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writes:Dear cupidI feel for the past few days my bf is avoiding me. I know after 2 years relationship, i am not expecting him to text me or call me every few hours. But i do expect him to listen and talk to me when we are together. He is not paying attension to me at all, he does not have any problems at work or with friends. I feel that he is getting bored with this relationship. His prev relationships always lasted for less than a year. This is the longest relationship for him.I love him a lot, i am not smothering him with my attetion and love. I give him his space, wont call him or text him when he is with his friends.I dont know what im doing wrong here, pls help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2012): Why don't you ask your boyfriend if there is a problem as you feel he has been distant lately?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2012): women get a sense of significance from their relationships (talking, relating). men get that feeling from work or being sucessful in other areas.Men generally have no idea what makes a women feel good mentally. He may think there is nothing wrong brcause you are not complaining. With men you have to explain exactly what you want and how you want it. Jannipeg above is right too
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (9 May 2012):
 Real love begins when the infatuation period ends and when both partners still decide to pour in love into the relationship. Some people are not wired for this kind of relationship. They feel like when they don't feel the butterflies anymore the relationship has run its course and they are on the hunt for the next excitement. The ones who will stick with you for the long term are the ones who do not fall out of love. These are the keepers and are worth the wait.
If a long term relationship is what you are looking for, you have to make sure at the dating stages the guy would not do this to you. You ask him questions such as his philosophy towards relationship, like does he believe in long term relationships and marriage. You did nothing wrong. With every relationship there is a learning curve. Now you know what kind of men you should look for before you get in a relationship. There is no trying to figure out what you want, trying to see if you can tolerate this or that. You figure all this out at the dating stages.
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reader, coders877 +, writes (9 May 2012):
 you are doing nothing wrong. I only see my guy every week end. He has a weird thinking also. Have you tried talking to him. If I were in your shoes I would just text little message like thinking of u, or what cha doing, or hows your day or evening going, or just simply have a good one sometimes this little text message breaks the ice
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2012): Maybe he's scaried he might love you or maybe he don't know if he wants to be with you honesly you should txt or call ask him to come over or meet him somewhere go on a date and ask him what's up! That's all I can really think of for you but either talk to him or move on not much more you can do! But wen u meet up do something exciting you no he would love anything you can think of you haven't done in a while with him that he loved do that! Hope all works out for you
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