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writes:Hey,I've been having driving lessons for a while now (over a year - embarrassing - I was crap at first). My driving instructor has been really supportive... But I really fancy him! I know he's married and I'm engaged but I can't stop thinking about him. He's always lovely to me and tells me how much I'm coming on. He's never made any advances towards me and flirts a bit if I flirt a bit with him. I never thought anything of it until this week when we were randomly texting in the afternoon and when I had my lesson this morning he seemed a bit on edge and kept looking at me out of the corner of my eye. When I was driving, I mentioned I wanted a tattoo... He said to me as I got out of the car that he reckoned I'd have "a naughty one done in an inappropriate place" then he kind of came behind me and stood really close to me like he was going to put his arms around me... Does anyone think he knows I fancy him? Do you think it bothers him?
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reader, music-girl +, writes (30 October 2009):
music-girl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone for the help xx
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reader, music-girl +, writes (29 October 2009):
music-girl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOoh, I feel so horrible because I really honestly love my fiance with all my heart. I'd never ever cheat on him, ever. But I just get butterflies and tingles when I'm in the car with my instructor - it's awful!
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (29 October 2009):
 Whoa, whoa, whoa. This sounds like the beginning of a bad porn with an incredibly drama-filled horrible ending. It seems like this is a sexy situation. You guys are alone in a car all the time, spending quality time, getting to know each other... he's easily accessible. But, just because he's convenient, supportive, cute and sweet, doesn't mean you both should destroy your relationships for a little bit of lusty satisfaction.
He can probably feel the sexual tension. And it seems like it excites him more than bothers him. And so, I think that you both should stop playing with fire and if you want to protect his marriage and your future marriage, you should switch driving instructors and stop texting each other. This seems like a situation in which a mistake is close to happening... so play it safe and swap instructors. You can keep him in your fantasies, but probably not in your life.
Good luck, sweetness!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2009): It probably makes him a bit uncomfortable because he is only with you for professional reasons, as you are paying him! Please forget about him and pass your test already
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reader, Scarlettxx  +, writes (29 October 2009):
 I wouldn't even begin worrying about whether your instructor knows if you fancy him or not because first I'd be more concerned about the fact that he's married! Fair enough if you fancy him because a lot of the times we don't choose who we like but do keep in mind his wife. I'd advise you not to make any move or give anymore of an inclination that you like him because of the fact he's your instructor and he's married. If for instance he begins to make a move on you it is up to you what you want to do but it's an abuse of his position for him to become sexually or romantically involved with you!Just remember whatever you do if either one of you make a move it does involve moral implications, it could even end his marriage or worse for you he could use you and not leave his wife... It is your life but just think about what you do before you go do it.:)
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