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writes:Hi AllMy partner is a little down lately, and id really like to surprise her with something to cheer her up.. something romantic. The problem is, money is VERY tight right now, and ive done most of the things i can think of (massages, flowers, surprise teddies sent to her work, poems, moonpig cards etc).So im really stuck for ideas... for something original i can do that wont cost the earth.Any great ideas for an original romantic surprise for her would be greatly appreciated.Thanks
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (3 November 2009):
 One day I was having the crappiest day ever, so my fella handed me a disposable camera and told me we were going on an adventure. So we went to a nearby town that we'd never been to before and had so much fun poking around the stores and taking pictures. We got a tacky souvenir and then went back home. We dropped off the pictures to get developed while shopping for dinner, then we cooked the most delectable meal ever and went through the pictures afterwords. A bottle of under $10 wine wine and a movie later, I was feeling awesome. It was a cheap day, but the best one ever.
The best part of the day was just being together and having fun exploring a new place. Time together is a great picker-upper... and it's not about how much you spend, it's about the memories you create. Good luck!!
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reader, Tine +, writes (3 November 2009):
 one of the best nights that ive spent with a partner would be just snuggling up in bed for the whole night with candles and a nice dvd. It doesnt cost the earth and its a romantic gesture, or why not have a candle-lit dinner. Your partner will appreciate that you've made the effort and will love you for it.
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reader, Dr T  +, writes (3 November 2009):
Agree with KC_100 - set up a hotel/restaurant scene for her when she comes home. Dimmed lights, soft music, nice hot bath waiting, candles (every woman I have even been with shares 99.999945 % moth DNA) & perhaps a glass of vino for her while she soaks. Cook a nice dinner (presentation is far more important than the quality of your dish)as KC 100 has suggested with table clothe, flowers, nice music etc.
Things I have done that worked: (when I lived near a beach) got up early and wrote "I love you XXXX" in huge letters in the sand. Then before breakfast took her for a walk on the dunes so she could see it.
Hung a banner (sheet with red marker) from a bridge I knew we would be passing under with the same message.
These cost nothing or next to nothing except a small time investment and worked a treat!
Good luck and enjoy!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2009): i love scented candles to spark a romantic scene. or if you dont want to spend any money make a special dinner for her and you. and nothing beats a good cuddle in bed watching tv.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (3 November 2009):
 I always think the best things you can do for someone is not to buy them a gift as such but show you care by taking some time to do something special for them.
If she is stressed out or feeling down then why not surprise her one night by running a bath with loads of candles and a glass of wine and nice bubbly stuff, so when she comes in from work (or wherever she has been that day) then there is something romantic and relaxing for her.
Or try cooking a romantic dinner for her complete with candles and a nicely dressed table (women like nice table mats, flowers on the table, napkins....all that sort of stuff!).
Being original isnt what is important here, the most important thing should be doing something for her that she will appreciate and make a difference to her. If she is stressed and feeling down then the chances are a cute teddy or flowers are not going to make her feel much better. But what might help is (providing you do live together) if all the washing or ironing is done, or maybe you have fixed that light (insert any broken household fixture/fitting) that has been broken for months. The little chores that she normally has to deal with - if you can take these away and get them done it will really show you care and that you are doing everything you can to help.
Bring her breakfast in bed at a weekend, it really can be something as simple as that! Maybe get up an hour or 2 earlier than she wakes up at the weekend and go buy fresh Croissants (or other breakfast food she likes) and bring her them in bed.
Women really are not that hard to please and we dont need grand gestures or overly romantic gifts to make us feel special. Often the little things mean so much more than big romantic gestures! One of my favourite things my boyfriend does for me is to bring me a nice bottle of wine and some chocolate round to my house when he knows I've had a rubbish day. Or sometimes on a nice day he will look up online what time the sun is setting and takes me down to some nearby lakes to watch the sun set. It costs nothing (apart from 10 mins worth of petrol!) and it is really beautiful! No matter where you live in the UK there is always somewhere green nearby - so depending on whether you live in the east or the west (dont bother with a sunset if you live in the east!) then why not take her to watch the sunset or sunrise at a weekend?
Its bonfire night on Thurs - find a good firework display in your area (often lots of them are free) and go watch the fireworks - they are pretty romantic and you can enjoy being out in the cold keeping each other warm. It will also help take her mind off whatever it is that is bothering her because being out and busy will help take her mind off things.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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