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writes: I’m going to the winter formal soon. I truely care about my boyfriend . I look forward to a the evening of dressing up etc. the thought of sex hasentered my mind. If we have sex on the winter formal night I think it should be with someone like my boyfriend – someone special. We are very close and really ready for the experience. what do you think? Ladies what is your experience with sex on prom/ winter formal night? If we have sex any tips to make it romantic like the night itself? any tips to make it about the emotional experience? Reply to this Question
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reader, starfairy  +, writes (28 October 2009):
 Not to take any of the romance away from your first time...But I just wanted to make 2 comments...
-The first time you have sex, it's usually pretty awkward/painful/uncomfortable, it's not usually the beautifully romantic scene you see in movies
-Pre-planned sex is never as good as spur of the moment sex
:) x
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (28 October 2009):
 I take it all back. Hire this guy to play during your first time and I can't imagine a more sexy situation. ROWR!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2009): You didn't metioned if this was your first time having sex, I just assumed you would be losing your virginity to this guy.
If this is your first time, ask yourself some questions. Are you truly ready to take the plunge, think long and hard about this, make sure this is not a decision you will later regret. Also, ask yourself are you doing this only because you feel some sort of pressure (like if you're only doing it because it's something all your friends are doing or if your boyfriend is making you feel as if this is the next level in your relationship)if your answer don't do it. This is something you need to feel ready to do, not because you feel pressured into it.
If you truly believe you are ready and have talked about this with your boyfriend and believe he's the person you want to be your first, I see no harm in making your formal a special night. Whatever you do, don't become a statistic USE PROTECTION!!! Best regards
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reader, tux +, writes (28 October 2009):
 Come on TasteofIndia.. Accordians are so underrated.. they have so much range and are very portable.. The world doesn't appreciate it much... and it can be used for a moonlight serenade.. bagpipes however.. yeah I dont see how those can be romantic..
accordian: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RUCfSiMB_2E
but back to the OP.. If you are ready and he is that special.. listen to a lot of the advice here.. and use protection and be sure you are in fact ready..
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (28 October 2009):
Can I just add, that usually first time sex is not flowers and violins and beautiful. It's more awkward, a little (or a lot) painful and accordions (tried to pick the least sexy instrument... that or bagpipes).
So, if you're planning on doing it on this nice, hoping that it will be the most romantic and beautiful time of your life, you're putting a lot of pressure on yourself, him and the situation and you're bound to disappoint yourself.
Spend a lot of time just naked together, exploring and discovering. That will make first time sex much, much better if you're already totally intimately connected with each others bodies. Put on some music, maybe swap massages, kiss a lot and don't worry if it's not working right. First times are never perfect, and usually don't end in a firework explosion of pleasure. But, they can bring you closer if you enjoy the proverbial scenery of getting there. Have a good attitude, lots of laughter and talk openly to each other.
I think it will be more romantic and more emotional if you do it on your own time and not when every other girl is losing it to some guy in the back of a limo. It's much more amazing when it just... feels right and like the natural next step and when it's on your own day that you can really cherish. When I hear of someone who lost their virginity on prom night, I kind of chuckle because it seems so trite and Hollywood. Even if you wait until the day AFTER the prom, it will be YOUR day and you'll be doing it on YOUR schedule, not some societal norm.
Good luck, sweetness and of course - BE SAFE!!
xx
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (28 October 2009):
Sex on "prom nights" or winter formal...that's in the movies. Just because it's a fancy dance doesn't mean you have to go out with a bang.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2009): Sex on a romantic night like prom night/winter formal night is only ever a good idea if you truely love the person you are with and are ready for sex.
In your case, it could be the perfect night, but dont feel like you have to do it just because it is a romantic night...
But to make it more romantic, you could go to a hotel after if thats a viable option, otherwise, he could bring you roses, and you could have a bath or shower together after the dance, and just light lots of lovely smelling candles and take your time and enjoy eachother.
The biggest advice I can give you is dont rush things just because youre going to have sex, dont focus on that, just let it happen naturally and it will be much much more enjoyable! :)
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reader, Sweety Pie +, writes (28 October 2009):
 Like tux said, you dont have to have sex, but I suppose it will be more memorable.
But remember, its not going to be amazing on your first time.
Just make sure you have a bed, in a place your not going to be disturbed (preferably can stay there all night together) because tbh if you do it and then have to leave its not the most romantic.
And use protection!!
Good luck :)
xxx
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reader, AskLadyJuJu +, writes (28 October 2009):
 well im going to tell you about my prom night....
i went with my boyfriend we had an awesome time a week before i made reservations at a hotel for the night so that we can be more close. ..we went to the prom and we had a good time we danced everything was perfect.. now usually when prom is over people drink or party more afterwards but i didnt want to do that considering the fact that i had lost a couple of friends because of drinking and driving and after parties so i wanted to remain to myself and go to a hotel room to be safe with just me and my bf ... you can try this and maybe decorating it yourself romantically with roses, by checking in early ..however you want to do it ... goodluck and have a great time!!
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reader, tux +, writes (28 October 2009):
I will say one thing.. just because it's a fancy night, does not mean that it has to end with sex...
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