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writes:I've been dating this girl for about three months now, and we haven't really had any sort of talk about the status of our relationship. I really like her, I'm pretty sure she likes me, and we have a lot of fun together, but I don't want things to get too serious and I definitely don't want to give her the idea that I do by bringing up any sort of "where is this going?" discussion.In fact, I'd be perfectly happy not thinking too much about it, except for one little (and I do mean little) thing: can I get her a Christmas gift? As I said before, I don't want to do it if it'll make her think things are at all serious, but even if we weren't sleeping together, I think we would still be good friends, and I do like her enough that I've put some thought into this and have picked out something I think she'd love. So, girls out there: if you were in this situation, would you think of a Christmas present as a sign that things were taking a more serious turn?
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (18 November 2009):
 Personally, if you've been dating 3 months and you're sleeping together (or even if you weren't), a little gift would be nice for Christmas. But it really depends on what the gift is to say whether or not it reads "serious relationship" or not. Jewelry, any sort of electronic, spa day, that all sounds pretty serious. But something smallish, like lingerie (if you're sleeping together), bubble bath, candle, candy, that's a little bit of a lighter gift - appropriate for a casual relationship.
But, I would buy something that you think she'll really like. Because hey - she can interpret it however she'd like, it's the thought that counts!
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reader, old-spinstah  +, writes (18 November 2009):
It depends on the size/cost of the gift. Something small is fine (and may well be expected) e.g - plants, teddies, bubble bath, candles, choccies etc. Jewellry, expensive perfumes, sexy undies etc I would consider to be far more personal and I would consider to be gifts for a more serious relationship
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reader, imogen1068 +, writes (18 November 2009):
 yeah if i was in your situation and the boy brought me a christmas gift i would think things were getting serious but thats just my opinion... and why dont you want to get serious with this girl?
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