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writes:Hey, My story is long, its like a fairytale still waiting for a happy ending. Me and my girlfriend meet randomly at the new york subway last year, me from scandenavia and shes a carabieen raised in england. We dind know anything about eachother at the time, not age nothing, but we feel in love it was love at first sight and we got together right at once. The age difference that we dind know anything about is big, she is 13 years older then me. We had a it great, life was amazing full of dreama and love. Things changed as i after months together started asking questions about her past, as reflected to trumatic memories comming up from childhood and her teenage years as was a very bad story, were she experienced a lot of bad things. She someone connect me with does feelings, her life seem to collaps and the girl she used to be positive and great become someone that struggle to get out of bed. She lost all drive for everything and all joy for everything. I been blaming my self for months, wish i could turn back time, and i should ask or push her to tell me things. I dont know why i did. The memories reflected to me, all this negativity reflected to me made her leave me.Even dough we love eachother more then anything, we are soulmates. Well the story doesnt end, to weeks after we split up, well shes living in england and im in scandnavia i get i message that shes pregnant. This is 7 weeks after we last saw eachother. But then now, im 20 years old, and she is 33 maybe in her late to have kids.I love her with my life, and i know i want to be with her forever, well know its sounds dumb because this is what every 20 year old is saying. But there is just so much more to this. I know shes the one, i knew since i spend my first to hours with her. Im working now, and planning to start studing, she doesnt have a hob since she works as a actress. I dont know what to do,we both want to keep this child, but she need stability and money, somthing i dont know if i can give her in my age. We split up, it was the most painfull feeling in my life. I hope we end up together again. But then i so confused. Guess the readers of this is as well. But if you are anything you would like to feedback on please give me some adivice. Is 20 to young to become a dad, and support a family?
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (7 May 2012):
 Just to clarify because your flag says you are in the States but Scandinavia is where you live and plan to live for the rest of your life? It makes it easier that both of you are in Europe at least. The thing that questions me is that asking about someone's past should not cause depression in a person. We have curiosities about how people grew up and if she does not want to talk about it she has a right to keep quiet. It seems like she is blaming things on you and making an excuse to leave the relationship. For what reason I don't know. Sorry I would ask her for a paternity test. People do not simply split up because one person is asked about a past, unless you are criticizing her choices in life, belittling her instead of being understanding and accepting. It is very young for a 20 year old to become a dad. Whether this relationship works out if the child is yours you are still responsible for paying child support.
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