawling in the car waiting for the guy to come. But, then I calmed down, pulled myself together and ... (read in full...)
Pregnant and boyfriend not ready...have you experienced this and can you help me?
Q. I'm 23 and I just found out I am pregnant. My boyfriend, 20- almost 21, is not ready to have a child... For the main reason that he doesn't want to disappoint everyone. His father is a pastor and his parents would be devastated. The people in the ...
A. 23 October 2009: I think you got great advice. I do think that you've been misled about the Abortion pill (not like I'm recommending it, but it's an option and it's out there)
"Future Fertility
According to studies of the FDA (Food and Drug Administration) ... (read in full...)
What kind of flowers and stuff for homecoming?
Q. I need help, again. I need ideas on what color and wat kind of flowers to get for the corsage for homecoming. She is wearing a purple dress(like a normal purple, like the kind markers are) And also, what does the guy wear ? A cordage tooo or what is ...
A. 22 October 2009: All of those colors would go well... but yellow or white would probably be best if you're not positive what color purple she's wearing. Yellow or white are sure things. Go with one of those - when you go to the florist, as to see something in either ... (read in full...)
He told my friends he was going to kiss me. He keeps making up stupid excuses why he hasn't!
Q. My boyfriend is REALLY shy. We've been going out for over two weeks and we still haven't kissed yet. When I text him, we can hold a conversation for hours, but when we are in person he gets quiet and barely talks. He is a year younger than me, and I ...
A. 22 October 2009: Oh sweetness, give the poor guy a break and kiss him first! Maybe it's his first kiss ever and he's afraid that you won't like it or that he'll mess up. So, do him a favor and make the move!! Otherwise, I'm afraid if he tries to do it, he'll pass ... (read in full...)
The due date is coming up and I'm racked with guilt and worry about becoming a Mom.
Q. Me and my boyfriend are due to have are first baby next month (29 days). I should be really happy about this but I'm just not. She wasn't a planned baby, she was a surprise as I have a medical condition. When I first discovered my pregnancy I w...
A. 22 October 2009: Hi sweetness,
I really think that what you're feeling is more normal than you think. Labor lasts for a day or two, but having a child lasts forever. So I actually think you're wise, thinking about this now and processing the reality of what wil... (read in full...)
My mom kicked me out and I have no idea where to go.
Q. Hey, I'm 16 (turning 17 in January) and my mom kicked me out. I don't know what to do because my Dad just got kicked out too (sensing a theme anyone?) and he lives with his mom so there's no room for me. This is the first night so I have no idea ...
A. 21 October 2009: So both of your parents are leaving you to deal with this yourself? Um, your Dad needs to father-up and figure out how to help you. And you could at least crash on a couch or on a floor with your Dad & Grandma for a little bit. I'm sure they don't ... (read in full...)
Why marriage?...in fact...why love?
Q. Reading through pages and pages of questions on dating, love and marriage i just see the huge amount relating to affairs (both mentally and physically), being in love with someone whilst married (perhaps even with children), obsessing over a married ...
A. 20 October 2009: And, of course, we've forgotten to mention the legal benefits. This is a big part of why the gay & lesbian community hate this whole, "well, you can have a commitment ceremony, so why are you so upset that you can't be legally married?" - well, ... (read in full...)
What do girls look for in a boyfriend?
Q. Simple questions to the girls. Pls, consider you re lookin for a bf. And what are the features you ll be lookin for. Everything as a whole,what you girls look for when looking for a boyfriend.put everything you feel like you need in a boy friend. ...
A. 19 October 2009: I love for a funny, thoughtful, smart fella who is comfortable in his own skin. A guy who is polite and respects his family, his peers and me. Every girl is different in what she wants in her fella - for me, I like my guy to be creatively talented. ... (read in full...)
Why marriage?...in fact...why love?
Q. Reading through pages and pages of questions on dating, love and marriage i just see the huge amount relating to affairs (both mentally and physically), being in love with someone whilst married (perhaps even with children), obsessing over a married ...
A. 19 October 2009: Ask Oldersister & CaringGuy are dead on. My view of marriage is that people lack the commitment to work at a relationship. They expect it to feel like violins, fireworks and cupcakes forever and when it starts to slow down or lose it's spark, they ... (read in full...)
Is there a foundation to launch a relationship from here?
Q. Hey i thought id give u some news - I met this reali kool and hot girl. But she was reali trashed so she didnt reali remember anything. but we had a reali kool conversation. Anyway, by odd coincidence, my friends from high school happened to meet ...
A. 14 October 2009: Sorry, that was my girlfriend "A". She is totally trustworthy (all though can't spell a DAMN (hah! Sorry, love.) Anyway, here is my (Tasteo'India's) advice.p /
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I didn't read this as "foundation" advice, so thank you Moderator. Brendan, I do thi... (read in full...)
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