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writes: me and my boyfriend we are madly in love everything is going smoothly. he is now planning to go to his country(portugal) so i can meet his family. i am so scared and i dnt know wat to do. im suppose to tell my family that i am going to a trip with school and the truth, going to his country is ganna to be part of my school work. but wat should i do?help plz. Reply to this Question
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (12 November 2009):
 I absolutely agree with Rebecca. Is this whole thing a lie to your parents? Because, even though I think it's great that you're in love and going to meet the family and getting some travel in, his parents will be absolutely LESS than impressed if they find out that you've lied to your parents. That won't give you a very good reputation in their book, I'm sure. Not to mention, if your parents find out that something's amiss, who knows? They could send the cops after you or something, maybe they'll think you've been kidnapped! And having international police show up at his parents house will be a really rotten foot to start off on.If everything is going smoothly, I would keep it smooth. It is so great that you've got a wonderful guy, a happy relationship and that you're in love, so don't challenge anything by sneaking around. Why not make your family more comfortable with him so that they can enjoy the fact that you're visiting his parents? At least clue them in. You shouldn't be meeting new family while scared to death that you could be found out. That will make the whole experience absolutely nerve-wracking. So, I really think you should build up your relationship between you, your fella and your parents and then have it be a really cool adventure to Portugal. Less pressure. Less drama. Less future drama.Just think - if you guys stay together and all of your parents get together and are chatting over dinner together sometime, and suddenly it gets out that you took this trip behind your parents back... the proverbial shit will hit the fan. So, be careful and try to start this parental relationship off on the right foot. By showing yourself as a responsible, honest young lady... and surely his parents will be impressed.Good luck, sweetness!! :o)
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