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writes:My ex-boyfriend and I split up last March and decided to take things slow last October after being broken up for seven months. While taking to me on the phone, he stated to me that he was no longer a single man and I asked him who he was with and I then said, are you with me? He said yes. I was very happy to be back with him. After awhile, we did have a few fights here but we remained together. Eventually, he began to stop contacting on a regular basis which infuriated me. I asked him if he wanted out or was seeing someone else which warrant no response from him. I later find out that he is now living with another woman. I don't know if she is his girlfriend or not, but it wouldn't surprise me if she is. At this point, I'm over him but I just want to know why did he tell me we were on if he wanted to see other women and why didn't he bother telling me he wanted out? Am I right to believe that my relationship is over with him even though he refuses to say that we are no longer together? This is the second time he's done this to me. When we had broken up last March after I had to move out due to some unfortunate circumstances, he never formally ended things with me by telling me he wanted be single again. I just don't get him at all and will not waste my time on him again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI just found out today that he's moving to Virginia with his girlfriend and that she's pregnant about 3-4 months at that. This baby will be only 13-14 months younger than our own daughter who will be a year old this and she's the third woman with whom he has a kid with. Smh. I don't get why I even wasted my time on him. My only guess is that I was motivated to make things right with the man I loved so much and so we could raise our daughter together. We weren't together at the time of her birth and I did feel bad about it initially. He's aware that I know everything. I should have left him alone and let his cheating ass behind. Cheaters don't ever change and I stupidly believed he did. I hope I can successfully seek child support from him, but I don't know where exactly in Virginia he's moving to. What a coward and a waste of space he is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2012): got to say janniepeg right. Some men - most men can't be alone.Rebound relationship to build his sagging confidence. He was leading you on to keep his options open.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (9 May 2012):
 He is playing you and the woman he is living with. He's not taking things slow, he quickly found a rebound at the same time keeping his options open. When he said he is no longer a single man, he didn't expect that you still wanted to be with him. You guys were on a different page there. He felt flattered that you still loved him so he said yes, after he promised the other woman a relationship or something. Maybe he was a wimp to tell you no fearing that it would hurt you. All that did was prolong the pain and confusion. I have a feeling he doesn't really love the woman but is happy that the woman loves him. It is his problem saying no to people that's creating this mess. You are right to believe it is over. There is no room for wishy washyness in a relationship.
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