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... Send *anniepeg a private message | | | *anniepeg's profile:I am 34, married a second time. My son is 9 years old and 2 cats. He keeps me busy. My hobbies are movies, recreational games like xbox games, darts, badminton and dear cupid of course. I used to play the piano but stopped. I have been here for 6 years. Every year I see myself change. Every day is a surprise, an opportunity for growth while some days are just coasting along wondering what the point is. My relationship views are a mix of traditional values and modern, open minded ones. I still believe in long term monogamy as it feels right to me. Other than that I feel there are too many rules in a relationship that I would like to get rid of. Dearcupid is a source of my learning about relationships. I am too young to form a conclusion of what love is. I guess I will grow old with this site.
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My girlfriend has a SIGNIFICANTLY lower sex-drive than me
Q. I've been dating this woman for 3 years, and I love everything about her very much. All except one thing, she has an extremely low sex-drive. Where I would be content with 1-2 times a week at LEAST, we're currently having sex every 6-7 weeks, and ...
A. 12 May 2012: I don't believe she has low sex drive and then jumped into casual sex and had more times than she could count. She could be exaggerating or even lying to piss you off and to let you know that the sex issue is not her problem but yours. If she ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to tell my mother I broke up with my b/f
Q. How can I tell my mom I broke up with my now ex boyfriend? I had broken up with him once in the beginning of April because I had found him to clingy for me, I told my mom and she called me a lesbian because he was a sweet good looking boy and that I ...
A. 12 May 2012: I would only tell her when you are breaking up for good. Looks like now you are getting fresh air and will get back with him after things calm down. I believe that if you are getting back together to break up again you are not right for each other. ... (read in full...)
I'm 64. Is it normal that I still want sex?
Q. i am a woman of 64 and widowed. i last saw a man in my bed 3,5 yrs ago. i still want love and sex. is this normal. please dont give me moral answers. i know we all need love to the end of our lives. i want sex too. and with love cos i tie sex with ...
A. 12 May 2012: Please don't change your ways because of that 48 year old. He is obviously ignorant and upset that he has been waiting for so long and the only prospect is someone older than him. He doesn't know how young you look, how active you are and ... (read in full...)
The Mother-Lover Theory Understanding The Emotional Needs of Women
Q. The Mother-Lover Theory Understanding The Emotional Needs of Women By Frank Kermit, Relationships A woman can only play one of two roles in a man’s life. She is either his mother or his lover. She cannot be both. When a man addresses a wom...
A. 12 May 2012: I want to feel like a lover every day, not just Mother's day or Valentine's day. This article is condensed and is worth researching each line and its sources. Hopefully good men learn how to stir up passion without being jerks. Women also have to do ... (read in full...)
How do I give up on wanting a man in my life?
Q. Here goes. I have been single for over 13 years and have two teen children. I ended up dating about four years ago. I was in a relationship that lasted six months, but broke up because of communication and sexual issues. I am still friends with ...
A. 12 May 2012: You are not ready to date again, but one day you might be. It's hard to believe only one out of 25 had been a good date. There could be things you are not telling us here. What do you think about the sex and communication issues? Were they still ... (read in full...)
Why is he being friends with me, out of guilt or is there still love and a longing to be with me?
Q. i met a guy from lebanon on the internet 3 yrs ago. we met on an age gap dating site..hes 17 years younger than me on the internet 2 yrs ago. im 43 hes 26. hes catholic and unconventional and we had a passionate two year relationship talking every ...
A. 11 May 2012: Realistically what could this relationship come to? His parents will be alive for many years so he is not going to abandon them and move to London. He wants to be in touch with his parents more than once a week on a basis so it is foolish of him to ... (read in full...)
Help me figure out this drama involving my girlfriend's roommate.
Q. Hi, this post could get long, however I would appreciate it if you guys could help me. This situation is absolutely horrible, and I don't know what to do. I've been going out with my girlfriend for just under 2 years (Anniversary on the 15th of t...
A. 11 May 2012: I am just curious how much this girl would charge for one night there. It is your girlfriend's house too she should have a say about guest rules. That's something to be determined before moving in. I just don't understand how your girlfriend could ... (read in full...)
Am I a bad friend? Should I let go of this one?
Q. I have a friend that I had a brief liaison with but she ended it and we decided to be friends. This was about a year ago. At first things where ok. I struggled with feelings and had my moments because she really hurt me. But I am better (well I ...
A. 11 May 2012: It doesn't seem like she met another man, because she invited you to go to a gig in July. It is very clear that your feelings are still very strong and you want more than friendship. She saw through this also. She would have been kinder to just drop ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend disrespectful and controlling?
Q. Do you think my boyfriend is disrespectful and controlling ?. He is much older than me. Yesterday, when i was at his house, he was angry and he said " you act like a teenage autistic girl ". I have never been diagnosed with autism, so i don't know ...
A. 9 May 2012: Disrespectul yes but not controlling. I would say he is socially inept and he blurts out words he regrets later. He forgets that you have trouble moving around and he is expecting you to be just like others. The way he talks he is looking for a ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend says he loves me yet is always insisting that he has to put up with "so many of my problems".
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for over two years. We don't live together, but he spends the night some, and he does little to help me around the house because it is not "his place". He is 35, I am 41. I have been married before, and have two ...
A. 9 May 2012: He loves you in his own way but you have many disagreements on relating. You go back because you thought you couldn't get any better men. It is better to be single than to have a person there watching TV, ignoring you while you clean the kitchen. ... (read in full...)
We spent a lovely couple of hours together I got hooked and then he never contacted me again
Q. Dear Agony aunt. On a night out a couple of months back, I met a boy who I fell for literally from the moment I saw him (as cheesy as it sounds). We hit it off straight away and he wouldn’t leave my side for the rest of the night. He mentioned tha...
A. 9 May 2012: It is not uncommon that people break up and make up later, within days or weeks. It should be odd to you that he just broke up but is suddenly keen and cheerful? No, he's just putting an act covering his loneliness. He's faking happiness until he ... (read in full...)
She has a boyfriend, are we friends with benefits?
Q. I met this girl at a resort on february.She was definitely made from heaven.I asked her out but she was not interested and told me to be her friend instead.Since then,we've been having fun,going out for dinner and she visit me almost everyday.She ...
A. 9 May 2012: If she is made from heaven I don't want to go there. It is really simple, stop cheating with her. You amend her problem by stopping yourself being the problem. Is this what friends do? Help each other cheat? Her problem is that she has no empathy. ... (read in full...)
Why did my ex say we were back together and then move in with another woman?
Q. My ex-boyfriend and I split up last March and decided to take things slow last October after being broken up for seven months. While taking to me on the phone, he stated to me that he was no longer a single man and I asked him who he was with and I ...
A. 9 May 2012: He is playing you and the woman he is living with. He's not taking things slow, he quickly found a rebound at the same time keeping his options open. When he said he is no longer a single man, he didn't expect that you still wanted to be with him. ... (read in full...)
Do I tell a mate that I know he slept with a girl I was seeing
Q. Question.... I met a girl about 5 months ago. She was in a loveless marriage, had random affairs etc. We used to tell each other what we were upto etc... It was very sexual. Anyway we ended up catching up for little sessions so to speak. Anyway ...
A. 9 May 2012: She is not your girl and or a girl anybody should be seeing except her husband. There is nothing proper and nothing to trust in an affair. Do not fool yourself that this is more than an affair. If you tell your mate that you know what he did he will ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend avoiding me, what am I doing wrong?
Q. Dear cupid I feel for the past few days my bf is avoiding me. I know after 2 years relationship, i am not expecting him to text me or call me every few hours. But i do expect him to listen and talk to me when we are together. He is not payin...
A. 9 May 2012: Real love begins when the infatuation period ends and when both partners still decide to pour in love into the relationship. Some people are not wired for this kind of relationship. They feel like when they don't feel the butterflies anymore the ... (read in full...)
I'm unsure if my boyfriend is over his ex or not
Q. Dear Cupid, My current boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year. There have been a few things that have happened lately that have made me wonder if he is over his ex or not. I will write out the clues and would be able to tell me your opi...
A. 9 May 2012: He is not over her. He is only telling you they never loved each other so you won't leave him for this reason, crushing him the same way his ex crushed him. The past relationship didn't make any sense. It was toxic, there were trust issues, the girl ... (read in full...)
I believe in body language, but can't decipher his!
Q. I am a big believer in body language reveals peoples true feelings. thing is i have been seeing this guy for a good few months now and he is confusing me. his body language can be distant at times then affectionate. for example when we are in bed he ...
A. 8 May 2012: It's the body language when you are outside that counts. Some men don't like public displays of affection but at least he should be missing you in between seeing you, and not just call you when he needs sex. It's been a few months and you haven't ... (read in full...)
Is this normal, that I'm missing my parents so much? They're just on a 2 week trip!
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm really bummed out and i feel ridiculously lonely. My parents have been planning a 2 week trip to Italy for the longest time and they've been so excited to go. Well they finally left this morning and the day is dragging on and ...
A. 8 May 2012: I think it is possible to feel like that if this is the first time you are on your own. It's a sudden change and you are adjusting to it. It's hard to believe though you had never been in a summer camp? There are many good things about being in a ... (read in full...)
How should I have acted when I found out girlfriend had one night stands before me?
Q. in my previous relationship (recently ended) i got really annoyed when i saw people that my girlfriend (at the time) had sex with (always friends with benefits/1 night stands) (i was her first proper boyfriend) i would always get in a mood and go ...
A. 7 May 2012: You can't help what you feel. Rather than changing about how you feel, my advice would be, next time you date someone, make sure she is someone outside your circle, someone quiet and unassuming and doesn't use facebook. ... (read in full...)
How should I have acted when I found out girlfriend had one night stands before me?
Q. in my previous relationship (recently ended) i got really annoyed when i saw people that my girlfriend (at the time) had sex with (always friends with benefits/1 night stands) (i was her first proper boyfriend) i would always get in a mood and go ...
A. 7 May 2012: You can feel whatever you want. At times I can be reactive but a lot of times I am non chalant about everything. When something shocks you there is no time to think about how you should react, you just react anyway. As you grow older fewer things ... (read in full...)
I need the followup text to the girl I met! Help!
Q. Last night was my first time at a nightclub in LA and a girl came up to me within my first 5 minutes of being there and asked if I'd like to come dance with her friends (it was one of her friends bachelloretes party) I complied and she started ...
A. 7 May 2012: A nightclub is not a place I would expect a relationship to happen. She probably ground a few more guys that night and gave her number to them. Maybe the last guy she met jumped her already. You are already worrying that you are going to mess it up. ... (read in full...)
How should I have acted when I found out girlfriend had one night stands before me?
Q. in my previous relationship (recently ended) i got really annoyed when i saw people that my girlfriend (at the time) had sex with (always friends with benefits/1 night stands) (i was her first proper boyfriend) i would always get in a mood and go ...
A. 7 May 2012: You can't go back time and change your reaction. Just understand that people have different sexual views. One night stands can be mutually enjoyable, as much as it can be cheap and violating. Getting angry is not going to change my view. When you ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend said "he's the boss of me, not me the boss of him!"
Q. Hello, I have a boyfriend we have been together for 2 and a half years hes and have recently hit some problems and we broke up for about a month, but after some talking we got back together. But yesterday he got annoyed at me for something ...
A. 7 May 2012: There has been some arguments about boundaries of what he should do or not do within a relationship? Do you think it is the same problem that made you break up last time? I have no problems with being a submissive woman but the man has to be ... (read in full...)
Is 20 too young to be a dad and support a family?
Q. Hey, My story is long, its like a fairytale still waiting for a happy ending. Me and my girlfriend meet randomly at the new york subway last year, me from scandenavia and shes a carabieen raised in england. We dind know anything about eachother at ...
A. 7 May 2012: Just to clarify because your flag says you are in the States but Scandinavia is where you live and plan to live for the rest of your life? It makes it easier that both of you are in Europe at least. The thing that questions me is that asking about ... (read in full...)
How to I get my point across to my g/f about her drinking without upsetting her?
Q. A little backstory: Because of family history and other reasons, I do not drink. I don't tell others not to drink (though I may try and limit when I can tell they are going overboard). Last summer, my gf went on a trip to a foreign country. Up to ...
A. 6 May 2012: Tell her parents. She is still acting like a child and you should not be her father. Let her parents handle it. I don't care if she is of legal age. I am assuming her parents are paying for her education and her car. If I were her mom I would ... (read in full...)
My FWB doesn't want a relationship but he gets jealous if I'm interested in another guy
Q. Hi everyone I'm not sure what to do about this situation I have been in a fwb for 14 months I have three men asking for a date with me I met one last weekend which seems really nice but the trouble is I don't want any of these only my fwb he does ...
A. 6 May 2012: It will be the same as if you didn't have your FWB, if you don't like a guy, turn him down and don't accept another date. When you said you only want your FWB, does that mean you are happy with the limitations of the relationship or are you waiting ... (read in full...)
Is there hope for my (recently) ex and I? He's separated, with kids and unsure what to do without them
Q. A guy I used to work with a few years ago separated from his wife Jan/Feb 2011, almost 1.5yrs ago. In Oct 2011 he asked if I'd like to go on a date. We did and it went well, we got to know each other romantically and became very close, quickly. He ...
A. 6 May 2012: There is no rebuilding and sorting out until he is happy with the divorce and custody arrangements. He either divorces her and get joint custody but he had made his life a mess by moving out and having affairs with women and the only thing he could ... (read in full...)
Why does my science teacher follow me?
Q. When I'm in school, my Science teacher keeps following me. He's in his early thirties and asks me to stay back after school to talk about my grades. He looks me in the eyes all the time. I get good grades, I do all my work and I don't fancy him or ...
A. 6 May 2012: He is being subtle enough to be able to fantasize about you but not obvious enough to risk his job. You are so young I wish you could stay innocent as you are but you are expecting honest answers here. Would you be bothered knowing what's in his ... (read in full...)
If a man is in a committed relationship, why would he take a ladies number?
Q. If a man is in a long-term committed relationship, and goes out to a bar with his friends, if he chats with a lady and she gives him her phone number, shouldn't he say "no thanks, I have a girlfriend" instead of putting the number in his pocket? ...
A. 6 May 2012: Maybe he thinks it is easier to just put it in his pocket than to say no to her. Or, they are social networking and there is no need to announce to people that he is taken unless she is making flirtatious gestures like winking and touching a little. ... (read in full...)
I don't think he's attractive but I accepted a date and now I feel forced to go
Q. please don't read this and assume i'm a horrible person, but I met this guy not long ago and he's asked me out on a date. The things is, when I was out the other day he was there to and you think I would be happy to see him, or get that feeling ...
A. 6 May 2012: It is just a date. Men and women suffer a 50/50 chance of getting rejected. You are not a bad person for not feeling anything. There are differences between not feeling attracted yet, feeling he's more like a brother than a lover, feeling he's ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend said that she has had a larger past lover than me?
Q. About a month ago I did what I know I should never do: ask about past lovers. I pried and pried, of course hoping to find that I was her best lover, beating out all the rest. Of course, as everyone knows, little good can come from this vain and na...
A. 6 May 2012: You are better than the 8 inch guy because it's too big for her and it hurt. Your girlfriend did not say he was the best. This was your interpretation. Your relationship has potential to be long term and you have many years to explore your bodies. ... (read in full...)
I still yearn for this guy and I'm married!
Q. I am in desperate need of an honest opinion about a situation that has been ongoing for 9 years that I can’t tell anyone about! WARNING – This is possibly the longest post ever! Here's the story, for anyone who may care enough to read through ...
A. 6 May 2012: All you wanted is acceptance of what you are experiencing and nothing else. What if your husband understands this and is not upset by this, maybe it's a good idea to tell him. It could bring you closer together because as soul mates you should not ... (read in full...)
I no longer love my boyfriend and have met somebody else.
Q. so a little about myself I am 20 currently pay for everything on my own and ive been taking care of myself since I was 18. I have a puppy.and a fish. NOW for the issue..... ive been allowing my current bf to live with me. he is my highschool ...
A. 5 May 2012: Find out why your boyfriend is unmotivated right now, and see if it is just a phase or is he using you. Ask him how you can remain attractive to him if he has no ambition. Tell him you expect him to pay bills or he has to go. Say you don't want to ... (read in full...)
My possessive boyfriend said I smelled like sex!
Q. I spent a couple hours getting ready before going over to my boyfriend's house. I showered, did my hair and make up, and put on perfume. After I got there, we sat in the living room and he said, "Can I say something kind of weird?" And I said of ...
A. 5 May 2012: He didn't know he was being disrespectful. Do not let this behavior continue. Tell him you do not want to answer his questions and when he makes comments about guys doing this go you just go home. Only visit him again when he promises not to do this ... (read in full...)
I still yearn for this guy and I'm married!
Q. I am in desperate need of an honest opinion about a situation that has been ongoing for 9 years that I can’t tell anyone about! WARNING – This is possibly the longest post ever! Here's the story, for anyone who may care enough to read through ...
A. 5 May 2012: Nuisance being that you think about him, him not being a suitable partner yet you can't get rid of him in your mind all these years. Ironically Alan had done nothing wrong except occupy your head and won't go.
Now I understand that crushes coul... (read in full...)
How do I address this question with my FWB without making him jealous?
Q. Hi I am in a bit of a difficult situation and would really appreciate any advice you people can offer I am in a fwb I thought we were together properly for a few months but he told me he didn't want a girlfriend so I evetually got my head around ...
A. 4 May 2012: All you have to do is not contact your FWB guy for a while and he will get the point. You don't owe him any explanations and considerations. He is not interested in hearing your new conquest. If you are dating and want to be exclusive with your new ... (read in full...)
Ex wants someone who looks like me - is she still hung up on me?
Q. I signed up to an online dating agency and saw an ex of mine on there. We broke up 3 years ago but she had described me as her ideal date! Right down to body type, hair and eye colour, personality traits Do you think she might just have a type or ...
A. 3 May 2012: Having a preference for a type doesn't mean a relationship would work out with that person. She narrows her choices down, to start with. It would only be a bonus if she gets all the size, eye color and personality together in one person. I have a ... (read in full...)
We are remodeling our house and its causing problems, what shall I do?
Q. My husband and I have been remodeling the home we share for the past 3-4 years. Nothing major; we're not knocking down walls, just re-carpeting, did some tile work in the bathrooms, got new kitchen cabinets. We haven't been obsessed. In fact the ...
A. 3 May 2012: I know the obvious answer would be to call him out about the affair, but what good does that do, without obvious proof, and what's the next step when he denies?
He is getting busy to avoid dealing with you, because he is hiding the fact that he is e... (read in full...)
I still yearn for this guy and I'm married!
Q. I am in desperate need of an honest opinion about a situation that has been ongoing for 9 years that I can’t tell anyone about! WARNING – This is possibly the longest post ever! Here's the story, for anyone who may care enough to read through ...
A. 3 May 2012: What makes the feeling linger is that there is unfinished story. That is the reason why people date others knowing fully well that the relationship would not work out, because feelings are so strong and can't be ignored. It really would have been ... (read in full...)
What's wrong with me? I love her very much!
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 3 years now, I love her very much and I know she loves me, she is beautiful,loyal,kind, everything I could ever want, she is the only girl I have ever had sex with, whereas she has had 4 boyfriends previous and 3 ...
A. 2 May 2012: I don't know how her relationships ended but her numbers see to suggest that she can get with someone easily and then end the relationships, then start off with another one again. It makes you feel like if you are not up to standard you would be the ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend will not face his depression, how can I help?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for over 2 years. I love him more than anything and I know he loves me too, despite issues he has had in his past that make it hard for him be in love with anyone. He's depressed however, and won't talk to anyone about ...
A. 2 May 2012: He is able to talk logically and he thinks about other people. He is able to function in daily life and fake a smile. He does not have clinical depression. He does not want to talk to a professional. You have to trust him on this. If a depression is ... (read in full...)
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